Hi, I am new to Christian Forums but have been looking for a place where I can get some much needed advice. My boyfriend and I have been dating for over a year now and have been seriously discussing marriage. I know he is planning on proposing very soon and we have also been looking into purchasing a house in the future. I love him very much and would be happy to spend the rest of my life with my best friend when he asks. The only concern is that he is not a christian. He is supportive of my faith and even attends church functions when I ask him to go, its just not what he believes. I have known of other couples who have gotten married in this situation and are very happy together, I am just worried. I just want some advice on if this is common and if it will work out. Thank You!
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Should I Get Married?
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I think this post is in the wrong area; the staff can clarify.
Welcome to CF by the way.
This situation is more common than you think; enter into marriage with your eyes open; it is something which is not to be taken lightly.
As a minister myself, I would advise you to make sure you are completely sure of this decision, however I would not tell you not to do it.
I think your boyfriend is a good chap if he is going to services with you and not turning the other shoulder...is he an atheist or another religion?
Perhaps after going a while he may become a Christian; only God knows.
I will prayer for you both though.
Welcome to CF by the way.
This situation is more common than you think; enter into marriage with your eyes open; it is something which is not to be taken lightly.
As a minister myself, I would advise you to make sure you are completely sure of this decision, however I would not tell you not to do it.
I think your boyfriend is a good chap if he is going to services with you and not turning the other shoulder...is he an atheist or another religion?
Perhaps after going a while he may become a Christian; only God knows.
I will prayer for you both though.
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He seems supportive of ur faith cause u r not yet married,
after married his attude may be different are you ready to face fights and opression every day ?
Pray to God there are many Christians singles.
May Jesus bless u all HalleluYAH
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Pray about it ?
Do not be unequally yoked with unbelievers. For what partnership has righteousness with lawlessness? Or what fellowship has light with darkness? - Corinthians 6.14
Is the verse i see as relevant
That said I understand the position which you are coming from, have been in it myself before. you may want subconsiously for people to say its ok.
My personal opinion is to say stay with him but explain that you cant marry unless he is a christian. then get your whole church to pray he will be saved.
Again if you did marry him though no human has the right to judge you about that and the biblical advise on marrage should apply, and you would likely be very happy. Not being able to worship and pray together would be somthing you would miss out on though
Do not be unequally yoked with unbelievers. For what partnership has righteousness with lawlessness? Or what fellowship has light with darkness? - Corinthians 6.14
Is the verse i see as relevant
That said I understand the position which you are coming from, have been in it myself before. you may want subconsiously for people to say its ok.
My personal opinion is to say stay with him but explain that you cant marry unless he is a christian. then get your whole church to pray he will be saved.
Again if you did marry him though no human has the right to judge you about that and the biblical advise on marrage should apply, and you would likely be very happy. Not being able to worship and pray together would be somthing you would miss out on though
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I married an agnostic when I was a Christian. But, I was not on the narrow path at the time; I had my little 'beliefs' but not much life change to back it up. I do think our marriage was arranged by God, as I had to leave my continent to meet him and I had a dream about what would happen before I met him and it happened that way. Generally, It is best to make a match with only another believer, but there are rare occasions where God ordains otherwise. My husband is saved now. Pray for wisdom. I hope you both make the right choice.
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