I should have never have married my husband. I cancelled the wedding twice, if I'd just cancelled it one more time, I'm sure I never would have married him.
I left my husband twice temporarily because he wouldn't hold down a job. There's a verse in the Old Testament about the husband not meeting or supporting the wife's needs of food, shelter, etc, that this is grounds for separation. Since we have been seperated, he has not paid for any of my bare necessities. I left him when I got pregnant at 39 (first time) and went to my parents so there would be someone around to "nurture" me through the pregnancy. I never wanted to have a child. My dad and I were close, really close, practically inseperable. The day I married it hurt my relationship with Dad really bad. When I came back after finding out I was pregnant I told him that I was never going back to Tom. He still wasn't holding down jobs and I wished I never married him. I reconciled my relationship with my father and 1 month later my father died. He was extremely fit and had a totally unexpected heart attack. I watched him die and became completely hysterical. That night I was admitted to a psychiatric ward because I wanted to kill myself.
In my irrational thinking, I thought my husband was happy that my father had died because that would "make" me go back to him. My entire family pushed me to go back to him.
Well enough about history. It says in the bible in I Cor 7:10,11 seems to allow for a wife to leave her husband, while other commentators say that Paul was writing this to the people at that time who were already seperated and so he was giving them instructions about what to do.
I am mentally ill: I have obsessive-compulsive disorder from my youth, when my father died I took it so bad that I developed post-traumatic shock disorder (like people coming home from a war) which led to having a boderline personality (AKA Extreme Emotionality Disorder). When my daughter was born I was so happy I became manic and then had severe depression so then I was diagnosed as being bipolar.
Now 2 years later with proper medication I am relatively stable but too much stress causes me to drop into depression.
My husband and I get along well. We go to chuch together. I meet his sexual needs. The only thing that seperates us is that we don't live in the same house. We get along a lot better living seperately. But I feel all this guilt about being seperated, that it is a sin. But if I went back to living with him I'd spend most of my time in the psychiatric ward for stress-induced despression and suicidality.
If you reply to the biblical principle of seperation, please be sure you've done your homework and not just offering an opinion.
I left my husband twice temporarily because he wouldn't hold down a job. There's a verse in the Old Testament about the husband not meeting or supporting the wife's needs of food, shelter, etc, that this is grounds for separation. Since we have been seperated, he has not paid for any of my bare necessities. I left him when I got pregnant at 39 (first time) and went to my parents so there would be someone around to "nurture" me through the pregnancy. I never wanted to have a child. My dad and I were close, really close, practically inseperable. The day I married it hurt my relationship with Dad really bad. When I came back after finding out I was pregnant I told him that I was never going back to Tom. He still wasn't holding down jobs and I wished I never married him. I reconciled my relationship with my father and 1 month later my father died. He was extremely fit and had a totally unexpected heart attack. I watched him die and became completely hysterical. That night I was admitted to a psychiatric ward because I wanted to kill myself.
In my irrational thinking, I thought my husband was happy that my father had died because that would "make" me go back to him. My entire family pushed me to go back to him.
Well enough about history. It says in the bible in I Cor 7:10,11 seems to allow for a wife to leave her husband, while other commentators say that Paul was writing this to the people at that time who were already seperated and so he was giving them instructions about what to do.
I am mentally ill: I have obsessive-compulsive disorder from my youth, when my father died I took it so bad that I developed post-traumatic shock disorder (like people coming home from a war) which led to having a boderline personality (AKA Extreme Emotionality Disorder). When my daughter was born I was so happy I became manic and then had severe depression so then I was diagnosed as being bipolar.
Now 2 years later with proper medication I am relatively stable but too much stress causes me to drop into depression.
My husband and I get along well. We go to chuch together. I meet his sexual needs. The only thing that seperates us is that we don't live in the same house. We get along a lot better living seperately. But I feel all this guilt about being seperated, that it is a sin. But if I went back to living with him I'd spend most of my time in the psychiatric ward for stress-induced despression and suicidality.
If you reply to the biblical principle of seperation, please be sure you've done your homework and not just offering an opinion.
