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I just want to know why im feeling so different lately. I know I have OCD and everything but, why am I feeling more attracted to men rather than women like before? To make it worse, I've done unclean things and had unclean thoughts to the point of meltdown. I just want to stop these sick fantasies but I don't know how.. I just want to know why im feeling this way, and if that automatically makes me gay. I hope this is ok to post here.
 
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There is probably a mixture of things going on in your life. Incorporating sexual development into a coherent framework, self confidence issues, maybe not too much good information about sex and sexual development, an over sensitivity to negative thoughts about sex may be amongst the issues you are currently struggling with.

Remember, God's love is bigger than any sexual struggle a teenager is having. And he understands our sexuality. He created it!

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Hey Young Brother..

I have some things to say about this, but not as a forum post.

Since CF limits the length of a PM, it'll have to be by e-maill. If you would like to hear it, send me your external e-mail address and I'll respond.

If not, that's OK as well...

Oh - and welcome to CF..
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First, let me say I know EXACTLY how you are feeling and what you are going through. Second, you will overcome this...no matter how long it takes!! You are not a hopeless case!! Third, I would highly suggest you tell someone you trust that would not say anything or judge you and believes in God. You need to pray and have people pray for you. I am going to pray for you...

I am going to send you a PM...
 
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I don't know, sometimes I just get more attracted to males than females. I don't know why it is that I do that, or why I look at gay pornography and touch (hope this is ok to say here) but I just feel like I might be a lost cause for the reason that I don't feel I can change, and I feel strange about it. I've pretty much held it to be a fantasy, a sick fantasy but nothing more, becuase as of now, I wouldn't take it past a fantasy. But I just don't know.
 
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WYMS, are you sure that's what you're struggling with? One of the most common symptoms of OCD among religous people is a fear that one is homosexual. That fear might make it difficult for you to tell whether you really are gay or not.

I'm an atheist, so I guess my view of what you should do if you are gay would not be proper for me to discuss on this board. Either way, I'm rooting for you.
 
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Hi WYMS,

Waiting for the Verdict is right. There is a form of OCD called HOCD where one has intrusive thoughts that they are gay. You are NOT gay.

Please don't take this wrong. Fifteen is very young. I would recommend focusing on God, church, school studies and having innocent fun. Teenagers are still children. When I see on the news or hear something about a 12 or 14 year old stating "I am gay" it just gets me. Children do not need to be worrying about these issues. Period. There are too many other things to be focusing on. Why make a decision that is going to affect the rest of your life at fifteen?

Just be you. By yourself. Don't try to force a straight relationship right now either. You're not ready. Be a kid as long as you can.

Have you read BRAIN LOCK or TALKING BACK TO OCD? Check your local library. Also, have you spoken with a Christian counselor about this?

I hope this helps even a little.

Take care.
 
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