Scared....and Worried

[freedomnchrist]

I have never posted in here before.....not for sure why I haven't but....

My husband is a recovering addict.

We are both Christians...who love the Lord.

Long story short....

We were wounded by our current church....to which we stopped attending all together.

For over a year my husband and I were very involved in Celebrate Recovery and him in NA.

Over a span of 5 months......he no longer put recovery first.

He had a drink last night.

I never thought it would happen again...but it did.

We talked...and he decided he needed to become more involved again with NA and Celebrate.

I am scared. I do not want to go down that road again.

It almost killed me and him.

If he gets in trouble with the law again...he goes to prison.

I pray God gives me the strength to pray hard....and never stopping.

Freedom

 

[rushingwind62]

I am praying God will help him to stay sober and involved with NA and AA.

As for church me and Debi have the same problem. More so me than her. I have been hurt deeply by seeing and being a part of several church splits and one closed their doors completely. My pain is very deep and have not gone to church more than a dozen times in several years. My problem isn't with God, I love Him with all my heart, it is with all the gossiping, lies, and rumor spreading that goes on inside of church. I know I am suppose to go to church to worship God, but when you have been deeply hurt as we have, it makes it more difficult to break through. I am praying for you and your husband and all who have been hurt in and by churches.

 

[freedomnchrist]

I am praying God will help him to stay sober and involved with NA and AA.

As for church me and Debi have the same problem. More so me than her. I have been hurt deeply by seeing and being a part of several church splits and one closed their doors completely. My pain is very deep and have not gone to church more than a dozen times in several years. My problem isn't with God, I love Him with all my heart, it is with all the gossiping, lies, and rumor spreading that goes on inside of church. I know I am suppose to go to church to worship God, but when you have been deeply hurt as we have, it makes it more difficult to break through. I am praying for you and your husband and all who have been hurt in and by churches.

Thank you friend. It is nice to know someone else out there understands.

 

[BibleSender]

I am praying for you and your husband. 15 years ago I was an alcoholic and it destroyed my marriage but thanks be to God I have been set free. I have not touched a drop since and have never had a desire to.

It had to be God and I know if Jesus can set me free he will do the same for your husband!

God Bless!!!

 

[grammalamma2]

First of all, as humans we can sell each other short, but we can't sell God short can we? God has put you together for a reason, separation wasn't that reason. He will make you stronger with prayer and forgivness. Forgive one another and don't be afraid to get on your knees together. You'll make it, I hear it in your words. Don't give up, we are praying for you both. God help this couple to be strong and able to withstand the enemy that would try to rob and steal from them and their marriage. Help them to reach out to ones who will walk this walk with them. Amen. God Bless you both

 

[freedomnchrist]

Just a small update.

i have no clue if he has been using or not. I do know that whether he is or not...no longer matters. What does matter is that God grants me the strength to handle either outcome.

 

[Angeldove97]

Bless you Sister--- I'm so sorry you're going through this. I've had plenty of relatives who are addicted to drinking... I worry every day that I'm going to get a phone call from my Mom saying one of them has died.

He's a very lucky man to have you as a wife and I pray God will shed wisdom and love into this situation so you'lll know how to help your husband through this.

And of course, you have us here at CF--- please feel free to vent or ask for prayers or advice. This can be your little safe spot online and I'm sure some of us can offer up some good real life resources for you too.

 

[eatenbylocusts]

Just a small update.

i have no clue if he has been using or not. I do know that whether he is or not...no longer matters. What does matter is that God grants me the strength to handle either outcome.

Is he going to meetings?

My un-bf has almost 11 years of sobriety from drugs and alcohol, but when he took over full custody of his dd the stress that he was under was incredible. He almost started crying talking about how much responsibility he suddenly felt and with everything else that was going on one particular week he told me that this kind of stress used to be relieved by drugs and alcohol. He usually goes to meetings three times a week.

When his wife left him all the men in his small group stopped calling him. He was very hurt and left the church. He did find another one near his house but sits in the back row and doesn't want to get to know anyone there.

I'm going to pray for you two.

 

[freedomnchrist]

So I am left with a difficult decision.

To stay or to go.

We have been married 4 years....a year of which...he was sober.

Faces prison time if caught again.

Found out today he failed a drug test and lost his job.

Claims he had two pain pills....one Monday and one yesterday.

After years of manipulation and lying...I am not sure what to believe.

The "insanity" is starting to set in.

No one to talk to.....the people at church....are not who I thought they were.

I do not know what the right decision is.

To stay or to go.

No one but God can tell me that.

I can't believe I am here again...in this place...with these same feelings.

I do not know what to feel.

Meetings...he can go to meetings like he did before and fake it.

So...the only thing left...is to pray that he gets desperate for sobriety again.

 

[rushingwind62]

Freedom, we are all praying with you. I can't tell you what to do, like you said you have to talk it over with God. It sounds like you have gave him chance after chance I know it is a difficult choice but if he is not willing to get help, I know what I would do if I were you. I'd leave and that maybe what it takes for him to wake up. Threats of leaving may not do the trick. But actually seeing you pack everything up and moving out my shock him sober.... We will continue to pray with and for you.
...Rob

 

[freedomnchrist]

Freedom, we are all praying with you. I can't tell you what to do, like you said you have to talk it over with God. It sounds like you have gave him chance after chance I know it is a difficult choice but if he is not willing to get help, I know what I would do if I were you. I'd leave and that maybe what it takes for him to wake up. Threats of leaving may not do the trick. But actually seeing you pack everything up and moving out my shock him sober.... We will continue to pray with and for you.
...Rob

Thank you my friend.

 

[Criada]

As you say, only God can tell you what to do.
I am praying for you, and for your husband.
Even in the most hopeless seeming situations, God can turn things around.

God bless you, and give you peace, sister.