Someone please help me out?

[BusyWoman2007]

i need someone to help me deal with my husband abuse. sometimes i don't know if he lyng or telling the truth. He just got home after being in jail for 4 monthes and he hanging out at his friends house. He say they watchin the game but i don't know if thats true or not because he been gone for 3 hours. before he went to jail he was on cocaine. I don't know what to think or feel please someone help me figure out whats going on? Thank You!

 

[UnitynLove]

I will pray for you.

 

[Buttermilk]

Is there some one in real lif you could share your fears with?

 

[Catherineanne]

i need someone to help me deal with my husband abuse. sometimes i don't know if he lyng or telling the truth. He just got home after being in jail for 4 monthes and he hanging out at his friends house. He say they watchin the game but i don't know if thats true or not because he been gone for 3 hours. before he went to jail he was on cocaine. I don't know what to think or feel please someone help me figure out whats going on? Thank You!

If he has just come out of prison, then he may well spend three hours watching the game with a friend. There is no reason to imagine that anything is other than what he says.

Give him the benefit of the doubt, and try to understand his need not to be restricted or constrained for a while. It will take him some time to readjust and to find his feet.

But if you find cocaine at any time, then show him the door, for both his sake and your own.

 

[AngelDove1]

Hi,

sorry to hear what your going through.
No one needs to live a life of hurting hands, mental,or drug abuse partners.

If he starts to use again,n you find out.

Al-anon,n open AA meetings would help you understand n
give you some kind of direction.They also have abuse homes
shalter you can stay in.

State can help you with this.For your sake,n if you have children,
get some help.Don't stay in denial,n thing this will get better.
It gets worse.

Love yourself enough to get the help.

Change comes,when your willing to make that
first step to better your life.

Praying for ya

i need someone to help me deal with my husband abuse. sometimes i don't know if he lyng or telling the truth. He just got home after being in jail for 4 monthes and he hanging out at his friends house. He say they watchin the game but i don't know if thats true or not because he been gone for 3 hours. before he went to jail he was on cocaine. I don't know what to think or feel please someone help me figure out whats going on? Thank You!

 

[mebby02]

Thats hard why don't you have a serious talk with him tell him how you are feeling right now. Just be calm with him don't rave at him just talk in a gental matter
God bless you

 

[UnitynLove]

Thats hard why don't you have a serious talk with him tell him how you are feeling right now. Just be calm with him don't rave at him just talk in a gental matter
God bless you

Yes.

 

[true2onelove]

I read your post, and finally felt that there was someone out there who may understand what I go through. It is hard to sum up in just a few sentences how the overall addiction process has broken down the trust in your marraige. But for me, it goes without saying. I read between the lines of what you said, and felt what you were feeling. I know that fear of wondering what your husband is really up to. I know how manipulative they can be in their addictions. I have no real answers for you, and I wish I did. The fact is that I am searching for some myself. If you want to know more of my story, I posted it on the "Women who Struggle" thread. The best thing I can tell you at this point is to do what you and I both are trying to do. Reach out. Find people to talk to who UNDERSTAND your pain. It drives me crazy that everyone, Christians alike, always jump to the conclusion that I need to leave my husband. In some cases that may be the solution, but if that is not what you desire then God may want healing for your marraige. It all depends on how committed you are to listening to His voice I guess. If you ever want to talk, please do. I could use a friend. Also, remember that God is still in the business of miracles and can breathe life into the dry bones of your marraige. I will be praying for you.

 

[Fable]

Just give him the rope...if he is guilty, he will hang by it, if not, then everything is good. Seriously, would you want your husband breathing down your neck if you wanted to take a shopping trip. I don't think you would, so don't be that person -- just let him do what he does, it will all come out in the laundry either way.

I hope all works out for you, and the only reason I say anything is because I was certain I had to baby sit my husband for a long time, until I saw that I didn't care for him baby sitting me when I wasn't even doing anything wrong.

Bottom line, if you have something to hide, it will find you, and there is no reason two adults have to keep tabs on each other. As they say, live and let live.

Peace!