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Kaylynn

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Hmm...what to do? My sunday school teacher's wife (whom is a dear friend, I love her like family) is wanting to set me up with some guy who's a couple years younger than me. I don't know what to do. I know I'm not all that social, in fact, not very at all. He's still in the high school class at our church and I'm in the college and career class. Well the thing is, I told her I was kind of uncomfortable with it...just because I'm not really LOOKING for someone right now...so now she's planning on inviting him to our sunday school class' Super Bowl party.

My mom doesn't want me to shut any doors that God may be trying to open through her, and by all means if God is trying to open a door, I don't want to shut it either...I'm just kind of uneasy about all this.

1. I don't even know the guy (though he goes to my church)
2. He's younger than me
3. I've been looking at out of state colleges (and I'm not really keen on long distance relationships...I have trust issues with guys, no offense to any of you men out there)
4. Lastly, I'm not really LOOKING for someone....yes, I'd love to get married and have a family within the next year...but the thing is, I'm so sick of looking at every single guy out there and trying to get him to notice me. I want to wait for God to bring someone to me, I don't really like the idea of someone trying to set me up with someone. I mean, I'm still young, I'm not even 20 yet (though I will be next month) so why is it so important that I have someone?

What should I do? I'm seriously thinking about skipping out on the super bowl party now...
 

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My suggestion is, don't stress about it. Tell your friend, thank you for thinking of me but I'm really not interested in meeting someone right now. Don't skip out on the Super Bowl party, there'll be lots of people there, you might find you like him and you have found a new friend. But, personally at your age I don't think I would have much in common with a highschooler. Who knows, maybe the guy doesn't really want to be set up either and is just being polite to your friend.

You are really so young, don't put pressure on yourself to find someone or be married, even if you want to. And don't let others put that kind of pressure on you either. I personally think God will send along the right person when he knows the time is right for you. Until then, just live your life, college will take up a great deal of your time and energy and maybe you should just commit yourself to it for now. I'm 31 and I still don't think having someone is all that important, I would like someone, but I don't fret about it.

God knows the deal, your man will be along when God knows you're ready. I would continue to be in prayer about it though. Under other circumstances I wouldn't shun being set up with someone that sounds like they could be interesting, you just never know, they might be the one.

So, I say, just relax. It will all work out the way it's supposed to.
 
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Kaylynn said:
I want to wait for God to bring someone to me, I don't really like the idea of someone trying to set me up with someone.
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What are you wanting, Him to FedEx you someone with a note, "From God, marry him"?

I'd like that too, but I'm not expecting it.
 
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I think you are in a great place to say no thanks. I would say that I'd be willing to get to know the person, but not be "set up" with them. If he's the guy for you, I would hope they let you discover it for yourself. If he's going to be at a party your at, say hi and chat for a bit, no strings attatched. I think you have a great menatlity about finding soneone, and imo not looking is the only way to find in this case. Oh and don't worry about offending because of trust issues with men. I have em with women too LOL. LDRs can work, however, and both parties can be faithful. It's tough but don't let distance get in the way of a calling.
 
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kaylynn,

It's perfectly alright for you not to like people setting you up with people. There are lots of other ways to meet guys, so don't ever feel like you have to let someone set you up if you're uncomfortable about it. Some people like that kind of thing, and some people don't. I personally hate when someone is trying to hook me up....I mean it's one thing if they're hooking you up because they've seen that you have a lot in common, similar personalities, similar goals, etc. But some people set two people up just because they're of the opposite sex and both happen to be breathing.

Definately be honest with your sunday school lady and let her know how you're feeling. Pray and get guidance from God.

I wouldn't skip out on the superbowl party just because this guy is going to be there. You don't want to seem rude. I would just mingle among a bunch of people and not spend too much time with him if you aren't feeling like spending time with him.

Good luck!

J
 
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jenptcfan said:
But some people set two people up just because they're of the opposite sex and both happen to be breathing.
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So true!

I'll have to agree with everyone else. I wouldn't skip the party because he is going to be there. Meeting someone you don't know is much easier with others around than it is in a one on one situation. It might not hurt to meet him, but you certainly do the right to not be fixed up with anyone you don't want to be. Just relax, go and have fun at the party. He might turn out to be alot of fun. He may turn out to be someone who makes a good friend. Or he may turn out to be someone you are not interested in. But you won't know if you don't meet him.
 
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I agree with everyone else. Don't sweat it! Lots of people will be there, and the point of a super bowl party (at least for a football person such as myself..hehe) is to watch the game So enjoy getting to know everyone and let your friend know you don't want to be "set up" with anyone right now. Don't stress it, life is too short! I wish someone would care enough about me to want to set me up with someone who is actually a decent Christian guy. Before I started dating my boyfriend, no one would consider setting me up, it was usually the other girls in my church. So be flattered and go have fun
 
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