Social Circle Got Smaller

[Korean-American Christian]

UPDATE - Saturday March 25, 2017

My friend who unfriended me on Facebook 10 days ago sent me a Facebook friend request last night. So I friended her on Facebook again. What is going on??
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Well...it's official.

My social circle just got smaller.

A friend that I have known for 3 years unfriended me on Facebook....and it seems that she wants to cut off all contact with me.

Last year (December 2016), I spent about $3,000 to donate new English-language Christian children's books to Pilgrim Book Mission, the non-profit organization that my friend runs.

I also assisted my friend with all of the state document filing so that Pilgrim Book Mission could become registered with our state as an official non-profit organization.

Suddenly, my friend wants to cut off all contact with me because she thinks that she has a bad influence on me....

I admit that it was unwise for me to spend thousands of dollars in order to donate new books to Pilgrim Book Mission....but it still hurts that my friend wants to cut off all contact with me.

When I donated the books back in December, I thought that I was doing a good thing, and I thought that I was helping people....

I am the only person I know with 20 Facebook friends....

 

[Tigger45]

Just be yourself and real
Friends will stick with you through thick and thin.

 

[Korean-American Christian]

Just be yourself and real
Friends will stick with you through thick and thin.

Thank you. I agree. True friends will stick with me through thick and thin....

 

[Emli]

I have zero Facebook friends, so that is no big deal. (I also don't have Facebook)

That is a strange reason for cutting off contact with someone? Was it your choice to spend the money? Did anything else happen?

I don't think that it is unwise to donate your money, unless you overspent and cannot pay your bills. God loves a cheerful giver, and Jesus told us to give away all of our money.

 

[Korean-American Christian]

That is a strange reason for cutting off contact with someone? Was it your choice to spend the money? Did anything else happen? I don't think that it is unwise to donate your money, unless you overspent and cannot pay your bills. God loves a cheerful giver, and Jesus told us to give away all of our money.

Yes, it was my choice to spend the money. Nothing else happened.... My friend blames herself because I spent so much money to donate new books. She feels that she should have stopped me. But I really was a cheerful giver, and I have no regrets regarding my actions (donating new books).

 

[Emli]

Yes, it was my choice to spend the money. Nothing else happened.... My friend blames herself because I spent so much money to donate new books. She feels that she should have stopped me. But I really was a cheerful giver, and I have no regrets regarding my actions (donating new books).

Maybe she had some other reason for it. Sometimes people go through bad times in their lives, and act strange.

You have to remember that Jesus was also betrayed, by all of his friends when he needed them the most.

Sometimes we go through these kinds of trials in life, just to get closer to Him. I've lost friends too. My best friend since 11 years back stopped talking to me suddenly last year, for reasons I don't even know. It was really hard, but Jesus was there for me. He will be there for you as well. He is a friend who will never leave you. Remember that!

 

[Korean-American Christian]

It was really hard, but Jesus was there for me. He will be there for you as well. He is a friend who will never leave you. Remember that!

Thank you

 

[NothingIsImpossible]

Eh their loss, not yours. When my friend moved only a few cities away they instantly stopped talking to me. Not even a email, message or call to say anything to me. I was sad at first but realized they will lose out on a good friend and they can make whatever excuse they want for it but they choose to end it, not me. Also its funny your friend says you may be a bad influence, because the fact she cuts friends out of her life like that shows shes a bad influence that influences people to cut others off easily.

If it makes you feel better I really only had 2 friends on FB. Then I added some from a forum I went to. List went up to 12. But I never really talked to them. Eventually they all unfriended me. My friends list is at 288. I honestly don't know 99% of them lol. When I married my wife in her home country of Philippines all those people added me to their list. I still only really contact with like 20 people. I'm fine with that though. I've become content with being a introvert and shy.

 

[Spiritlight]

This is the best way to explain friends and family I can think of. When you go to hospital or need a loan of $100 cause your down on your luck your friends will be there. Your family is another matter, but it may not really be what you were born into.

Social media is frequently just obligatory acceptance of a friendship offer often and not a real friendship.

Theres nothing wrong with only having a few contacts especially if they are only the closer friends.

Hope that helps.

 

[Jeshu]

Remain faithful to your friendships even if friends are not, even if they cut you off you don't have to agree with that action and can remain their friend at least at heart.

Love goes through the fire before it is called true.

 

[Korean-American Christian]

Eh their loss, not yours. I was sad at first but realized they will lose out on a good friend

Yes, my friend is the one who is losing out. Her loss, not mine

 

[Left]

My social circle is so deflated, it became a social oval.

 

[Korean-American Christian]

When you go to hospital or need a loan of $100 cause your down on your luck your friends will be there. Hope that helps.

Spiritlight, that does help. Thank you

 

[Korean-American Christian]

Remain faithful to your friendships even if friends are not, even if they cut you off you don't have to agree with that action and can remain their friend at least at heart.

Love goes through the fire before it is called true.

Thank you

 

[Korean-American Christian]

My social circle is so deflated, it became a social oval.

I have a social oval too

 

[Spiritlight]

Spiritlight, that does help. Thank you

Some people come into your life for a time then go, not everyone is meant to be your friend.

There is 7 billion people in the world so dont fret about the one, move on but leave the door open because theres lots more waiting to meet you.
Just be thankful for the shared experience for a time and not remorseful for what you think things should be with relationships.

 

[JesusIsMyTicket]

I want to say my entire life I have always been the outcast, and it was usually for something ridiculous like my choice of brightly colored jeans and my lack of a phone that could text. Even in college I've had some trouble making a real friend. Nonetheless, I became more content with my life when I saw God as my true friend. It may seem ridiculous, but Jesus can be so much more than just our Savior. Who says you can't tell God how good dinner was?

I'll pray that God sends you a true friend on earth as well though, as it does get lonely... <3

 

[sunshineforJesus]

I know how you feel,I too dont have many close friends and get lonely alot

 

[Korean-American Christian]

I'll pray that God sends you a true friend on earth as well though, as it does get lonely... <3

Thank you for your prayers.

 

[Korean-American Christian]

Just be thankful for the shared experience for a time and not remorseful for what you think things should be with relationships.

Thank you