Should I quit my job? It makes me sick.

[LadyJaneDoe]

I have a relativly hard job. But the problem is I really don't enjoy my job and I am almost always sick after work. Two months ago I tried quitting and gave my resignation. But my boss shared his wife just had a child and he really needed me at work. So I gave in and stayed. I told him I would work one more month. Well when the time came for me to quit he told me another reason he needed me to stay which was that I couldn't leave until I found a replacement. So I stayed and weeks later a replacement came, but then quit so now I am stuck working here still.

Should I quit? Am I being to timid? If so is there any bible verses that show me I shouldn't be timid and let people abuse my niceness?

I feel like as a christian I should not quit because it would be hurtful to him, despite the fact its hurting my body. Is there any verses that talk about not working if it causes you harm?

Thank you for any help!

 

[salida]

Your health is more important-but find another job first.

 

[Chocoholic81]

Your health is more important-but find another job first.

I agree. Being nice is one thing. Allowing people to walk all over you is another. Tell your boss that you are leaving in X amount of time and that's it. He owes you nothing but a good letter of recommendation. If you really don't feel that you can quit right now, try talking to him about making your job a little easier so you don't feel so sick. If he is a good boss, you should be able to work something out. Your health and well-being are far more important than pleasing someone.

I've had problems with feeling too timid and nice myself. It really led to low self-esteem because I felt I had to please everyone and make them happy. You just can't.

 

[turkle]

It is really important to realize that this is a business, and needs to be dealt with in a business appropriate manner. The standard notice time is 2 weeks. And while it is good to be kind and compassionate, if you are getting sick, you need to stick to your guns. The Bible says let your yes be yes and your no be no. You need to take care of yourself.

 

[Ark100]

I have a relativly hard job. But the problem is I really don't enjoy my job and I am almost always sick after work. Two months ago I tried quitting and gave my resignation. But my boss shared his wife just had a child and he really needed me at work. So I gave in and stayed. I told him I would work one more month. Well when the time came for me to quit he told me another reason he needed me to stay which was that I couldn't leave until I found a replacement. So I stayed and weeks later a replacement came, but then quit so now I am stuck working here still.

Should I quit? Am I being to timid? If so is there any bible verses that show me I shouldn't be timid and let people abuse my niceness?

I feel like as a christian I should not quit because it would be hurtful to him, despite the fact its hurting my body. Is there any verses that talk about not working if it causes you harm?

Thank you for any help!

You cannot keep getting hurt at the expense of another person. If you are truly falling sick after work, I would quit. This has nothing to do with religion even. Its common sense.
Your health is important. Your boss's life cannot end because you quit. He will find someone else.
Do what is best for you.
Give him proper notice, and find something else before you quit. Don's assume you will easily get something else after you quit. Have a back-up so you are not left stranded and having to go back to beg your boss to re-hire you
Goodluck

 

[Jeffwhosoever]

All good advice - but I echo and highlight the statement about getting another job first. The economy is still not well, and it is much easier to find a job if you already have one. Many folks who are unemployed are stuck because when times are tough businesses don't like taking chances, unfortunate but true.

 

[Raiyuu]

It would be wise to wait until you find another job to quit but as for feeling bad because it might hurt him...

It's a recession, there are plenty of people who are desperately searching for a job and will do anything to make ends meat. So I wouldn't worry about someone not being able to take your place. He's just trying to take advantage of you.

You should however pray and ask Father if it is His Will for you to find another job. You should ask Him permission for everything. :O

 

[Pal Handy]

I have a relativly hard job. But the problem is I really don't enjoy my job and I am almost always sick after work. Two months ago I tried quitting and gave my resignation. But my boss shared his wife just had a child and he really needed me at work. So I gave in and stayed. I told him I would work one more month. Well when the time came for me to quit he told me another reason he needed me to stay which was that I couldn't leave until I found a replacement. So I stayed and weeks later a replacement came, but then quit so now I am stuck working here still.

Should I quit? Am I being to timid? If so is there any bible verses that show me I shouldn't be timid and let people abuse my niceness?

I feel like as a christian I should not quit because it would be hurtful to him, despite the fact its hurting my body. Is there any verses that talk about not working if it causes you harm?

Thank you for any help!

Pray...

Father in Jesus name I come to you and I ask You for Your help.
Father I hate this job as it is hard on me mentally and physically.
Father You know all things.
Father I want to quit this job and move on but I also want
to trust that You will guide me in this important decision.
Father if it is ok for me to quit, give me Your peace so that
I will not be in constant turmoil or else give me your peace
to stay until You open up another door for me.
In Jesus name I pray.

Then wait upon the Lord...
Stay in and attitude of expectation to hear the answer.

As you think upon staying and then on quiting, expect God to
give you peace in your heart when your mind is on the right decision.

Hope this helps...

If you get do not get a peace about either decision then keep
praying and keep asking God to direct you each day and as you are
faithful to keep coming to Him in prayer, He will bring about a good
result in your life and resolve this dilemma.

Don't try it (prayer) and then run away but keep coming back to
the Lord day by day and God will answer you and He will bless
your efforts to bring Him into your life and decisions.

May God guide you and bring His purposes and plans into your life.

 

[gideon123]

DON'T quit until you have another job.
Be fair and give your boss the proper amount of notice - when you decide to leave.

best,
Gideon123

 

[Jupiter Drops]

If it's hurting you, then I would suggest leaving right away. Your health is more important right now.

 

[Albion]

Two thoughts come to mind.

1. If he needs you that much, he needs to make it worth your while to stay. Have you thought of asking for a raise sufficient to compensate for the things about the job you don't like? If he doesn't meet your salary needs, he obviously doesn't need you as much as he says...and you will be free from feeling bad about leaving.

2. The advice you've received to know where you're going before you quit is good. What are the realistic prospects for finding another job that pays as well, has acceptable working hours and conditions, etc. if you quit? Or are you prepared to be out of work for awhile?

I don't think there are any Bible issues involved in this, BTW.

 

[Viren]

Find something you enjoy doing. Life is too short and probably shorter the longer you stay.

 

[tangled]

I agree with what was said before: find a job first. Once you find a job, give your notice and they can't do anything about it. Take care!!!

 

[Albion]

All,

Several of us have cautioned LadyJane about quitting before landing another job, but then I remembered that she said "Well when the time came for me to quit he told me another reason he needed me to stay which was that I couldn't leave until I found a replacement. So I stayed and weeks later a replacement came, but then quit so now I am stuck working here still."

So it seems that this is something that she has already accounted for, perhaps because she is able to retire or be out of work for an indefinite time. On the other hand, that means she is working exclusively because she feels it unkind or unChristian of her to quit.

 

[PraiseToAslan]

DON'T quit until you have another job.
Be fair and give your boss the proper amount of notice - when you decide to leave.

best,
Gideon123

++1

Jobs are hard to come by.

Find a better one.

It's easier to find one when you are employed.

 

[gideon123]

I don't like to be repetitive ... but i will add these comments.
And i am not saying this personally.
A lot of Christians need to think about this.

Right now the job market in the USA is BAD - and getting worse.
Despite what the Gov't is telling us, the economy is not improving.
In fact, America is undergoing a BIG BIG shift in our economy.
And it is really painful.

For example, over 50% of new college grads cannot get jobs now, or can only get some lousy job that pays poorly and is not related to their interests. That's over 50% of the students graduating!!! They are now working full-time as waiters/waitresses, car wash attendants, fast food restaurants, and whatever else they can find. AND they are still expcted to pay off their college loans. HOW EXACTLY??? Things are getting rough out there.

If you have a job - KEEP IT.
If you don't like your current job ... suck it up and keep working.
You can always TRANSFER jobs in the future -- if you find a better one.
But once you are unemployed - you could be out in the streets for a long time.

America is going back to an age when MANY people had jobs they didn't like. They hated it. It made them sick. They wanted to quit - but they couldn't. You need to tough this out ... it's better to have a paycheck than to NOt have a paycheck. A paycheck always gives you options.

Gideon123