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Should statutory rape really be called rape?
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<blockquote data-quote="Mling" data-source="post: 54994789" data-attributes="member: 152766"><p>Because 20 year olds are in a life stage where they are being trusted with their own decision-making. 20 year olds are not children.</p><p></p><p>edit: forgot a question. What is the consequence now? I'm not saying change the law--just the name of the crime.</p><p></p><p>Hard to say. Personally, I think that it wouldn't be an altogether bad thing, for an adult and a child to have a romantic- and sexual-mentoring relationship, but...it's so unlikely that that could happen in a healthy way in the Western world that it's not really worth considering except as a hypothetical. And I don't think a 20 year old would be a great choice for the mentor role anyway, unless they were insanely mature (I'd go for somebody who's emotionally mature, mid-30s to 40's, but again, I don't think this could actually play out in a healthy way, in most existing societies.)</p><p></p><p>Outside of that situation, though, I'd say the 13/20 relationship is worse, for the simple reason that 13 year olds are <em>usually</em> <strong><em>really</em></strong> underprepared to be making major life decisions. There are a few exceptions, and I'm prepared to make exceptions for them, but across the board, 13 year olds should not be having sex, and 20 year olds should know better than to put them in that situation. Since a romantic relationship involving a 20 year old will often include sex, the simple existence <em>of</em> that relationship could easily be coercive to a 13 year old who's eager to have a 'real' relationship and prove their maturity.</p><p></p><p>A 20 year old, again, is in a phase of life where they're making most of their own decisions (except maybe a small number of really important ones), and they have better social and problem-solving skills. Or at least, they've had more opportunities to develop them. If they're making a bad decision...that's sort of what being 20 is for. If they're being pushed into a bad decision, the person pushing them is scum, but not all of human interaction can be regulated. I wish people wouldn't do that, but I wouldn't want to live in a society were any and all interactions were subject to official investigation to make sure that everybody was perfect.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Mling, post: 54994789, member: 152766"] Because 20 year olds are in a life stage where they are being trusted with their own decision-making. 20 year olds are not children. edit: forgot a question. What is the consequence now? I'm not saying change the law--just the name of the crime. Hard to say. Personally, I think that it wouldn't be an altogether bad thing, for an adult and a child to have a romantic- and sexual-mentoring relationship, but...it's so unlikely that that could happen in a healthy way in the Western world that it's not really worth considering except as a hypothetical. And I don't think a 20 year old would be a great choice for the mentor role anyway, unless they were insanely mature (I'd go for somebody who's emotionally mature, mid-30s to 40's, but again, I don't think this could actually play out in a healthy way, in most existing societies.) Outside of that situation, though, I'd say the 13/20 relationship is worse, for the simple reason that 13 year olds are [I]usually[/I] [B][I]really[/I][/B] underprepared to be making major life decisions. There are a few exceptions, and I'm prepared to make exceptions for them, but across the board, 13 year olds should not be having sex, and 20 year olds should know better than to put them in that situation. Since a romantic relationship involving a 20 year old will often include sex, the simple existence [I]of[/I] that relationship could easily be coercive to a 13 year old who's eager to have a 'real' relationship and prove their maturity. A 20 year old, again, is in a phase of life where they're making most of their own decisions (except maybe a small number of really important ones), and they have better social and problem-solving skills. Or at least, they've had more opportunities to develop them. If they're making a bad decision...that's sort of what being 20 is for. If they're being pushed into a bad decision, the person pushing them is scum, but not all of human interaction can be regulated. I wish people wouldn't do that, but I wouldn't want to live in a society were any and all interactions were subject to official investigation to make sure that everybody was perfect. [/QUOTE]
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