Should I be less empathetic as a man ?

[QuestionQuest74]

sometimes I cry when i talk to people and they tell me the trials and errors they are going through especially if the issues are relatable and have experienced them before. I feel like as a grown man I shouldn’t be like I used to be like this as a kid crying when I see disabled people or people in poverty im bout to cry thinking about it now. Im starting to think this is a bad thing but im wondering should a Godly man be like this.

 

[trophy33]

If you feel its not a right place, time or amount, then it probably is not.

 

[Unqualified]

Do you just get teary or do you sob. Seems wonderful to have so much compassion. Have you ever been in a tight spot because of it? But I would suggest you add a comforting word from the Bible, for evangelism, to let them know you’re a Christian. The word never comes back void. I don’t want to change that…. but most men don’t go that far.
If it’s uncomfortable for you if you feel unmanly then maybe you would want to hold it back a bit.

I just get a sad look, I don’t feel it’s enough though, I feel compassion. I usually don’t have much I can do. But it is sad to see how many have the bottom fall out of their lives. But Jesus restores all things, but some just have to suffer. It’s sad. Sometimes it’s a choice. Jesus can make you happy anyway. He gives strength to endure and joy. Therefore He is positive to all our negatives. It’s helpful to them to be positive and it might comfort you too.

 

[AlexB23]

sometimes I cry when i talk to people and they tell me the trials and errors they are going through especially if the issues are relatable and have experienced them before. I feel like as a grown man I shouldn’t be like I used to be like this as a kid crying when I see disabled people or people in poverty im bout to cry thinking about it now. Im starting to think this is a bad thing but im wondering should a Godly man be like this.

Empathy is important. We should all have it.

1 Peter 3:9 (ESV): "Finally, all of you, have unity of mind, sympathy, brotherly love, a tender heart, and a humble mind."

 

[QuestionQuest74]

Do you just get teary or do you sob. Seems wonderful to have so much compassion. Have you ever been in a tight spot because of it? But I would suggest you add a comforting word from the Bible, for evangelism, to let them know you’re a Christian. The word never comes back void. I don’t want to change that…. but most men don’t go that far.
If it’s uncomfortable for you if you feel unmanly then maybe you would want to hold it back a bit.

I just get a sad look, I don’t feel it’s enough though, I feel compassion. I usually don’t have much I can do. But it is sad to see how many have the bottom fall out of their lives. But Jesus restores all things, but some just have to suffer. It’s sad. Sometimes it’s a choice. Jesus can make you happy anyway. He gives strength to endure and joy. Therefore He is positive to all our negatives. It’s helpful to them to be positive and it might comfort you too.

I get teary eyed

 

[Godcrazy]

sometimes I cry when i talk to people and they tell me the trials and errors they are going through especially if the issues are relatable and have experienced them before. I feel like as a grown man I shouldn’t be like I used to be like this as a kid crying when I see disabled people or people in poverty im bout to cry thinking about it now. Im starting to think this is a bad thing but im wondering should a Godly man be like this.

No no no don't ever think that it's not bad at all it's beautiful. We need more empathic men.
This men aren't emoathic, men don't cry thing is taught from birth, peers, society. But remember, jesus cried. Jesus showed emotions and empathy. Way to go. Don't let anyone judge you for it because they're wrong they have a indoctrinated mind

 

[Godcrazy]

Look into the psychology of this. How we are taught. How society is you'll see

 

[Joseph G]

I learned as a little boy that I was different from other boys. I cried at the drop of a hat, wore my heart on a sleeve, and actually liked to talk about feelings. That all became taboo as I got older and felt pressure to be like the other guys. But I just couldn't do it and I was ridiculed whenever I cried, even by my Dad and brother.

For this and other defects, I learned to silently hate myself, and hide the anger I had at God for making me the way He made me - hiding it even from my conscious thoughts so God wouldn't discover them and squash me like a bug.

Sometime in my teens I vowed to never cry again. And I rarely did. For decades. I was like a walking pressure cooker, but at least I didn't cry anymore, dagnabbit!

Then about a year ago I was in my Church's sanctuary, standing and singing along to a worship song. People had their hands in the air singing joyfully. And then I noticed the man in front of me in the next pew. He had his hands covering his face and his shoulders were quivering. I realized that he was crying. His wife was just patting his back and letting him be him.

I don't know why I knew this (any guesses Who told me this?) but I discerned that he was crying tears of gratitude and relief. God had delivered this man from something significant. Of all those praising God at the time - I considered that his praise was the most precious to God at this moment. Just as Jesus' tears were precious to His Father, and to us - because they are for us.

Btw... it didn't escape my notice that he was a brawny, muscled, mans-man.

Crying.

The next time I felt the need to cry (while talking to a friend on the phone) I just let it flow. 17 years of supressed grief over a situation finally escaped from me and I can't tell you how much relief I felt, and feeling cleansed. Those tears were the beginning of real healing. In fact, the Lord was so near to me and revealing His wisdom and love so abundantly that I cried for about a week straight! Ha!

In that time God relieved me of my age-old anger at Him by graciously revealing that what I considered embarrassing weaknesses were actually gifts to be used for His glory.

Tears? As has been said, empathy is a great gift. Gratitude is as well. And my favorite attribute of God's heart that He gives to us in our new heart of flesh? Compassion. The word is attributed to God all through the Old and New Testaments.

Consider it an honor to be a man who cries. Jesus certainly wasn't embarrased about it, and He was the strongest man Who ever walked the earth when you think about it.

As for us, we are all Ambassadors for Christ, we are His hands and feet and eyes in this world, and also His tear ducts.

God bless!

 

[Godcrazy]

Thank yI honour you for having the courage to tell me.
I see, and know how difficult it is, i see the programming. I see the pressure. I see why, and I see the result, and the intent. It's done deliberately by society as a control tool. I think you know.
I break patterns and programming. Never have and won't accept. Truth and empathy. I see those trying to suppress your very self as dysfunctional and programned, and not a healthy choice. It's just destruction. I defend and help.
It goes so far. It goes through generations. Learned behaviour. Society's mold. All for control.
Exactly God is true freedom, and let you be you. We were born feeling and crying, so, no wrong there. For many it takes a long road to get back to the inner child. How we were. But like jesus said, be as children and the kingdom come. That's exactly what it means.
I'm very happy for your freedom.

 

[Godcrazy]

God is such freedom. The best friend ever. He accepts us.