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I need a second opinion on this slight problem.

First of all, whenever I'm in town, Sherry, one of my cousins and whoever else (her mom, her dad) comes to see me. (I'm more close to the Gordon family.)
But my cousin Merrissa who I haven't seen in a LONG time. doesn't show up. We were childhood buddies, even.

So what should I do? My Mom says not to "kiss her butt"
(if u know what I mean) but I need more opinions on this one.

What if someone doesn't call u, or someone doesn't visit u? Is it "kissing one's butt" or not? For u to call or visit them? Should u wait for them to come visit and/or call?


 
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hi hun. :hug: i'd say throw the "kiss thingy" out the window and play it by ear. christianly. mom may mean well, i say honor thy parents. if you know what they mean. but honor Jesus first. you have a special prayer from me. try not to fuss/ try to forgive her over her lack of manners in keeping in touch. some people aren't good at it. even with people they love dearly. tell her you wish she's kept better in touch (but don't need to press the issue)... let your visit be nice.

maybe this is what your mum meant: just be you with grace in your pocket. :hug:
 
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I say go for it. Whatever the reason is for her not contacting you, it will get out in the open, and then you can deal with it. Maybe she's feeling the same way, wondering why you haven't contacted her. Or maybe she just feels you aren't that close anymore so she shouldn't make contact. Or maybe there's something else. But you won't find out unless you make contact.

And no, I wouldn't call contacting an old friend "kissing butt." Remember to pray to God, He points us in the right direction.
 
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goldenviolet said:
hi hun. :hug: i'd say throw the "kiss thingy" out the window and play it by ear. christianly. mom may mean well, i say honor thy parents. if you know what they mean. but honor Jesus first. you have a special prayer from me. try not to fuss/ try to forgive her over her lack of manners in keeping in touch. some people aren't good at it. even with people they love dearly. tell her you wish she's kept better in touch (but don't need to press the issue)... let your visit be nice.
goldenviolet said:

maybe this is what your mum meant: just be you with grace in your pocket. :hug:


This is a better idea. I do want to forgive, somewhat, without Moms knowing of course :p
 
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Onlythingavailable said:
I say go for it. Whatever the reason is for her not contacting you, it will get out in the open, and then you can deal with it. Maybe she's feeling the same way, wondering why you haven't contacted her. Or maybe she just feels you aren't that close anymore so she shouldn't make contact. Or maybe there's something else. But you won't find out unless you make contact.
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And no, I wouldn't call contacting an old friend "kissing butt." Remember to pray to God, He points us in the right direction.


I thought about that too. Perhaps she is feeling the same way. I'm getting pretty tired of feeling guilty for these decisions my parents make in regards to kissing up and stuff. So-called kissing up.
 
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bliz said:
Am I missing something??
bliz said:

When you are "in town", you are in the same town Merrissa is in, right? So.... why don't you go and visit her? Or, why don't you go out to lunch together?


We were going to go to her house (Sherry and I) and since Sherry had so much to do, and Merrissa nor her mom Aunt Robin was picking up the phone, it never was established. She was to do my hair. :(
 
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thenewageriseth said:
I need a second opinion on this slight problem.

First of all, whenever I'm in town, Sherry, one of my cousins and whoever else (her mom, her dad) comes to see me. (I'm more close to the Gordon family.)
But my cousin Merrissa who I haven't seen in a LONG time. doesn't show up. We were childhood buddies, even.

So what should I do? My Mom says not to "kiss her butt"
(if u know what I mean) but I need more opinions on this one.

What if someone doesn't call u, or someone doesn't visit u? Is it "kissing one's butt" or not? For u to call or visit them? Should u wait for them to come visit and/or call?

It is NOT about "kissing butt"! Is she your friend, or is she not your friend? That is the question.
 
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Well Perhaps there is another side Mom is trying to get you to explore--Are you setting yourself up for hurt and or rejection. When you say we were buddies, perhaps she has moved on. It would seem to me for Mom to be saying you are KA implies that you have already made attempts to restore the relationship that were unsuccessful? If so, you might just want to let it go?
"Shake the dust off your feet" is sometimes the best recourse....Loss of any kind is a bitter pill to swallow.

Just take a good look--Mom's usually have insight..
 
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