She filed today

[spshond]

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[Tink04]

I have said iam so sorry, she looked me in the eye and told me that she has forgiven me but that if I really wanted to make her happy that I would let her go easily. <snip>
Her mind is made up and my heart has stopped beating. Should I give up for her sake? How long before I try to show her that I love her and want her back?

I would say that this is almost like a balancing act.

If you still love her I would tell her you do. But be very careful about it. Only do it when you feel like you really appreciate her. Don't be sappy, don't smother her.

After I left my husband was way to desperate and clingy. It drove me further away from him. I felt like he was a drowning man, pulling under his rescuer trying to save himself.

Appreciate her but let her go at the same time.

 

[Born2Serve06]

My Wife ask me for a separation 2 years ago to salvage our marriage. I did not listen, wanting to solve it myself. I thought I had control over my life. We have 2 boys 5 and 3, in the past 6 months I have been angry at her for not showing any emotions towards me. We were at a halloween party and she was standing next to me and her friend. I asked her if I could kiss her, she did not answer, I asked if I could kiss her friend, she said sure. I regret that day. With no ill thoughts in mind, i kissed another one of our friends, simply saying goodbye. I told her that it menat nothing, that I was just saying goodnight in front of everyone. She sees the worst in everything i do now. Honestly, she has wanted out of our marriage for approx. 3 years now. Ive emotionally hurt her by asking for a divorce in the past without meaning it. Saying out loud the angry thoughts ive had towards her. I regret every bit of it. We have been married 8 years, its going to be over. That is the extent of my cheating. I have stopped drinking since December so that the devil in the bottle does not ever make me do that again. Iam not an alcoholic, only the occationaly drink at parties. I have said iam so sorry, she looked me in the eye and told me that she has forgiven me but that if I really wanted to make her happy that I would let her go easily. I agreed to it only becuase i told her that it would make her happy and becuase I want to be friends with her and possibly grow once again to husband and wife. Her mind is made up and my heart has stopped beating. Should I give up for her sake? How long before I try to show her that I love her and want her back?

Loving someone is also knowing when to let go. It is not fair to yourself or her to hang on if her heart is not in the marriage.

It appears that you are making positive changes in your life. Sometime actions speak louder than words. Continue to change and ask the Lord for help. If it his will for you both to be together he will make it happen.

I suggest reading the Scarlet Thread by Francine Rivers.

 

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[Born2Serve06]

There have been times where I felt that way towards my husband. It wasn't until I talked to my pastor and him and his wife started praying for us that things started to change.

God knows your heart and he wipes away your tears.

I am praying for you.

 

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