Sibling Relationships

[Gentle Lamb]

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[Fearnot87]

Have you ever had to cut your siblings off because they went way too far in crossing boundaries of trust? My sibling has done something so heinous to me that I do not believe the relationship can ever be repaired. I have been praying for my sibling and I forgive her and bless her as God has instructed me to do in His Word. I just do not want anything else to do with my sibling, in part for my own safety and well being, as well as those of my other family members around me who have also been wounded by this hurt. I have zero trust left for this sibling. Can anyone else relate? Did you ever have a similar circumstance and were the sibling relationships ever healed?

I sincerely feel your pain and it's such an excruciating sensation when a blood related hurts you .
It depends on the nature and degree of offence.
For me I have had a sibling dealing with me treacherously and my cousin bro crossing boundaries in critical affairs with my family .
I forgave both of them, it took me time to start dealing with sibling again while my cousin distances himself from us rather than apologize or seek for reconciliation .
In such case with Gods love and Grace the relationship might be heled but might take some pretty time but the most thing is for us not to retaliate or bear grudges .

 

[Gentle Lamb]

I sincerely feel your pain and it's such an excruciating sensation when a blood related hurts you .
It depends on the nature and degree of offence.
For me I have had a sibling dealing with me treacherously and my cousin bro crossing boundaries in critical affairs with my family .
I forgave both of them, it took me time to start dealing with sibling again while my cousin distances himself from us rather than apologize or seek for reconciliation .
In such case with Gods love and Grace the relationship might be heled but might take some pretty time but the most thing is for us not to retaliate or bear grudges .

Yes, you're right, it took me time to realize that I needed to work on forgiving that sibling, and while now I have forgiven, due to the level of treachery, it seems best for me to remain separated from said sibling until said sibling shows true repentance, if ever. I think when a person goes to such levels there must be self preservation, though I know that some people would still relate with someone no matter what they do. But that's not wise. I know that Jesus asked Peter 3 times to reaffirm his love for Jesus after he denied him. So it would take time and proven effort if ever there were reconciliation.

I'm happy to hear that your relationship with your sibling started healing. Your cousin may come around with time and prayer. I've realized that people do evil things and we have to accept that as the sin nature, and even expect it. But that doesn't mean we need to allow ourselves to be treated badly. Boundaries are important. It is definitely very difficult to deal with the pain of the hurt from that sibling. But I have to realize that people just will do evil things and at times don't care who they hurt and that is life. However, thank God for the work that He does and the reconciliation that He brings. God is good. Thanks for your input.

 

[Fearnot87]

Yes, you're right, it took me time to realize that I needed to work on forgiving that sibling, and while now I have forgiven, due to the level of treachery, it seems best for me to remain separated from said sibling until said sibling shows true repentance, if ever. I think when a person goes to such levels there must be self preservation, though I know that some people would still relate with someone no matter what they do. But that's not wise. I know that Jesus asked Peter 3 times to reaffirm his love for Jesus after he denied him. So it would take time and proven effort if ever there were reconciliation.

I'm happy to hear that your relationship with your sibling started healing. Your cousin may come around with time and prayer. I've realized that people do evil things and we have to accept that as the sin nature, and even expect it. But that doesn't mean we need to allow ourselves to be treated badly. Boundaries are important. It is definitely very difficult to deal with the pain of the hurt from that sibling. But I have to realize that people just will do evil things and at times don't care who they hurt and that is life. However, thank God for the work that He does and the reconciliation that He brings. God is good. Thanks for your input.

You are on point Sir .
Moreover we must be deliberate to set some precautional measure after reconciliation and as well make it known to them .
This will go along way in checkmating any possible wicked against us.
Quite unfortunate that people hurt their loved ones and refuse to repent or be remousful or accept some rebukes or precautionart measures meted out to them .
However in such cases we continue to pray for them for their repentance and behavioral improvement

 

[Gentle Lamb]

You are on point Sir .
Moreover we must be deliberate to set some precautional measure after reconciliation and as well make it known to them .
This will go along way in checkmating any possible wicked against us.
Quite unfortunate that people hurt their loved ones and refuse to repent or be remousful or accept some rebukes or precautionart measures meted out to them .
However in such cases we continue to pray for them for their repentance and behavioral improvement

Ma'am actually

That's a good idea about the precautionary measure after reconciliation. We have to protect ourselves from further hurts.
It's actually a sign of a lack of repentance when they don't want to accept rebukes or show remorse. That tells us where their hearts really are, so that's a good indication for us. Well, all things prayerfully God will work through them. Once upon a time we too had sinful reprobate minds and but for the grace of God, we would be doing the hurting to our siblings and not the other way around. Thank God for His mercy towards us.

 

[Fearnot87]

Ma'am actually

That's a good idea about the precautionary measure after reconciliation. We have to protect ourselves from further hurts.
It's actually a sign of a lack of repentance when they don't want to accept rebukes or show remorse. That tells us where their hearts really are, so that's a good indication for us. Well, all things prayerfully God will work through them. Once upon a time we too had sinful reprobate minds and but for the grace of God, we would be doing the hurting to our siblings and not the other way around. Thank God for His mercy towards us.

Wonderfully spoken Sir , the bottom line is the manner of approach to any offence , in as much as we condemn such acts we must on the other share on their weakness by not condemning them outrightly knowing fully well that while we were yet Sinners Christ died for us , not imputing our sinful nature on us or judging us according to our lawlessness .
This is why we must not hate them neither blackmail them or count them as an outcast but rather having a clear conscience with them in all Godliness while praying and trusting God for their Change .
Honestly the bond and love ties that usually yoke a family is sweeter than Honey and mustn't be traded for any thing and this is why we must not allow Satan to use us to sause damages regarding our family ties .
Sometimes it's not easy to maintain but with prayers , efforts and God's Grace we can .
Shalom , Calvary Greetings

 

[Gentle Lamb]

Wonderfully spoken Sir , the bottom line is the manner of approach to any offence , in as much as we condemn such acts we must on the other share on their weakness by not condemning them outrightly knowing fully well that while we were yet Sinners Christ died for us , not imputing our sinful nature on us or judging us according to our lawlessness .
This is why we must not hate them neither blackmail them or count them as an outcast but rather having a clear conscience with them in all Godliness while praying and trusting God for their Change .
Honestly the bond and love ties that usually yoke a family is sweeter than Honey and mustn't be traded for any thing and this is why we must not allow Satan to use us to sause damages regarding our family ties .
Sometimes it's not easy to maintain but with prayers , efforts and God's Grace we can .
Shalom , Calvary Greetings

Amen, with God nothing is impossible. The road is at times quite difficult!!! However, it is also a test that builds our faith as we trust in God. These hurts are surely not easy to deal with but Jesus did say that in this world we would have tribulation and that members of one's own household would be at odds with each other. May God grant us grace and wisdom in Jesus name.

 

[Fearnot87]

Amen I join my faith with yours .
Blessings to you and yours

 

[Gentle Lamb]

Amen I join my faith with yours .
Blessings to you and yours

Thank you so much, God bless you.

 

[Daniel Marsh]

Have you ever had to cut your siblings off because they went way too far in crossing boundaries of trust? My sibling has done something so heinous to me that I do not believe the relationship can ever be repaired. I have been praying for my sibling and I forgive her and bless her as God has instructed me to do in His Word. I just do not want anything else to do with my sibling, in part for my own safety and well being, as well as those of my other family members around me who have also been wounded by this hurt. I have zero trust left for this sibling. Can anyone else relate? Did you ever have a similar circumstance and were the sibling relationships ever healed?

Yes, it was healed. Ask Jesus and the Holy Spirit pray with you. Romans 8

 

[Gentle Lamb]

Yes, it was healed. Ask Jesus and the Holy Spirit pray with you. Romans 8

Amen. I'll try that, thank you.

 

[bèlla]

Forgiveness is a must to keep us in spiritual alignment and free of anger and bitterness. That may require a lot of prayer, fasting and time apart to accomplish. Reconciliation requires a change of heart and behavior from both. For the wounded party that means clearer boundaries and discrimination. Healing is difficult if we keep getting infected. We must guard our heart and speak truthfully to ourselves and others.

That means seeing things as they are and not allowing our fears and hopes to misguide us. Everyone shows you who they are after awhile. Most have enough tenure with their siblings to know who they're dealing with. If we close our eyes while dealing with untrustworthy people we shouldn't be surprised when they wound us. They aren't trustworthy.

If there's a pattern of negative experiences that's indicative we've missed the signs and the behavior continues. If we want to break the cycle we have to change our approach. We can't do as we've always done and expect a different outcome. It isn't working.

We're accountable for our blindness whether its intentional or not. God provides much instruction on human relationships in the bible. When we find ourselves on the wrong side of them we must pray earnestly for wisdom and discernment and sift our connections and experiences through scripture's lens.

Proverbs is a treatise on cause and effect in human dynamics. It should be studied voraciously and wisely applied. Wishing something different won't bring it to pass. We must take care not to fall into victimhood or permit sorrow to drive us to apathy or depression.

The most radical prayer we can pray in these circumstances is change me Lord. We're part of the problem. And if He changes us our response will differ and that's half the battle. The other may never shift but there's no reason we should remain as we are when its hurting us.

We must determine we've exhausted this path and will walk it no more. It's time for something new. When we do change will follow.

~bella

 

[Fearnot87]

Yes, it was healed. Ask Jesus and the Holy Spirit pray with you. Romans 8

Absolutely it will get healed but we are looking at the realities of the Hurts and damages it must have caused .
The healing and reunion sometimes depend on the degree and nature of SuCh offence and in mist cases the offenders prove unrepentant.
Sometimes it's better said than done when it comes to these offences and reconciliation,however we must allow Gods love to overwhelm us as we forgive, reconcile and love them as Christ did for us .
Shalom

 

[Fearnot87]

Forgiveness is a must to keep us in spiritual alignment and free of anger and bitterness. That may require a lot of prayer, fasting and time apart to accomplish. Reconciliation requires a change of heart and behavior from both. For the wounded party that means clearer boundaries and discrimination. Healing is difficult if we keep getting infected. We must guard our heart and speak truthfully to ourselves and others.

That means seeing things as they are and not allowing our fears and hopes to misguide us. Everyone shows you who they are after awhile. Most have enough tenure with their siblings to know who they're dealing with. If we close our eyes while dealing with untrustworthy people we shouldn't be surprised when they wound us. They aren't trustworthy.

If there's a pattern of negative experiences that's indicative we've missed the signs and the behavior continues. If we want to break the cycle we have to change our approach. We can't do as we've always done and expect a different outcome. It isn't working.

We're accountable for our blindness whether its intentional or not. God provides much instruction on human relationships in the bible. When we find ourselves on the wrong side of them we must pray earnestly for wisdom and discernment and sift our connections and experiences through scripture's lens.

Proverbs is a treatise on cause and effect in human dynamics. It should be studied voraciously and wisely applied. Wishing something different won't bring it to pass. We must take care not to fall into victimhood or permit sorrow to drive us to apathy or depression.

The most radical prayer we can pray in these circumstances is change me Lord. We're part of the problem. And if He changes us our response will differ and that's half the battle. The other may never shift but there's no reason we should remain as we are when its hurting us.

We must determine we've exhausted this path and will walk it no more. It's time for something new. When we do change will follow.

~bella

Well spoken and I agree with you that our spiritual walk with the Lord will certainly shape the way we respond to offences with Wisdom being inevitable.
Sometimes discerning people's character or capabilities are not easy but wisdom and precaution are must in dealing with them .
Moreso Devil can manipulate people if they are not watchful to cause pain but in whatever case our response to such case based on God's word will certainly make a positive difference .

 

[bèlla]

Well spoken and I agree with you that our spiritual walk with the Lord will certainly shape the way we respond to offences with Wisdom being inevitable.
Sometimes discerning people's character or capabilities are not easy but wisdom and precaution are must in dealing with them .
Moreso Devil can manipulate people if they are not watchful to cause pain but in whatever case our response to such case based on God's word will certainly make a positive difference .

Satan will do what he does. But that doesn't minimize our responsibility for vigilance and assessment. Every one has weaknesses and susceptibilities. When that's the case we must exercise caution in those areas.

But oftentimes we don't. We think we can handle it or this time will be different. But it rarely is. We can't wish things away or make others change. All we can do is minimize their impact and avoid situations that bring unnecessary pain.

We have to reach the point where we're sick and tired of being sick and tired. We're decaying everyday but we keep forgetting that. We can spend our lives in misery or have the life God intended. I've chosen the latter. If that means denying myself, forgoing someone's company, or abstaining from an activity I'm willing to do it. I won't miss His best.

Sometimes that means difficult choices, watershed and lonely days. You do what's necessary for the greater goal. Satan wants us to miss the mark. It's our responsibility to make sure we don't.
~bella

 

[Fearnot87]

Satan will do what he does. But that doesn't minimize our responsibility for vigilance and assessment. Every one has weaknesses and susceptibilities. When that's the case we must exercise caution in those areas.

But oftentimes we don't. We think we can handle it or this time will be different. But it rarely is. We can't wish things away or make others change. All we can do is minimize their impact and avoid situations that bring unnecessary pain.

We have to reach the point where we're sick and tired of being sick and tired. We're decaying everyday but we keep forgetting that. We can spend our lives in misery or have the life God intended. I've chosen the latter. If that means denying myself, forgoing someone's company, or abstaining from an activity I'm willing to do it. I won't miss His best.

Sometimes that means difficult choices, watershed and lonely days. You do what's necessary for the greater goal. Satan wants us to miss the mark. It's our responsibility to make sure we don't.
~bella

You have again made mind blowing assertions necessary for our happiness and welfare to be protected and yet without offending anyone .
We.
I think we must invest more in our spiritual vigilance while setting boundaries towards our relationship with friends and family because in most cases Satan is the chief architect of our problems including relationship crisis .
Thanks for this indepth inputs .
A nice day awaits you