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I know i posted here recently but yeah..

I am trying so hard to save so that I can move away. It is so difficult. I am working every single day and I never have a day off. I am trying to save but the money I get is small. If its not my LDR that is giving me problems it is my Dad. I love him so much. He shows me he loves me in lots of ways. He bought me this really nice blender today that I have wanted for awhile now. But in other ways, he treats me so badly that Idk what to do. He always belittles me, tells me I am the stupidest person he knows. Or that I am worthless. He will yell at me bitterly for a long time and I don't know. I don't want to believe I am all these things he calls me but it makes sense. My memory isn't that great so I am apt to forget. But the things he yells at me are so ridiculous to me that I just don't understand. Hes a 'do as i say not as i do' so i get confused easy sometimes. Most of the time, he will tell me to do something specifically, so i do that. but then he will tell me he didnt tell me to do that, and he starts calling me names. This is the most common thing i deal with. No one else in my life or work has these issues with me. But my dad makes me feel like the worst person i know. I used to cry every night over the constant yelling he does to me. He sometimes scares me, and he has hit me before. He threatens me once in awhile. I know he loves me but i am just a mess. My LDR is on my mind a lot which is painful. My dad is on me every single day. My car was sold by my mom for 500 bucks. My brother and sister have nothing to do with me. They have their own lives. I know I am complaining but I am trying to be strong too. Ive been dealing with it all for so many years that when people try to be mean to me i dont feel anything ive gotten to the point where I think people pale in comparison to what my dad has done. and now even when he does these things i am numb to him too. i just take it and then go. the only good thing i got out of this is that i found god because i needed relief that badly. i became a christian because i hate my life so much. maybe this was gods plan, and now i just need to keep saving to move away.

i needed to vent somehow. i am disturbed quite a lot tonight... im sorry
 

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Hi! I am in the same situation. I had an awful childhood and adolescence because of this. Now, I can't wait to move. I want to encourage you to draw near to God in these moments. His love is sufficient and He can complete the holes your father doesn't.

It is awful when your parents drag you down with words. Mine do this, too and I hate it. I began to believe them and to act as they were real, until I discovered the truth from the Bible. It always helps me to remind myself or to read how God really sees me after my dad verbally abuses me.

I really hope you'll be able to move soon!
 
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Honey. It's because your Dad is a insecure sphincter, he can't control his life so he try's to control yours. I bet you never see him doing that to another man ? I bet he doesn't even listen to what comes out of his own mouth. Try recording or video taping ALL of these fits of his, and if he hits you, sue him ! Make a library and put it on U-tube.. Show the world what he his. Expose him like those kids picking on that woman on the bus, a bunch of people sent her money !! He is wrong, please don't believe those cruel things he says. That is NOT love, that is ABUSE. It will stop is he knows you wont tolerate it, and he can't get away with it.
A REAL MAN WOULD NOT DO THAT, he's blaming you for his failure to control himself. And you might be able to use it to convince him to get help, because HE"S the problem NOT you.
 
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