"sinning against your future spouse"

[ImperialPhantom]

Is it really possible to sin against your future spouse? Is it really possible to sin against someone you don't even know yet? I'm not talking about sins that actually actively affect her (theft, stalking, whatever). I'm talking about sexual or semi-sexual acts or even mere kissing, that is done with another person beforehand. How would it be possible to sin against someone you not only are not married, engaged to, or in a relationship with, but that you likely don't even know?

 

[JCFantasy23]

I don't think it's possible really, no.

 

[NiobiumTragedy]

I think the term is a bit flawed, but the sin part is the same.

 

[Luther073082]

You don't sin against your future spouse when you engage in sexual immorality, you sin against God. This is one of the first ideas put out there by the purity cultists and it really has little basis on decent theology. Its more of a made up popular theology that is so popular among purity cultists and manliness cultists today.

 

[topgunbar0]

You sin against God, but also realize your sin can have lasting consequences even when forgiven that can hurt your future spouse even if you didn't commit against them. It's because the world isn't perfect, they aren't perfect, and Satan can deceive them (future spouses) into thinking improperly about the sinful act seeing themselves as a victim especially if they waited.

 

[Luther073082]

You sin against God, but also realize your sin can have lasting consequences even when forgiven that can hurt your future spouse even if you didn't commit against them. It's because the world isn't perfect, they aren't perfect, and Satan can deceive them (future spouses) into thinking improperly about the sinful act seeing themselves as a victim especially if they waited.

True, every sin can have consequences. You could have a child or get an STI. Then its up to the "future spouse" to determine if they can or want to deal with that or not.

But its not them "forgiving your sins" so much as the question as to if they are willing to deal with the baggage you carry from your sins.

Everyone has baggage, some more then others. So the question must always be answered as to if you are willing to deal with the baggage that a potential spouse carries.