So, what would you......

[Chris from TN]

What would you change about yourself for a potential spouse?

Would you give up hobbies or bad habits? Would you give up good habits? I hope it goes without saying, don't give up on your relationship w/ God.

But what about hobbies, quirks, habits...seriously, I'm curious. Honestly, there are a lot of things I do or enjoy that, ultimately, don't mean that much to me. Are you the same?

 

[Glaz]

I'd probably start putting the toilet seat down.

 

[joeman1]

I have already started doing that. As long as it was nothing to evasive i would change just about anything but there are some lines that i just wont cross and my relationship with Christ is one of them.

 

[MrsGnomeCrusher]

I'd probably start putting the toilet seat down.

I've never understood women's big deal about that. Yeah, I've "fallen in" a few times in the middle of the night while growing up with my father and two brothers in the house. Usually after it happening once, you usually check while you're sleep walking into the bathroom.

I'd work on changing bad habits or something that really annoys him. I honestly can't think of a hobby that someone would hate. I would spend less time on them if it were the case.

Okay, so my answer is I'm up for any sort of compromise.

 

[Blank123]

I won't know until it becomes an issue If there was some habit of mine that annoyed whatever guy I ended up with, I'd try to cut it out probably.

 

[caitlincares]

When I was in my early twenties and early thirtes I knew men which said they did not want children so I was willing to give up the possibility of children.
(They both were okay if the Lord blessed up with children anyway.)

So certainly any habit or hobby I would be willing to give up.

 

[HoosierCanuck]

uh...perhaps talking to myself....oh wait....if I HAD someone to talk to, I wouldn't have to do that anyway! silly me! :-0 lol!!

 

[Surfungus]

I've never understood women's big deal about that. Yeah, I've "fallen in" a few times in the middle of the night while growing up with my father and two brothers in the house. Usually after it happening once, you usually check while you're sleep walking into the bathroom.

I've never understood that either. Men putting it up is just as much of a hassle as women putting it down. Either way it takes half a second. I know about the whole "falling in" thing, but seriously, look before you leap.

 

[HoosierCanuck]

I know about the whole "falling in" thing, but seriously, look before you leap.

lol!

 

[hischildsindik]

I've never understood that either. Men putting it up is just as much of a hassle as women putting it down. Either way it takes half a second. I know about the whole "falling in" thing, but seriously, look before you leap.

I have discovered a way to fix that issue if all involved agree and do it. Everything goes down, lid and seat, so we all have to lift something. Falling in is not fun, however stepping on a puddle from aiming issues is worse.

As for me what I'd give up... I'd give up near anything that was not a deep part of who I am. Which for me are some of my hobbies, but not all. I think it's about compromise, no one person in the relationship should have to give up too much and neither should really have to give up who they are.

Two questions I like to ask myself when I'm looking at relationships.

Can I be me without loosing you?
Can I be with you without loosing me?

It's truly about balance. As for bad habits, those I'd work on giving up even for myself.

 

[klewlis]

I've never understood women's big deal about that. Yeah, I've "fallen in" a few times in the middle of the night while growing up with my father and two brothers in the house. Usually after it happening once, you usually check while you're sleep walking into the bathroom.

It's about looking and feeling clean. Many boys tend to um... miss... sometimes and generally underneath the seat is one of the dirtiest parts of the toilet. I'd rather not have to look at that all the time so it's a common courtesy to lower the seat--and even if the toilet is perfectly clean, it still gives the impression of sloppiness to have the seat up.

 

[songz777]

Yeah I agree Can I be me without loosing you?
Can I be with you without loosing me?
You have got to be your self . As for me My prayer is LORD change me, Im not worried about her, I feel as I wait that God has changed many parts of my life and preparing me for marriage.

 

[Raanan]

Yeah, this is the reason I've come to believe I'll be single my entire life (though I still hope I won't be).

I am me. My highest pursuit is Jesus and that has led me to pursue being the man he created me to be as well as branching out into all aspects of my life (and it's still branching! ). I will NOT give up my pursuit of Jesus nore the subsequent pursuits there-of for anyone. For someone to be married to me, they'll have to coincide with the purposes God created me for.

The likelyhood of that happening is, well, very low. So, I don't believe I'll be married as I've never done well with odds. God is God though so I remain hopeful. Either way, I've got one hell... hmmm... don't much like that expression... Either way, I've got one spectacular life to live and I'lm going to have a blast doing it.

If you just mean stuff like not hanging up my clean clothes, yeah, I'll change that, no problem at all.

 

[stormgade4]

I'd get a better job (stormgade4 = going nowhere in a dead end, low paying job)