Soul mate

[bikernanfromdownunder]

A Search led me to this forum: I am a (recent) widow, and saved by the Grace of God.
My husband died in August of cancer.
I live in Australia, I have had to move house as we sold our farm and Dave died before settlement. I have 4 grown up wonderful kids, two live o/s and 5 grandkids.
I ride my own motorcycle.
I have lost my husband of 33 1/2 years, my best friend, my soul mate, and the hardest one; the one I was hoping to retire and grow old with.

 

[JeanR]

I lost my husband last year when I was also 50. I do feel cheated. We had our children young with the idea that when we reached this age, we would have time for each other and we would grow old together. Now, I'm alone. My children are all in their 20s and are wonderful. My grief counselor advised me that the kids would only get on with their lives if they saw me get on with mine. I've tried to do that. They are doing fine, but I'm not. I try to be brave in front of them, but I feel so lonely and isolated. At times I feel like I would like to have someone in my life to talk to and have dinner with, but nothing more than that. The thought of "someone else" is just too overwhelming. I don't know if I will ever be ready for that. For now, I'm just trying to deal with the silence and the solitude.

 

[Augustina]

*puts my arms around you and hugs you* May God comfort and give you peace. Sorry for your loss..

 

[InHisCare]

Just today I was sitting with my daughter at a restaurant. All I could focus on was this older couple who were both in their seventies. They looked like they had been married forever. I thought how hard it would be for one of them to lose the other. My husband and I were married for only twenty years. I do feel cheated not being able to grow old with him. Since you have a passion for motorcycles, maybe you could join a Christian riding group. It might be hard at first. I know I stopped taking walks at first because it made me miss the walks we used to take together. But now I walk and I take my dog with me, so it's not so lonely.

Take Care & God Bless

 

[bikernanfromdownunder]

...when my mum died 21 years ago I used to see women out with ther mums and think that wasn't fair, now its couples everywhere. older than me. I still think about my mum that way, so older couples will be much harder.
I do go out with my daughters and thank God for them.
Friends are good, cheer me up but don't see the way I really feel. I do belong to a (very supportive) club and ride with them, its for over 40's.
I babysit my 11 months old grandson often and get a lot of joy from him, I had taken a lot of photos of him with his grandpa.
...we knew he didn't have long, but is that supposed to help?
There was a wedding , 2 engagements and a baby brought forward so he would be there.
Thanks for your kind words

 

[BeanMak]

I send my prayers up for all of the new widows! I lost my husband when I was 39. It has been 12 years since he died. In that time I have raised my 2 sons and done many wonderful things with wonderful friends. Sometimes the second year is harder than the first. In the first, you try so hard to be "alright" and to get through each day, and the second year it seemed like nothing was going to be alright. But time does help. I will never forget him, and I have shed my share of tears at the things that he has missed over the years.

I just recently became engaged to a wonderful man. Life does take strange twists sometimes

 

[PraiseHim1]

Hi,
I am not a widow,my daughter lost her husband of 28 yrs.This 12-15-07. She has four children 3 has families of their own. The youngest one will be going away to college in Sept.She is trying to hold up, I told her when every she fells like crying,cry,it is part of the healing process. I live in Phila,Pa and she live in Delaware, which is not far.I am greiving for my son in-law,in my own way.He was loved in my family.I am really greiving for my daughter, because I am not there with her.She did go back to work, which is good.Myself and her other sisters and brothers visit her weekly.But I am still worried about her.I guess that is being a mom.

 

[JeanR]

Your daughter is fortunate to have you to support her. Even if you don't know what to say, you are there and she will always remember that. I also live in the Philadelphia area, outside of the city.