sex=romantic?

[KGirl]

I dunno if this is ok to put in this thread, but I was wondering. Am I the only one that thinks that sex is not really a romantic thing? I mean I get that you're more "connected", but it seems that no matter how much I cared about the person I was with, it seemed like it was just something that felt sexually good rather then romantic. With that being said, I find kissing to be the most romantic feeling act.
Firstly, I am wondering if that means I a have been doing something wrong, or is it normal to feel that way?

 

[Luther073082]

I dunno if this is ok to put in this thread, but I was wondering. Am I the only one that thinks that sex is not really a romantic thing? I mean I get that you're more "connected", but it seems that no matter how much I cared about the person I was with, it seemed like it was just something that felt sexually good rather then romantic. With that being said, I find kissing to be the most romantic feeling act.
Firstly, I am wondering if that means I a have been doing something wrong, or is it normal to feel that way?

Wait a second. Does that mean you are sexually active pre-maritally. If so I really would encourage you to change that and wait til you are married.

Personally I tend to see sex as both. I really get annoyed when someone "holifies" sex and treats it as though it must always be this super romantic thing. The bible doesn't treat it that way so I don't understand why they do.

However I can't deny a romantic aspect to the whole thing. Its not just a thing for personal pleasure and satisfaction.

And when you have sex normally your brain releases chemicals that cause you to feel bonded to your partner and close with them. So apparently God ment for it to bond marriages. I can't say that God necessarily ment for it to be romantic because scripture does not endorse love marriages over arranged marriages. However I will say it seems to prove that arranged or love, God ment for sex to help cement and bond the marriage.

 

[JCFantasy23]

I dont think it's abnormal, probably just how you see it. I"ve always found it romantic with the right person. I like kissing sometimes but it's not my favorite thing by far, just sometimes feels overrated.

 

[* kittie *]

Well everyone is different, so I think you're just fine. I can see why kissing would seem more romantic to you. Well personally, I also prefer it to be "simple", without all the physical pleasure and need added into it.

I find sex to be romantic...in some way. "In the right ways", I guess I should say. I feel currently that sometimes it becomes more about "sexual fulfillment".

 

[BereanTodd]

Wait a second. Does that mean you are sexually active pre-maritally. If so I really would encourage you to change that and wait til you are married.

Personally I tend to see sex as both. I really get annoyed when someone "holifies" sex and treats it as though it must always be this super romantic thing. The bible doesn't treat it that way so I don't understand why they do.

However I can't deny a romantic aspect to the whole thing. Its not just a thing for personal pleasure and satisfaction.

And when you have sex normally your brain releases chemicals that cause you to feel bonded to your partner and close with them. So apparently God ment for it to bond marriages. I can't say that God necessarily ment for it to be romantic because scripture does not endorse love marriages over arranged marriages. However I will say it seems to prove that arranged or love, God ment for sex to help cement and bond the marriage.

Amen to everything you said.

 

[KGirl]

I have been married before, lol.

 

[RobinRedbreast]

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It's ok to talk about sex being romantic or not, and that is the topic here

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[Kicking_Kittens]

It depends. To have a sexual experience that is wonderful, sparkly and meaningful, then you'll need to have romance in there. But sometimes, people are tired, don't have time to be romantic, and just want to have sex and go to bed. It's not bad, but it's life. There is lazy sex and romantic sex, there's quick sex and long, drawn out sex.
If you are with the right person, you'll most likely feel the romantic spark anyway (as long as the hormones are festering in your brain) and it'll most likely be a nice experience.