Relax sOuljah, this is not hard, as it seems.
What was/is your relationship with Mary? Do you pray the rosary daily?
This whole thing has made me at Mass (Today is feast Mary, Mother of God) give myself to her service in a new way.
I was thinking about you sOul. And what came to mind was 'what is the worst thing you think will happen if you gave yourself totally to Mary?' My answer was, she would only lead us to Jesus. She can not/will/does not do anything but lead us to Jesus. So the more you give to her the more you are led to Jesus.
Giving yourself to her IS giving yourself to Jesus, it can't be anything but giving yourself to Jesus. She gives what you give to her, to Jesus and this is the best way to reach him wouldn't you say? God saw fit that the best way for us to receive Jesus was through Mary, right? Well then if you give yourself to God through her, can you see how that is a more perfect way of giving yourself to God than by just giving him yourself with out her intercession?
Have you ever prayed the morning offering? What do you think that is all about? Through Mary's immaculate heart, I offer all my joys prayers works suffering of this day in union with the sacrifice of the Mass being said through out the world.
What an awesome thing, this Mother holds us all together in her love and she takes our frail attempts at pleasing the infinite and eternal God that as you know our works are but "dirty rags" and she adorns them with her own virtues which I know, you know our far more perfect than anyone else's. This is what makes our sacrifices acceptable to God that they are offered by and receive from Marys hands.
This does not take anything away from Jesus because it is all because his merits that our lady intercedes for us. With offer ourselves to her service in union with Christ who together offered Jesus sacrifice to the father for the redemption of mankind. Co-redeemer with Jesus simply means just that, with Jesus she offers, not equal to or better than or different from, but with Jesus. She is perfectly united with Jesus and calls us into this union with her and her son.
Look in the scriptures, it was Mary that began Jesus ministry, it was Mary that said to him after finding him in the temple "Why have you done this?" What she was saying was 'you know your hour has not come.' and he in returns says to her at Cannon "My our has not come" and she says..."Do what ever he tells you." She began his ministry, she with her fiat brought us a savior and it is she that will always lead us home to Jesus, never away.
Maybe I should ask you what you find upsetting about this?