Self-Injury

skeetercts said:

Just figured I would you guys know....it is day three without cutting....Last night I was going to...but I stopped myself...so today is day three

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well done on not cutting for three days I know how hard it is as I SI all the time (although I am a week SI free just now ) there are lots of things you can try instead of cutting such as pinging an elastic band off your wrist, putting ice on the place you want to cut or drawing in red marker pen on yourself. There are lots oif ideas at SIAM. It is a Brittish site but the ideas are good none the less

Keep trying

Yours in Christ

Jay

dear Brothers and Sisters in Christ,
I have read all of the posts and comments on this topic.You have expressed much,given much comfort in seeking to help others.Those of you who know this affliction have various opinions,as to how to deal with it? although I have not done this myself, I have a daughter who has gone through this at a phase in her life.I myself am an abuse counsellor,mainly dealing with adults full-time.I may be wrong ,but I would surmise that many of you are youth,mainly in your teens,have little or no person whom you can talk to in regards to deep wounds,even abuses by others,pray but find little comfort,feel deeply the guilt and shame you cannot tell others.The little stresses in living your lives seem to only compound the heaviness of your hearts,and you find living day to day your only way of coping.Hence,the thoughts of suicide is a constant in your mind? Cutting, for females,(teens),and punching holes in walls,extreme anger,for boys(teens) is common for those kids who have no outlet to express themselves to someone,anyone.The hurt is so deep,and the pain so severe, that both these methods are used as a catalyst to getting in touch with that pain which many of you may deny within you? How? The wounding is to your spirit.the physical flesh surrounds your spirit,and in close proximity to your spirit.Spiritual pain, the deep seated woundings to your spirit require that if you cannot find a method of expressing to others what you need to,then you either cut,or hit,pull hair.Of course it is self-punishment,or self-anger,you have no one to hear you,no one to vent the pain to.Like learning to love, you also need to learn how to express your hurts to someone ,anyone. This is something you will grow out of if you can find the knowledge of what deeply troubles the inner you? It is also the stuffing within you which builds inside,and eventually the volcano erupts and this is done by you making it happen. How? you cut you,you hit something,you pull your hair,anything to cause you physical pain,for the spirit being so close to the flesh requires that you get in touch with your spiritual pain somehow.It does this in this manner,as the physical pain is created by you by your methods,you feel the physical pain, this in turn puts you in touch with the spiritual pain,and you are able to release a little.Not as much as you would like to,for it is only a temporary stopgap process for many. The best method is to have someone who is anointed by the Holy Spirit guide you in theraputic sessions to help you find the deep emotions within you which cause the inner hurt,and which is the real spiritual reason you overload in the first place. I hope I have given you some insights with this problem,your God is wanting your healing as much as you do, only His Holy Spirit can provide this,mainly through an anointed person working with the Holy Spirit.
In His love, lampwicke xxx



P.S. Healing comes through God,
your part in it,is provided through;talk,crying,huggs,laughter,song,dance,and
using ones (holy language) see,Romans 8:26,27, re;afflictions=infirmities

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My friends,
It was necessary that I left this site a short time ago,and I see that this thread showed up in the archives when I checked out the subscriptions, So I wanted to bump it up to refresh it,for I know that healing comes slow to many,without help in this area of self-punishment.Forgive me for having to leave this site, but;I will remain now, to help if I can.Should you need some help please PM. me,and I will respond in private to you. thank you for your kindness. In His love, lampwicke xxx

Talk to your youth pastor if you have one...it has helped me. YP's have usually had experience dealing with people like you and I and it could be beneficial if you found someone you could be accountable with that you are close to...someone to ask you every day, "have you pulled out any hair today," "have you cut yourself today" and just ask you how you are and if they would be allowed to pray with you over the evening, even if it's just over the phone. That's what has really worked for me. I suggest that you see a counselor or get on some meds...I am doing both...and it's working. It may take a while to find the right med or counselor, but don't be discouraged....and always think back on your previous thought as soon as you get down...if you find that the thought is negative, think about the positive...try this website to help you... http://www.geocities.com/captiveinmind/crisissurvivalskills.html and also this site... http://moodgym.anu.edu.au/ . I also suggest reading my thread titled "for those who struggle" and the book by Brennan Manning called "Abba's Child." Any of the above can really help.

I'll pray for you...I understand the downward circle that we get stuck in...

dear LAwise,
You have misread my post.I had been away from this site,for a while,and now have returned.Abuse counselling is my ministry for God.I do not require help,and if I did I would seek the Holy Spirit first,and man last, YP's or otherwise? It is admirable that you attempt to help others,yet it is obvious that doing good, for others is difficult when you are still working on your own unwellness within you.A compassionate heart is but a beginning in ministry for ones God,to be anointed and effective for God is needed to be truly a help to others for Him.
I do thank you for your comments of love,and desire to help others,for not many will/can step out for our Lord in this area of need.
In His love, lampwicke xxx