Sharing our experiences!

[formykidsiwill]

Sometimes, for me when I hear words over and over I tend to not pay much attention to them. Some of the cleches in AA have really helped me get through things. I wanted to share one and leave it open for anyone else to share their favorite one and give an example of how it has helped.

One of my favorites now is if you spot it you got it. This one is new to me. I have had a hard time being honest with myself. One of the ways I've learned about myself is by observing other people. If I see something in someone else that I like I will acknowledge it as something in myself that I like. (this is good for me because i've struggled with self hatred as well as pride) On the flip side if someone rubs me the wrong way I have to acknowledge that it is because they have a similar character trait that I despise about myself. This has been a very interesting learning experience for me. I found, I really didn't know myself. I am blind you could say to my own behavior. Although, the truth can hurt it can also make a person grow in a good way. If I spot something in someone else I don't like I will try to learn from that and grow to become a better person, it also helps me not be so judgemental. When I realize I have the flaw I'm judging in someone else I can ease up and put my focus back on me where it should be and I don't get as angry at other people. I give myself a break. I could go on and on about this one, but I'd like to hear what someone else has to say.

Blessings,
B~

 

[UnitynLove]

I'm praying for you my sister!

 

[LoG]

The "spot it you got it" cliche has been a godsend for this alcoholic since the beginning of my journey in recovery. Through it I have been able to forgive and accept others that I found to be challenging as well as learn a lot about myself. Since this is the third time that this cliche has come up in the last few days fom different people, I think God may be telling me to practice it again in a certain situation.

An al-anon slogan, "Let it begin with me" is closely tied to that cliche for me. I have a tendency to want others to behave better before I start to do so. A pride thing. "You stop doing this and I'll stop doing that in return." This slogan reminds me to start behaving in a better and more loving manner irregardless of whether another reciprocates or not because I am doing this for God's sake, not the other person.

 

[formykidsiwill]

The "spot it you got it" cliche has been a godsend for this alcoholic since the beginning of my journey in recovery. Through it I have been able to forgive and accept others that I found to be challenging as well as learn a lot about myself. Since this is the third time that this cliche has come up in the last few days fom different people, I think God may be telling me to practice it again in a certain situation.

An al-anon slogan, "Let it begin with me" is closely tied to that cliche for me. I have a tendency to want others to behave better before I start to do so. A pride thing. "You stop doing this and I'll stop doing that in return." This slogan reminds me to start behaving in a better and more loving manner irregardless of whether another reciprocates or not because I am doing this for God's sake, not the other person.

Thank you Lion of God.

Blessings,
B~

 

[justanobserver]

One "cliche" of AA that at first I didnt get nor understand but as time went and the more than once I tried to sober up and failed, I came to know what it means when they say "One Day at a Time".

When the various times I would attempt to quit drinking or using, I would be over whelmed at how can I do this day after day and month and after month and year after year??? I would be stressing myself out with "how can I do this next week?" or" what if I am not strong enough next month?"

When I finally understood that it meant to take it one day at a time, for a while sometimes it was one hour or one minute at a time, then I was able to deal with my sobriety head on, one day or one hour at a time, the next day or even the next hour was dealt with as it came up.

 

[formykidsiwill]

One "cliche" of AA that at first I didnt get nor understand but as time went and the more than once I tried to sober up and failed, I came to know what it means when they say "One Day at a Time".

When the various times I would attempt to quit drinking or using, I would be over whelmed at how can I do this day after day and month and after month and year after year??? I would be stressing myself out with "how can I do this next week?" or" what if I am not strong enough next month?"

When I finally understood that it meant to take it one day at a time, for a while sometimes it was one hour or one minute at a time, then I was able to deal with my sobriety head on, one day or one hour at a time, the next day or even the next hour was dealt with as it came up.

Thank you! My son pointed out a couple of days ago that it is always TODAY... so that ties in with 'one day at a time'
I've been struggling with this one lately, I just keep being reminded to look straight ahead, not to the left nor to the right, and especially behind me, just straight ahead. I learn from the past, but I can't let it continue to ruin my life, because the important thing is TODAY I'm doing what's right to the best of my ability.

Thanks,
B~

 

[Garnet2727]

This is something I'm coming to grips with as well. I used to think that "one day at a time" was just another blasted sound bite.

Until I quit drinking.

Now I get it.