Sooo many questions

[thenewageriseth]

Is there something wrong with me that I scare people away? Like I might be soo loyal and faithful and they might abandon me anyway? This happened to me once, involving a workaholic so-called best friend of mine, who got all the glory for her grades and the spotlight...so, anyway, is there a REAL problem with clinging to people I admire or wanting to hang out with a lot or is it the person themselves?

Also is it more easier to keep track of each other (K.I.T.) in smaller towns than bigger cities? Example: My cousin lives in Peoria, IL. a smaller city than Chicago and her friendships are abundant. Is it easier to make friends in smaller towns? Or maybe Christian sororities?

 

[artjack]

There is something wrong with us all, no one is perfect. It is when we tink there is noting wrong with us we get it wrong. be happy in the knowledge you are not the only one.

 

[AllTalkNoAction]

People are fickle, some like living in big cities cos they like to "look around", "play the field", flirt . . with jobs, ideas and people. Then they "settle down" and move to a small town and do what they've decided they want.

But I'm sure there are more focused people in your city, 1 quality friend is better than 10 part-time friends.

 

[Yamialpha]

Is there something wrong with me that I scare people away? Like I might be soo loyal and faithful and they might abandon me anyway? This happened to me once, involving a workaholic so-called best friend of mine, who got all the glory for her grades and the spotlight...so, anyway, is there a REAL problem with clinging to people I admire or wanting to hang out with a lot or is it the person themselves?

Why would it be your fault if someone abandons you when you're truly loyal and faithful? It seems to me that they're making the mistake of dropping such a good friend. Yes, one can be overbearing, but that's a common human mistake. Ultimately if that's the case then it's a blessing to you that she abandons you since a sincere friend wouldn't abandon you simply for being overbearing.

 

[thenewageriseth]

Why would it be your fault if someone abandons you when you're truly loyal and faithful? It seems to me that they're making the mistake of dropping such a good friend. Yes, one can be overbearing, but that's a common human mistake. Ultimately if that's the case then it's a blessing to you that she abandons you since a sincere friend wouldn't abandon you simply for being overbearing.

Thank you so much. You are right. It can't be my fault. My dad did say that it's hard to keep friends these days becasue everyone wants something out of the friendships...everyone thinks about themselves....

 

[PorcelainHeart]

There something wrong with them not you, PM me sometime I can tell you how many times I been hurt on CF and real life. People are just so into themselves they can't show true kindness.

 

[Yamialpha]

Thank you so much. You are right. It can't be my fault. My dad did say that it's hard to keep friends these days becasue everyone wants something out of the friendships...everyone thinks about themselves....

Your dad is exactly right-people go into a friendship with the attitude of "how can this relationship work for me?". This isn't your fault-through your loyalty you can be confident that someday you will find a true friend that returns your loyalty. That will be a friend for life that you can always depend on and you'll feel honored to assist them.