Single and Aloneness; Your thoughts

[Silly]

As a christian do you think a person can die of loneliness?
You often hear about folks who have been married for quite a few years dying after their spouse dies of loneliness.....!

do you think it is possible to die of loneliness ? And would God take you if you are and can't seem to function anymore because of it?

Would just like to hear the thoughts of others on this subject!

 

[CoachR64]

I think too many people, specifically singles, but too much stock on romantic relationships. It is not good for man to be alone, and I understand. We are created for companionship and relationships. What a lot of people over look is romantic relationships are only one form of relationship. Friendships, family, etc.. are all relationships. When there is nothing romantic in your life at the time, we should focus on those other relationships.

Being lonely, to me, seems to be a choice more so than just an emotion. We have to stop focusing on the relationships we don't have at the moment and build the ones we do have.

Coach

 

[cCensor]

As a christian do you think a person can die of loneliness?
You often hear about folks who have been married for quite a few years dying after their spouse dies of loneliness.....!

do you think it is possible to die of loneliness ? And would God take you if you are and can't seem to function anymore because of it?

Would just like to hear the thoughts of others on this subject!

I believe it is what you focus on. If everything in your life is about you, you, you. You will be lonely.

With respect....Censor

 

[Niels]

It's one thing to feel alone because you miss your spouse. It's quite another to feel alone because you haven't met your spouse! If anything, this loneliness makes me want to live longer... so I can spend more time with her when we're finally together.

 

[Fremdin]

I feel profoundly alone sometimes. Profoundly.

 

[GQ Chris]

If you want to have more friends, then be a friend. There are lots of lonely people out there, but God wants us to stop pitying ourselves and reach out to others in Need, that is how God works.

 

[mina]

i feel alone a lot. I have a serious devoid of friends and family right now. And it's hard. I look forward to the day, when i do have someone i can share life with. And i try to be a friend to others (although that doesn't always work).

 

[JonMiller]

I feel very alone. I don't have many friends where I live, and I am pretty distant from my family (in all ways).

In fact, I make sure that I get roommates just so I have someone I can see/talk a few times a week. Well, I need them financially also.

I really doubt if I will be happy unless I have a family.

JM

 

[Fremdin]

I have friends where I live. The only problem is that they cannot hang out as much as I need/ would like. So I end up alone.

 

[JCFantasy23]

As a christian do you think a person can die of loneliness?
You often hear about folks who have been married for quite a few years dying after their spouse dies of loneliness.....!

do you think it is possible to die of loneliness ? And would God take you if you are and can't seem to function anymore because of it?

Would just like to hear the thoughts of others on this subject!

I do not believe a person can die of loneliness. I do believe, though, that sometimes loneliness can be highly destructive and cause a corrosion of mental stability. Spiritually and emotionally a person can 'die' from loneliness.

 

[RobinRedbreast]

Would just like to hear the thoughts of others on this subject!

I hope you mean that

My thoughts: If someone truly believes that they are going to die of loneliness, I fully believe (and you have to understand that this is a very serious suggestion, for what I consider a very serious train of thought) that this person should seek immediate psychiatric help. A counsellor, a psychologist, a doctor, someone, anyone to point them in the right direction of proper mental and emotional support.

No, I do not believe anyone can die of loneliness.

Someone gave me a quote once: You will find a partner when you are no longer lonely, but when you are simply alone.

The two things are vastly different. You can be a completely healthy individual living life alone, but when people fall into desperate and severe loneliness, they can risk falling into a very unhealthy mental state (and I'm talking about chronic persistent severe debilitating loneliness, not your average "eh I feel lonely today" loneliness). Something else in their life needs to change other than getting into a relationship.

So that's my thoughts.

 

[IDDQD]

There's a difference between being alone and being lonely. Lonely is, in my opinion, the negative feelings associated with being unattached. People who see being unattached as a bad thing are more than likely to feel lonely, from my perspective. Alone, on the other hand, is the positive feelings associated with being unattached. People who see being unattached as a good thing, or at least make good use of the advantages of being unattached, are more than likely to label themselves as alone rather than lonely, in my opinion.

Can someone die from loneliness? I don't think so. I believe someone can die from the effects of loneliness, such as stress, irritability, depression, and even suicide if these things aren't properly treated, but they won't die from the feeling itself. It's all in how you handle the situation. You can see being unattached as some sort of stigma or curse and associate negative connotations to it, or you can see it as a good thing and make the best of the benefits being unattached has to offer.

 

[HoosierCanuck]

I think too many people, specifically singles, but too much stock on romantic relationships. It is not good for man to be alone, and I understand. We are created for companionship and relationships. What a lot of people over look is romantic relationships are only one form of relationship. Friendships, family, etc.. are all relationships. When there is nothing romantic in your life at the time, we should focus on those other relationships.

Being lonely, to me, seems to be a choice more so than just an emotion. We have to stop focusing on the relationships we don't have at the moment and build the ones we do have.

Coach

I agree!

I think people can die of a broken heart....may not necessarily be loneliness. My step-grandpa died in December 1978. His mother died within a couple of weeks. She was very heartbroken over it. She was widowed as well.

As a Christian though, we should realize that we are NEVER ALONE. God is with us.