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Hi all,

I know this is the first post I've written since joining over a year ago, but things have been happening lately that has shook my husband and I awake. Things that should have shook me awake years ago, but better now than never.

For perspective, in the city where I attend church we have several fellowships. One big white conference church, one big black conference church, one small black conference church, one Spanish language church, and one Korean language church. It's no secret that regardless what race you are, if you want to attend a more liberal (i.e. lots less stringent on the standards) fellowship, you go to the small black conference church.

I became a convert in the late 80's, after the worst of the Des Ford debacle. For the most part, I was taught traditional SDA doctrine from the Bible and found it to be sound. I've had my own struggles with SDA standards such as adornment, caffeine, and meat-eating, but there were always good SDA pastors to help me back on track.

That is, until this year. We had a pretty good pastoral couple, Bible based, solid SDAs. Between his solid Bible teaching and his own share of faults, the pastor got on some church members nerves, no big surprise. Then thru a budget crunch debacle at the conference office, they left for a different conference all together. At first, the replacement couple seemed great. But now I wonder.

When the new pastor first arrived, he gave a prayer meeting discussion on adornment. I missed it because I figured it would be the usual Bible- based discussion of why SDAs avoid it. Then the pastor's wife started wearing makeup and jewelery to church, a little more as the weeks progressed, as do their young adult daughters when they visit. You really can't tell them from the world. Then I heard that the pastor had given his blessing on adornment at the prayer meeting.

Early on, the pastor was encouraging me to check into a particular degree program at a local SDA university school of business he was attending. When I asked why he was getting that doctorate, rather than a D.Div., his response was, "When you teach at the school of business, you get paid better than at the school of divinity." I later found out the professor he encourage me to contact was used to be on the Adventist Today board.

What's really frustrating, is on Sabbath morning, the guy has cracker-jack sermons. And they both are truly nice people. But, the church service atmosphere has been deteriorating from happy and respectful, to noisy and irreverent.

When visiting friends of ours two weeks ago, they were discussing the Adventist fellowships they visited while in CA. Now, I've always heard the West Coasters were a bit on the liberal side, but what they reported really bothered me. They said that "everybody" in the congregations went out to eat on Sabbath after church. At one of them, they had a long discussion with a male same-sex couple who were members!!!

So, like any good computer nerd, I got on to Google and started researching what was going on. I gave a good hard look at the progressive, traditional, and fundamentalist arguments, and have been astounded at the what I've read. It's back to the one extremist ditch or the other deception of Satan. The focus is solely on the love of God or the law of God, never a positive balance between both. We've all seen the fundamentalist "cheese nazis." Now the progressives are jumping into their own "tolerate everything and never mind what the Bible says" ditch.

Recently, I found a copy of Joe Crews' Creeping Compromise in our church library and my husband and I are going through it. I've also just finished the first volume of the Testimonies, and between them both, it's like Yogi Berra's deja vu all over again.

Look, God knows (and so do many friends and co-workers for that matter) the issues I struggle with personally. But God forbid that I ever misuse the Bible to rationalize Satan's machinations to keep me lusting after the flesh pots of Egypt. I definitely will be participating in the Global Rain effort, praying for the Lord to keep shaking all of us to wake up.

Thanks for letting me rant,

theharvest
 
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Very interesting comment. There are similar things going on in my church (although more so concerning meat eating/ not adornment.)

I think, there are many people who like to compromise, unfortunately.

I am sort of confused about this type of situation. Is it wrong to speak out against a pastor? If he is letting the standards slip, how should we react?
 
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Very interesting comment. There are similar things going on in my church (although more so concerning meat eating/ not adornment.)

I think, there are many people who like to compromise, unfortunately.

I am sort of confused about this type of situation. Is it wrong to speak out against a pastor? If he is letting the standards slip, how should we react?

It's not really the adornment that is of great concern here (for some even a little is too much). What concerns me most is the idea that this pastor seems to be more concerned about an income than he is about doing what's best for his church. It appears that he might be thinking of leaving the ministry at some point to go into business, in which case it doesn't sound like he is sure about his calling insofar as it pertains to being a pastor. It seems that his motives are out of place for the line of work that he is doing.

Also, the idea that a couple of the same sex are members of an SDA church is repulsive. I have no idea what that congregation is thinking to allow something like this to occur. It certainly doesn't properly represent what God approves of.

By the way, meat eating is not a sin. So what's happening in your church in relation to this isn't a matter of moral compromise; rather, it's an issue of taste.

"Him that is weak in the faith receive ye, but not to doubtful disputations. For one believeth that he may eat all things: another, who is weak, eateth herbs. Let not him that eateth despise him that eateth not; and let not him which eateth not judge him that eateth: for God hath received him. Who art thou that judgest another man's servant? to his own master he standeth or falleth. Yea, he shall be holden up: for God is able to make him stand. One man esteemeth one day above another: another esteemeth every day alike.

Let every man be fully persuaded in his own mind. He that regardeth the day, regardeth it unto the Lord; and he that regardeth not the day, to the Lord he doth not regard it. He that eateth, eateth to the Lord, for he giveth God thanks; and he that eateth not, to the Lord he eateth not, and giveth God thanks. For none of us liveth to himself, and no man dieth to himself. For whether we live, we live unto the Lord; and whether we die, we die unto the Lord: whether we live therefore, or die, we are the Lord's. For to this end Christ both died, and rose, and revived, that he might be Lord both of the dead and living. But why dost thou judge thy brother? or why dost thou set at nought thy brother? for we shall all stand before the judgment seat of Christ. For it is written, As I live, saith the Lord, every knee shall bow to me, and every tongue shall confess to God. So then every one of us shall give account of himself to God. Let us not therefore judge one another any more: but judge this rather, that no man put a stumblingblock or an occasion to fall in his brother's way.

I know, and am persuaded by the Lord Jesus, that there is nothing unclean of itself: but to him that esteemeth any thing to be unclean, to him it is unclean. But if thy brother be grieved with thy meat, now walkest thou not charitably. Destroy not him with thy meat, for whom Christ died. Let not then your good be evil spoken of: For the kingdom of God is not meat and drink; but righteousness, and peace, and joy in the Holy Ghost. For he that in these things serveth Christ is acceptable to God, and approved of men. Let us therefore follow after the things which make for peace, and things wherewith one may edify another. For meat destroy not the work of God.

All things indeed are pure; but it is evil for that man who eateth with offence. It is good neither to eat flesh, nor to drink wine, nor any thing whereby thy brother stumbleth, or is offended, or is made weak. Hast thou faith? have it to thyself before God. Happy is he that condemneth not himself in that thing which he alloweth. And he that doubteth is damned if he eat, because he eateth not of faith: for whatsoever is not of faith is sin."(Rom 14:1-23)
 
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Shouldn't we prefer that same sex couples be in the church where Christ can speak to them rather then in the world where no one can touch them? I, personally, don't know of any gay adventists. But I do know gay people in real life, and online, and I encourage them to be religious and attend church. God is who can change people, and it is sinners who need church the most.

Now if there are sermons about how being gay is OK, yeah, that might be problem in the SDA church. Or pastors that are (actively) gay.

Being gay is not the greatest sin. It isn't one that is so bad that they shouldn't be saved. We become saved first, then, as God works on us, we become closer to Him and follow His will better.

There is no way to become righteous without God working in our life.

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Shouldn't we prefer that same sex couples be in the church where Christ can speak to them rather then in the world where no one can touch them? JM

I think you're in the wrong forum! This is the traditional SDA forum. We do not support such views in here, nor does the Bible! Please do not bring such ideas in this forum.

Granted, some of what you said in your post is true, but the statement above is not Biblical.

"Do you not know that the unrighteous shall not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived; neither fornicators, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor abusers, nor homosexuals, nor thieves, nor covetous, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor extortioners, shall inherit the kingdom of God. And such were some of you. But you are washed, but you are sanctified, but you are justified in the name of the Lord Jesus, and by the Spirit of our God. All things are lawful to me, but not all things profit. All things are lawful for me, but I will not be brought under the power of any. Meats for the belly and the belly for meats, but God shall destroy both it and them. But the body is not for fornication, but for the Lord; and the Lord is for the body. And God has both raised up the Lord, and also will raise us up by His own power. Do you not know that your bodies are the members of Christ? Shall I then take the members of Christ and make them the members of a harlot? Let it not be! Or do you not know that he being joined to a harlot is one body? For He says, The two shall be one flesh. But he being joined to the Lord is one spirit. Flee fornication. Every sin that a man does is outside the body, but he who commits fornication sins against his own body. Or do you not know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit in you, whom you have of God? And you are not your own, for you are bought with a price. Therefore glorify God in your body and in your spirit, which are God's." (1Co 6:9-20)

Now then, please listen carefully...

It's one thing when a person that has homosexual tendencies has made a decision to give his life to Christ, thus repenting of his sin, and wants to become a part of the body of Christ.

It's something entirely different to allow practicing homosexual couples to become members of the church. For, if they are a couple, that means they are living in sexual sin. Otherwise, they wouldn't be a couple! In such a case as this they should not be permitted to become members of the body of Christ. For, just as practicing homosexuals will not be permitted by God to enter into heaven, logic tells us that they are also not to be permitted to become a part of the body of Christ while in their current state, or frame of mind (practicing homosexual couples).

Furthermore, as for hearing Christ, if they are in the church then they obviously already heard the voice of Christ, otherwise they wouldn't be members of it. What this then means is that they know that it is wrong to do what they do, but they do it anyway, because their sin is more important to them than the One who died for their sins.

Judging from several posts that you have made in the SDA forum, I can see that you are really taking this 'tolerance' approach to an extreme. Thus you are standing on dangerous ground!
 
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I am assuming that you want people to change, to quit being homosexual. The only way that this can happen, the only way that they would even want this to happen, is to have the changing power of Christ in their lives.

How is Christ to work a change in their lives unless they accept Him? And if they are discouraged from accepting Him, how will they change?

No, first they need to accept Christ into their lives. Then Christ will work on their hearts and they will change. Now I would argue that this doesn't come in a moment. The Holy Spirit doesn't convict you of all possibile sin the moment you accept Christ as your savior. But as you walk with God, as you study His word, as you praise Him... you become closer to Him and the Holy Spirit convicts you of sin. It would make sense to me that this would more likely happen in a church then without it.

Out on the main board I am addressing issues of sin, and disagreeing with some things that some adventists think are sin currently. Here I am addressing whether sinners should be allowed into the church. They don't seem similar to me.. do they seem similar to you?

I personally think that peoples response to homosexuality are out of proportion. Do people who commit adultry (or divorce) get kicked out of the church? Not generally. Now yes, no leadership positions.

We don't ask, when someone is baptised if they are engaging in sexual immorality. And we do not require people to be rebaptised or anything if they do commit adultry or something. I don't see how homosexuality is any different.

JM
 
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I am assuming that you want people to change, to quit being homosexual. The only way that this can happen, the only way that they would even want this to happen, is to have the changing power of Christ in their lives.

How is Christ to work a change in their lives unless they accept Him? And if they are discouraged from accepting Him, how will they change?

No, first they need to accept Christ into their lives. Then Christ will work on their hearts and they will change. Now I would argue that this doesn't come in a moment. The Holy Spirit doesn't convict you of all possibile sin the moment you accept Christ as your savior. But as you walk with God, as you study His word, as you praise Him... you become closer to Him and the Holy Spirit convicts you of sin. It would make sense to me that this would more likely happen in a church then without it.

Out on the main board I am addressing issues of sin, and disagreeing with some things that some adventists think are sin currently. Here I am addressing whether sinners should be allowed into the church. They don't seem similar to me.. do they seem similar to you?

I personally think that peoples response to homosexuality are out of proportion. Do people who commit adultry (or divorce) get kicked out of the church? Not generally. Now yes, no leadership positions.

We don't ask, when someone is baptised if they are engaging in sexual immorality. And we do not require people to be rebaptised or anything if they do commit adultry or something. I don't see how homosexuality is any different.

JM

Your initial argument is that we should prefer that homosexual couples be in the church where they can hear Christ. Thus the idea is that they should be allowed to be members of the church while they are practicing homosexuals.

This is not Biblical!

Again, this is the Traditional SDA forum. If you want to promote the idea that practicing homosexuals should be allowed to become members of the church, you are in the wrong forum. We do not support such views in here, and I am only going to ask you one more time not to bring these ideas in this forum.
 
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To all Lurkers:

Some would make it appear as though we are not being loving by not allowing homosexual couples to become members of the church. It's not an issue of being unloving, but one of being uncompromising. To allow things like this to occur within the church is the same as condoning them. The Apostles did not allow this, nor should we. In fact, I can think of a case where Paul gave instructions for a person to be sent out of the church because that person was engaging in acts of sexual immorality (1Cor. 5:5). Practicing homosexuals are no different. Their sin is sexual immorality. Period.

It should also be noted that when a person gives his life to Christ, and thus becomes a member of the body through baptism, he doesn't take his sins with him into the church; rather, he forsakes them.

This explains why in Acts 2:38 Peter had said 'repent' before he had said 'be baptized'. It appears that some are trying to reverse this pattern, thus making it look like it is permissible to bring our sins into the church. To do that is to do an injustice to the Holy Word of God, by manipulating it to make it fit ones own theology. Peter addressed people that do this kind of thing in 2Pt. 3:16.

Granted, we all struggle with sin of some sort, while being members of the body; but we don't promote the practice of sin within the church, as would homosexual couples that would be members of it.

Again, we aren't talking about a person who has homosexual tendencies here as not being permitted to be a member. Such a person would not continue to practice such a sin if he were a true member of the body of Christ. Instead, he would be repentant. You see, temptation to sin is not sin. It's when a person gives into that temptation that he then becomes guilty of sin. But again, we aren't even talking about a person that may slip up at some point by yeilding to temptation. What we are talking about here as not being appropriate, is a membership that consists of a couple that practices homosexuality. This is obviously not a slip up, but a blatant practice of sin.

There is a huge difference between the two scenarios!

You see, the one with homosexual tendencies is repentant, while the homosexual couple isn't. After all, how could they continue to be a couple if they are truly repentant?

Any pastor that allows something like this is not of God, nor does he really care about his flock.

I can't help but think about the negative impact that this would have on children that are members of that church. They will grow up to be ultra-passive about matters of morality, and may even be influenced to become homosexuals, as they would come to believe that God doesn't disapprove of the practice, since the church allows it by letting homosexual couples to be members of it.

Indeed this ultra-passive/liberal generation fits the description of the Laodicean church (lukewarm)!

"For let fornication and all uncleanness or covetousness not be once named among you, as becomes saints, neither baseness, foolish talking, jesting, which are not becoming, but rather giving of thanks. For you know this, that no fornicator, or unclean person, or covetous one (who is an idolater), has any inheritance in the kingdom of Christ and of God."(Eph 5:3-5)

Christ is merciful, but on matters of truth and morality He is uncompromising.
 
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This is a discussion subforum for those who self-identify as Traditionalist SDA. It is not a debate forum.

This mod-hat is to remind our members here that no debate is permitted on this particular forum. If you wish to debate the issue of homosexuality and the place of homosexuals in the Church you may do so on the main SDA forum. But such debate must stop in this subforum.

I would also like to remind the board that accusing others of rule violations is itself a violation of CF Rules. If you feel a violation has occurred that needs to be addressed by the moderators please report the post and very importantly do not respond to it.
 
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