separation

[tonya]

my boyfrieind anad I live together with our 2 year old daughter...we were both raised in church, but he no longer goes. I have grown closer to god and try to take our daughter to church..he stays out late and parties sees other women and told me trhe other day he was confused..
we were doing so much better as a family and then about 2 months ago all of this started back up again!!! I do not place all the fault on him and have really prayed about our situation because I want us to be a family..I feel the Lord is telling me to mone away from him so that He can deal with him..so me and our daughter have found a rental house to live in and will be moving in about a month..Does anyone havae any advice here? Please pray for my family..I just feel I am sinning by living with him and he needs to grow up so I feel she and I have to get on with our lives and GOD has to work on him and hopefully we can be a family afain..anyone ever gone through a situation like this???
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[Jenna]

I just feel I am sinning by living with him and he needs to grow up so I feel she and I have to get on with our lives and GOD has to work on him and hopefully we can be a family afain

I think that you have the right idea, if my opinion counts for anything. It is important for a man to know that he has to be committed enough to marry if he wants to make a family, and maybe he will decide that it is what he wants if he isn't getting what he wants for 'free'. It sounds like your boyfriend has a lot of things that he needs to work through with the Lord, and hopefully this time will open his heart to God's will in his life, and how to be obedient to His Word. I am sure that this will probably be a very trying time for you. I know how much work there is involved with raising a child, and I understand that it will be difficult without your boyfriend. Who knows, maybe this will be just as deeply touching of a time for you in your walk with the Lord as what you are hoping for your boyfriend. *hugs* I haven't been in the same situation before, but I sure do hope and pray that God takes care of you all and showers you with His love.

 

[Violet]

Tonya,

I lived my ex-boyfriend for 5 years. He was the same way....going out to strip clubs, drinking a lot, and flirting w/other women (in front of me sometimes) I would get ready to leave and he'd change for a week or two then go back to his real self. He asked me to marry him but would never set a date. I was searching for a relationship w/God and he saw that and would get angry w/me because I would start talking about going to church. So I slipped away from God. I finally moved on (after 5 years!) and found what I was looking for (Jesus of course!).

I understand how hard it can be to move on. We had a daughter together too. But what it came down to was my priorities....my boyfriend...or God. It is important to have a united mother and father for your daughter but it's more important to set a good example for her (by not living in sin). I wish I would have found Jesus sooner...I would have set a better example for my daughter. But it turns out that He had other plans for me...I met a wonderful Christian man who is my soul mate. If you feel the Lord is telling you something it's important to listen and follow through. We had a sermon on that the other day....the pastor was saying that not listening to the Holy Spirit is disobedience. Anyway, I hope I'm not rambling and I make sense lol...If you want to talk more about this please feel free to PM me. I'm here for support and advice.

I'll be praying for you