Something That bugged me for the past 5 years..

[Kristijan]

Hello everyone I am honored to be here on this forum, I would like to ask for advice regarding something that I had trouble with mentally and spiritually for the past 5 years..

I used to be a really bad liar very arrogant/lazy guy in the past before turning myself into the world of Christianity.. I can even say that I considered myself Atheist back then.. I lost trust in a lot of people. Friends and Enemies alike..

Some people never changed their views towards me, for years I worked hard and I managed to get my life together thanks to God,I changed myself in total and I am a totally different person to what I once was back then when I didn't had any faith into me. Yet I can't forgive myself for some of my past mistakes that led to people still look at me like that for all of these past years and so-fort.. Sometimes I feel like I simply can't just go forward and tell people hey look im changed, because it never does work that way.

I am looking for an advice on how I can forgive/forget these ugly situations and people that had such a huge negative impact on my life..

Thank you all and God Bless

 

[Broken Fence]

Hello everyone I am honored to be here on this forum, I would like to ask for advice regarding something that I had trouble with mentally and spiritually for the past 5 years..

I used to be a really bad liar very arrogant/lazy guy in the past before turning myself into the world of Christianity.. I can even say that I considered myself Atheist back then.. I lost trust in a lot of people. Friends and Enemies alike..

Some people never changed their views towards me, for years I worked hard and I managed to get my life together thanks to God,I changed myself in total and I am a totally different person to what I once was back then when I didn't had any faith into me. Yet I can't forgive myself for some of my past mistakes that led to people still look at me like that for all of these past years and so-fort.. Sometimes I feel like I simply can't just go forward and tell people hey look im changed, because it never does work that way.

I am looking for an advice on how I can forgive/forget these ugly situations and people that had such a huge negative impact on my life..

Thank you all and God Bless

I understand where you coming from. I also have a hard time forgiving myself for past mistakes. My mom says that you are a new person in Jesus. You have to love your neighbor as yourself. You have to forgive yourself to love your new person. Jesus died to set you free. Look at things this way, those bad things you did, brought you to Christ. That is why you knew you needed a saviour.

God bless.

 

[eleos1954]

Hello everyone I am honored to be here on this forum, I would like to ask for advice regarding something that I had trouble with mentally and spiritually for the past 5 years..

I used to be a really bad liar very arrogant/lazy guy in the past before turning myself into the world of Christianity.. I can even say that I considered myself Atheist back then.. I lost trust in a lot of people. Friends and Enemies alike..

Some people never changed their views towards me, for years I worked hard and I managed to get my life together thanks to God,I changed myself in total and I am a totally different person to what I once was back then when I didn't had any faith into me. Yet I can't forgive myself for some of my past mistakes that led to people still look at me like that for all of these past years and so-fort.. Sometimes I feel like I simply can't just go forward and tell people hey look im changed, because it never does work that way.

I am looking for an advice on how I can forgive/forget these ugly situations and people that had such a huge negative impact on my life..

Thank you all and God Bless

If you have confessed your sins to the Lord ... He has forgiven you ... and part of that is repentance/repenting ... and that is to turn away from sin ... and the Lord helps us with that ... but ... we will and do mess up here and there.

God has unconditional love for us. Even tho we sin he still loves us. Some put it as God loves the sinner but hates sin.

Change occurs over time .... best to just live your changed life ... and in doing so people will notice. That is ... they will see you are a totally different person.

May the Lord bring you peace to your mind. Amen

 

[Gregory Thompson]

Hello everyone I am honored to be here on this forum, I would like to ask for advice regarding something that I had trouble with mentally and spiritually for the past 5 years..

I used to be a really bad liar very arrogant/lazy guy in the past before turning myself into the world of Christianity.. I can even say that I considered myself Atheist back then.. I lost trust in a lot of people. Friends and Enemies alike..

Some people never changed their views towards me, for years I worked hard and I managed to get my life together thanks to God,I changed myself in total and I am a totally different person to what I once was back then when I didn't had any faith into me. Yet I can't forgive myself for some of my past mistakes that led to people still look at me like that for all of these past years and so-fort.. Sometimes I feel like I simply can't just go forward and tell people hey look im changed, because it never does work that way.

I am looking for an advice on how I can forgive/forget these ugly situations and people that had such a huge negative impact on my life..

Thank you all and God Bless

Forgetting is hard. God has a way for sure since when He forgives our sins, He remembers our iniquity no more.

Memories use emotional impacts as a battery to keep triggering the memory or reactions within the memory - or so I've gathered from my own application.

I would advise to ask God to dwell within your emotions, especially where these bad memories pop up. When sins arise from the emotions, confess them, according to 1 John 1:9 this is supposed to help, and works for me.

Since the emotional being is alive like you are, there's no quick fix. All transformation within takes time.

 

[Albion]

Some people never changed their views towards me, for years I worked hard and I managed to get my life together thanks to God,I changed myself in total and I am a totally different person to what I once was back then when I didn't had any faith into me.

Yet I can't forgive myself for some of my past mistakes that led to people still look at me like that for all of these past years and so-fort.. Sometimes I feel like I simply can't just go forward and tell people hey look im changed, because it never does work that way.

We who want to be helpful have to be careful when making judgments on scant information, but it sounds to me that you need to let your friends know that you have had a serious change of mind about all of this and that it's because you came to Christ awhile ago.

The key thing probably is to be subtle. Do not come on like the proverbial new convert who wants the whole world to know he's found the Lord!!

Just drop little bits of information here and there over time, sometimes just agreeing with something another person says that you would not have been likely to do in your former life. And do not act like you're lecturing anyone or that you just made the change. If you are as reluctant to "just go forward" as you say, this may be the best way to approach it. Given what your friends remember of your old ways, even small doses of a "new you" will not fail to be noticed by them.

God Bless and best wishes for success.

 

[Kristijan]

I understand where you coming from. I also have a hard time forgiving myself for past mistakes. My mom says that you are a new person in Jesus. You have to love your neighbor as yourself. You have to forgive yourself to love your new person. Jesus died to set you free. Look at things this way, those bad things you did, brought you to Christ. That is why you knew you needed a saviour.

God bless.

Thank you for the wonderful words, may I ask.. Lets say someone from my past meets me on the street, and yet give me bad words or a bad expression towards me about who I once was in my past.. How should I respond to that? How should I respond to those insults?

 

[Kristijan]

We who want to be helpful have to be careful when making judgments on scant information, but it sounds to me that you need to let your friends know that you have had a serious change of mind about all of this and that it's because you came to Christ awhile ago.

The key thing probably is to be subtle. Do not come on like the proverbial new convert who wants the whole world to know he's found the Lord!!

Just drop little bits of information here and there over time, sometimes just agreeing with something another person says that you would not have been likely to do in your former life. And do not act like you're lecturing anyone or that you just made the change. If you are as reluctant to "just go forward" as you say, this may be the best way to approach it. Given what your friends remember of your old ways, even small doses of a "new you" will not fail to be noticed by them.

God Bless and best wishes for success.

Thank you,

God Bless

 

[Broken Fence]

Thank you for the wonderful words, may I ask.. Lets say someone from my past meets me on the street, and yet give me bad words or a bad expression towards me about who I once was in my past.. How should I respond to that? How should I respond to those insults?

I would be Christ like. Take everything in stride. If you get a chance to share your testimony, do so. God can use your story to save people.

 

[Albion]

Thank you for the wonderful words, may I ask.. Lets say someone from my past meets me on the street, and yet give me bad words or a bad expression towards me about who I once was in my past.. How should I respond to that? How should I respond to those insults?

The Christian thing to do...and the most effective reply for anyone...would be to be charitable about their abruptness. Say "Yeh, wasn't that the truth?" while shaking your head or be straightforward (but still lighthearted) by saying something like, "(name), I do feel sorry about that now, but I've put those days behind me," neither apologizing big time but not making light of it either.

Not everybody is guaranteed to respond the same way and they may be skeptical, so see what the reaction is and be patient; this could take a little time.

 

[Anthony2019]

I'd say let go of the past and move on.
God thinks you are amazing and His view of you is never going to change. Move on with your life and enjoy the wonderful future you have with Him.
During our life we will meet all kinds of different people. Some will remain as friends and other's won't. The people that are important to us are the ones who will always continue to stick by us. In spite of our weaknesses and strengths, they will still value us for who we are. At the end of the day, they are the friends that really matter.

 

[angelsaroundme]

The demonic/negative forces want us to see the worst in ourselves and others. But God's mercies are new every morning (Lamentations 3:22-23) because God wants us to have every chance to be the best person we can be, to not be held back by the past, for our own sake and for each other, so we can build a better future.