I go to UCSD in California and I am seriously considering joining a frat next year (PAPHI). But I am not sure if that is something that I should be doing because of the all the shady acitivities that they are known are participate in. Any suggestions/advice from the bible you can recommend?
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Should Chrisitians join frats?
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I don't have a suggestion from the Bible per se, but I don't think there is anything wrong with a Christian being in a fraternity. I think you could really make your mark there. And just because fraternities are "known" for being involved in shady activities doesn't mean the frat you choose has to be. Go to rush, scope the possibilities, and talk with the guys. I mean really, you can kind of get a vibe of whether or not these are the type of guys who hurt or embarrass others on a regular basis, can't you?
There are tons of frats at big schools... the booksmart, the jocks, the party animals... but I've also found there are usually at least a couple with just genuinely nice guys who enjoy the "fraternity" of brothers and do things like golf together, public service projects, family days... not just drinking and having sex.
All that said, some bad things will probably go on. It's the nature of the beast. But bad things go on everywhere at some point. If you feel that you're not strong enough not to succumb, definitely don't put yourself in the situation. But you could do a lot of good work from that position too if you have a strong constitution.
I say go for it - tons of friends, fun, and it's part of the college experience for many. If it gets too heated, you can always decline their offer to join or move out of the house.
There are tons of frats at big schools... the booksmart, the jocks, the party animals... but I've also found there are usually at least a couple with just genuinely nice guys who enjoy the "fraternity" of brothers and do things like golf together, public service projects, family days... not just drinking and having sex.
All that said, some bad things will probably go on. It's the nature of the beast. But bad things go on everywhere at some point. If you feel that you're not strong enough not to succumb, definitely don't put yourself in the situation. But you could do a lot of good work from that position too if you have a strong constitution.
I say go for it - tons of friends, fun, and it's part of the college experience for many. If it gets too heated, you can always decline their offer to join or move out of the house.
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BeautyForAshes
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If the fraternity is on the up and up and leads a lifestyle that will not cause you to stumble or to be involved in things that will compromise your faith (i. is this a "dry" fraternity? What type of community service do they do, etc.), then go for it.
On another note, as you go through the pledge process, you should carefully to look at the types of oaths/pledges that you make (as well as to WHOM you are making it to), as well as other ritualistic things that you will learn. As Hope_004 said, if at any point during the pledge process you run across something that doesn't seem right, you can quit.
Don't forget to check out the christian fraternities if your campus has them, as well any Christian fellowship organizations that are on campus as well (ie Campus Crusade for Christ, etc.). You will find just as much, if not more brotherhood, fun, and fellowship with any of these organizations as well.
~written by a sorority girl.
On another note, as you go through the pledge process, you should carefully to look at the types of oaths/pledges that you make (as well as to WHOM you are making it to), as well as other ritualistic things that you will learn. As Hope_004 said, if at any point during the pledge process you run across something that doesn't seem right, you can quit.
Don't forget to check out the christian fraternities if your campus has them, as well any Christian fellowship organizations that are on campus as well (ie Campus Crusade for Christ, etc.). You will find just as much, if not more brotherhood, fun, and fellowship with any of these organizations as well.
~written by a sorority girl.
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Yeah, there are all kinds of clubs, etc., that you can join to "remind" you of your faith.
And just for the record, I don't think there's anything wrong with having a couple of beers with your friends if you are of age as long as you don't run around like, well, a drunk frat boy.
And just for the record, I don't think there's anything wrong with having a couple of beers with your friends if you are of age as long as you don't run around like, well, a drunk frat boy.
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FaithfulServant
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I go to a large university that has lots of frats and sororities, and I chose to join a sorority. However, my sorority is a Christian sorority.
We still do all kinds of fun things like throw awesome parties (no alcohol), have date parties, do community service, have the friendship bonds, etc, but we also encourage each other in the Lord and worship him together. There are also Christian frats - check and see if your college has them, ask around!
We still do all kinds of fun things like throw awesome parties (no alcohol), have date parties, do community service, have the friendship bonds, etc, but we also encourage each other in the Lord and worship him together. There are also Christian frats - check and see if your college has them, ask around!
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No, you shoudln't join one even if you aren't a Christian. Sorry to anyone who is in one, I am not meaning to hurt feelings, but I don't see the point in buying your friends.
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FaithfulServant
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MetalBlade said:
The one I am in only costs like $100 a semester. And if you can't pay it for whatever reason, you can still join. A lot of amazing girls are in it, and its not buying your friends, the money goes to tithing and paying for events.
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I agree with Faithful Servant... it's not always about buying friends. The money is mostly for operational costs...
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