So how do you feel about kids sharing rooms? Do you think it is beneficial or that kids need thir space? Is it different when they become teenagers? What about children of opposite sex sharing a bedroom?
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Sharing rooms....
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I shared a room with my older brother until I was six, then my dad said we couldn't share a room anymore so we moved to a 3 bedroom apartment. I don't think I was scarred by it for the most part it was fun.
If kids have to share a room, make it so they have their own space within the room. So they can have their own even if they have to share the middle.
If kids have to share a room, make it so they have their own space within the room. So they can have their own even if they have to share the middle.
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My girls share a room together. They love it. They are very close and sometimes they like to share the same bed at night. Sometimes it is hard for them to go to sleep, at night, because they like to talk and play together. We normally allow this if they stay in their room. Eventually they will fall asleep. It's funny, sometimes my husband and I will be downstairs and we see all these people waving at our house and shouting "Hi!". "That's weird", we think. Then we go outside, only to see the girls standing at the window, waving at everybody who passes by our house on the sidewalk and shouting "Hi!". I don't know what it is going to be like when they are older, but for now they really like it.
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Our boys share a room and I think if we seperated them now they'd hate it. They are only 3 & 5 now, so we'll see how things go as they get older. If they were girls I can see them wanting to have their own rooms at some point, but I don't think it's as big of deal to boys. We'll see. I think a boy and a girl sharing a room when they are little is ok, but I'd think they'd need to be seperated at some point.
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AbidingInHim
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For the majority of your life you share a room with someone....sahring with a sybling is good practice. At a certain point i would seperate brothers and sisters, that time would be based on the kids, my boys share a room and my daughter is praying for a sister to share a room with her. Sometimes one or both of the boys will "spend the night" with her and they love it!
Syblings learn so much from each other, I wanted to wait until Ben was 3 to have another, because I read that by that point 50 % of their personality would be formed, 80% by the age of 8. I felt if I devoted the first 3 years to him before introducing a sybling I would have one on the right track before introducing a sybling into the dynamics.
In retrospect (having the next 2 13months apart, and seeing the benifits of thier interaction)I would have planned to have my 2nd one by the time 1st was 18 months....at 2 thier going through thier me thing.
Syblings learn so much from each other, I wanted to wait until Ben was 3 to have another, because I read that by that point 50 % of their personality would be formed, 80% by the age of 8. I felt if I devoted the first 3 years to him before introducing a sybling I would have one on the right track before introducing a sybling into the dynamics.
In retrospect (having the next 2 13months apart, and seeing the benifits of thier interaction)I would have planned to have my 2nd one by the time 1st was 18 months....at 2 thier going through thier me thing.
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That is cute dews!
We've been talking about this recently because we are kind of hoping we will have two boys, two girls or all 4 boys.... we really want them to share rooms. As roxannacc points out, most of your life you're sharing a room with someone. Sharing a dorm room, sharing a room with husband/wife.... I think you can learn a lot from having to learn how to get along with someone. So we were thinking about doubling them up if possible so long as there are enough other spaces in the house that they can get away and be alone if they need. Like have both a family room and a living room, and a computer room. Then there would be enough space. This house is too small, we hope to move someday....
We've been talking about this recently because we are kind of hoping we will have two boys, two girls or all 4 boys.... we really want them to share rooms. As roxannacc points out, most of your life you're sharing a room with someone. Sharing a dorm room, sharing a room with husband/wife.... I think you can learn a lot from having to learn how to get along with someone. So we were thinking about doubling them up if possible so long as there are enough other spaces in the house that they can get away and be alone if they need. Like have both a family room and a living room, and a computer room. Then there would be enough space. This house is too small, we hope to move someday....
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I had my own room as a kid, and am very glad I did, but I don't think it damages anyone either way. I had 3 kids sharing space for a few years.. when my ex and I divorced I gave up my bedroom for my son because he was entering his teenage years and I thought he needed some private space without the girls around... if they had had to stay in the same room we were going to make the room divider a little more permanent in their space. My oldest daughter stayed during the week with my mom (cause her school was so far away) and came home weekends by then ..
Currently my oldest is out of the house, my son and daughter each have their own room. I can't imagine having to share a room as a teenager.. I would have hated it.. but like I said you do what you have the space to do!
Currently my oldest is out of the house, my son and daughter each have their own room. I can't imagine having to share a room as a teenager.. I would have hated it.. but like I said you do what you have the space to do!
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My oldest two have their own bedrooms. My youngest two share a room. The older two are not very close, the younger two are very close. So I guess in my observation, it helps build closeness and sharing and bonding. I didn't share a room with anyone and I do not have the closest relationship with my siblings either. So I guess sharing a room is a good idea, even for a little while. And same sex sibling sharing rooms is probably okay, but once they start getting a bit older they'll probably want their privacy.
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My girls who are 4 and 7 share a room and also a (big) bed. The nice thing about it is that they are not really afraid like some children I know of the dark or going to bed at night. Sometimes they talk to each other for a while before they fall asleep, but not for long. They are very close and often prefer the company of each other to the company of friends. I love peeking at them after they've gone to bed and seeing them snuggled up together. If when they are older they'd like to have separate rooms, I'll arrange that. But for now they are quite content. The only problem I have with them being in the same room is that there are twice as many clothes and toys in there.
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My sister and I chose to share a room even though we always had an extra one in the house until I was about 10. Our parents never told us what to do or what not to do on this one - we just decided. We got to decide a lot of things, come to think of it. We are four years apart and extremely close.
I don't know if this is because of the room sharing or not. If you have the luxury, perhaps you should let them decide. If not, then I certainly don't think there's anything wrong with it. As for opposite sex, I think that's fine in the beginning, but once puberty hits it could be invasive and embarrassing for a boy and a girl to share rooms, and unless it's impossible, I would try to avoid it.
Just my 2 cents.
I don't know if this is because of the room sharing or not. If you have the luxury, perhaps you should let them decide. If not, then I certainly don't think there's anything wrong with it. As for opposite sex, I think that's fine in the beginning, but once puberty hits it could be invasive and embarrassing for a boy and a girl to share rooms, and unless it's impossible, I would try to avoid it.
Just my 2 cents.
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My brother and I (we are about 2 or 3 years apart) shared a room until I was in 4th g rade, then we each got our own room til I was in 8th grade, then when we had to move to my grandmas, we shared a room for a year, and then when we got to move back, we had our own room for a year,and then we had to move back again, and we shared a room until the day I turned 18, in which I moved in with my fiance, took my brother with me, and we shared the living room.
I loved sharing a room with my brother, it was really awkward, but we are so close because of it.
I loved sharing a room with my brother, it was really awkward, but we are so close because of it.
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I think that it is perfectly fine for children to share the same room. If they are of the same sex, I think that once one of them starts school then they need to have separate rooms. As far as the same sex sharing the room, as long as they get along and are agreeable I think it is great.
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I think the likelyhood of us being able to have a 5 bedroom house is slim.... that's the tricky part.... wanting a "bigger" family, wanting to be a SAHM, and finances often dont mix
that's the tricky part.... wanting a "bigger" family, wanting to be a SAHM, and finances often dont mix
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Leanna said:I think the likelyhood of us being able to have a 5 bedroom house is slim....
Yep you got it in one.
My two chidren (a boy and a girl) have to share a room because there is no where else for them to sleep otherwise. LOL, Em is still only a baby and we don't think it matters. We just pray that when the time comes for them to need a separate room that God will provide this.
We need a 4 bedroom house because my husband needs a study (and we are in a 3 bedroom house, with the 3rd room as the study - mind you he has taken over the dining room as well LOL)
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Let's see....I am three years older than my brother. We shared a room until I turned 12 and then my parents bought a small house and I finally had my own room. When I was around eight or nine, I went into the little bathroom to change and it was at that time that I needed my own room. But...my parents couldn't afford it and my brother tried to be as sensitive to me as a little boy can be.
I have so many good memories of sharing a room with my brother as a little girl! We weren't allowed to talk after the lights were turned off so we would whisper back and forth and we made up all sorts of games to play until we got tired. If we saw Dad's shadow at the bottom of the stairs, I would whisper "Jellybeans!" and that was the signal to hush and pretend to be asleep. I won't mind putting my future kids together for this reason. My brother and I are very close. However...if at all possible, I would like to separate the boys from the girls around 3rd grade.
I have so many good memories of sharing a room with my brother as a little girl! We weren't allowed to talk after the lights were turned off so we would whisper back and forth and we made up all sorts of games to play until we got tired. If we saw Dad's shadow at the bottom of the stairs, I would whisper "Jellybeans!" and that was the signal to hush and pretend to be asleep. I won't mind putting my future kids together for this reason. My brother and I are very close. However...if at all possible, I would like to separate the boys from the girls around 3rd grade.
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I ALWAYS shared a room with my sister and i hated it.
My neice and nephew share and room, i think it isnt right b/c my nephew is 9 and my neice is 6. I think thats too old.
My neice and nephew share and room, i think it isnt right b/c my nephew is 9 and my neice is 6. I think thats too old.
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Right now, all we can do is keep the kids together in one room. Their room is so small we had to put bunk beds in when Sarah grew out of her toddler bed (her little feet were almost dangling off the edge!) because we couldn't fit the crib and a bed. Now, we only have room for a toddler bed under the bunk so we need to be out of this house by the time Sean outgrows his toddler bed!
Sometimes you have to make do. I have a friend who has her three kids (boy and two girls) in one bedroom of their single-wide trailer. She and her husband sleep in the living room. For now, this is where God wants them to be.
Ideally, I would love to have a three bedroom home. We're just waiting for God to provide one for us!
Sometimes you have to make do. I have a friend who has her three kids (boy and two girls) in one bedroom of their single-wide trailer. She and her husband sleep in the living room. For now, this is where God wants them to be.
Ideally, I would love to have a three bedroom home. We're just waiting for God to provide one for us!
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