I've struggled writing this a few times so please bear with me. The love of my life is in love with another man.
We have been married for 23 years and have four kids. The marriage has been pleasant, although we have had some rocky times. It's been a good marriage with a lot to show for it there's no question about that. Anyway, there is a recovering alcoholic who has started attending services.
He lost his home and his wife due to bad choices, so he has wanted to turn his life around. He started growing closer with members that attend our church, I noticed my wife seemed to fancy him. There was a church BBQ where I overheard my wife talking to him. He was speaking about maybe getting back in the dating scene. Wife responded with "With a handsome face like yours, women will be practically drooling over you" I talked to her about it (this happened 6 months ago) she said he was just trying to spirits up.
Anything they have grown increasingly closer, so much so that others have mentioned them becoming good friends. Well just yesterday she left her email logined and Im sorry for doing this but I snooped. Found a love letter sent from her that was meant for him. The message contained I love yous and you're so amazing/ the light of my life. Calling him her true love and and that he's so handsome. Very high schooly/raunchy and some graphic sexual filled messages.
I have talked to her. Yet she is denying an affair with this man, but has now admitted that she's had an inappropriate relationship with him, but nothing physical has happened. Can I really believe that? My world feels destroyed and I feel like I have failed. Do I need to confront him?
I'm not going to sit and act like I have been this religious man throughout my life. We just started going to church more often within this year. Thought it would maybe good for us. Although all it has done is pushed my wife into another mans arms. Of course that isn't the church's fault though.