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Sarcasm? Is it a sin (always?)

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I am feeling conflicted this morning. This is my first deep post on here since joining.

I personally use sarcasm at work all the time to motivate my employees. It is taken in fun. I even on occasion reassure them I do it in jest, because it does seem to motivate them.

One of them for example, I call a slacker all the time, because in all actually he is the hardest working employee I have under me. We all laugh.

Sometimes, I joke to him that he really only does 15 minutes of work in a week. We all know it is in good fun.

I googled "list of sins" this morning, and sarcasm was listed on there. I was a little blown away. Googling further, I find some people say there is "harmful sarcasm" which is a sin, and "helpful sarcasm" which gets a good point across. Then one person wrote that sarcasm to him is the #1 sin of them all because it is so easy. He writes that sarcasm is too easy for intelligent people to call into, and become become addicted to.

I always viewed my sarcasm as being playful, and lighthearted. I do not
wish to harm anyone with my sarcasm. Maybe I do?


So, is (all) sarcasm a sin? Do I need to completely revamp my personality? (No, I am not being sarcastic. :) )
 

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If you are playful and lighthearted, within reason I don't see anything wrong with it. I am playfully sarcastic in my sermons sometimes - but usually, it's directed towards myself. I used sarcasm for a long time to cover my insecurities. Now, it's just habit - one that God has helped me soften.
 
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If you are playful and lighthearted, within reason I don't see anything wrong with it. I am playfully sarcastic in my sermons sometimes - but usually, it's directed towards myself. I used sarcasm for a long time to cover my insecurities. Now, it's just habit - one that God has helped me soften.

Good call there storm dancer. I use it quite often to cover my insecurities. I have a lot of insecurities. I had a rough child hood. Picked on at school a lot. Didn't have much growing up, so I never fit in, in any of the crowds.

Sarcasm masks it, as you saw in my other post, a nice job makes up for some of it too. It is a way of making me feel better about myself.

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I am feeling conflicted this morning. This is my first deep post on here since joining.

I personally use sarcasm at work all the time to motivate my employees. It is taken in fun. I even on occasion reassure them I do it in jest, because it does seem to motivate them.

One of them for example, I call a slacker all the time, because in all actually he is the hardest working employee I have under me. We all laugh.

Sometimes, I joke to him that he really only does 15 minutes of work in a week. We all know it is in good fun.

I googled "list of sins" this morning, and sarcasm was listed on there. I was a little blown away. Googling further, I find some people say there is "harmful sarcasm" which is a sin, and "helpful sarcasm" which gets a good point across. Then one person wrote that sarcasm to him is the #1 sin of them all because it is so easy. He writes that sarcasm is too easy for intelligent people to call into, and become become addicted to.

I always viewed my sarcasm as being playful, and lighthearted. I do not
wish to harm anyone with my sarcasm. Maybe I do?


So, is (all) sarcasm a sin? Do I need to completely revamp my personality? (No, I am not being sarcastic. :) )

Go to the "Ask a Chaplain" forum. It's very helpful.
 
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Good call there storm dancer. I use it quite often to cover my insecurities. I have a lot of insecurities. I had a rough child hood. Picked on at school a lot. Didn't have much growing up, so I never fit in, in any of the crowds.

Sarcasm masks it, as you saw in my other post, a nice job makes up for some of it too. It is a way of making me feel better about myself.

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I was the same way. Even some of the kids in the "special" classes made fun of me sometimes, because I was so insecure and so shy. But God has used the toughness that childhood developed in me, and has told me to preach His word, no matter how much it angers people. I simply don't care if others don't like me or don't believe me. I'm doing what God wants me to. Who cares what man thinks?

Several times, I have been given the message, "Never soften My message." I've gotten this in my own spirit during prayer, and it's been verified by others giving me similar messages.
 
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No sarcasam is not wrong - even Jesus used it - He said take the plank out of your own eye before you take the splinter out of another and many more. If you are trying to make a point - it is fine - if you are trying to hurt - it is wrong - you know your heart and so does Jesus.
 
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I am feeling conflicted this morning. This is my first deep post on here since joining.

I personally use sarcasm at work all the time to motivate my employees. It is taken in fun. I even on occasion reassure them I do it in jest, because it does seem to motivate them.

One of them for example, I call a slacker all the time, because in all actually he is the hardest working employee I have under me. We all laugh.

Sometimes, I joke to him that he really only does 15 minutes of work in a week. We all know it is in good fun.

I googled "list of sins" this morning, and sarcasm was listed on there. I was a little blown away. Googling further, I find some people say there is "harmful sarcasm" which is a sin, and "helpful sarcasm" which gets a good point across. Then one person wrote that sarcasm to him is the #1 sin of them all because it is so easy. He writes that sarcasm is too easy for intelligent people to call into, and become become addicted to.

I always viewed my sarcasm as being playful, and lighthearted. I do not
wish to harm anyone with my sarcasm. Maybe I do?


So, is (all) sarcasm a sin? Do I need to completely revamp my personality? (No, I am not being sarcastic. :) )
Here's an example of Paul's sarcasm, which we read and try to find strength from, every time we read this letter (sarcasm intentional :)):

2 Cor 12
"But be that as it may, I did not burden you myself; nevertheless, crafty fellow that I am, I took you in by deceit.
Certainly I have not taken advantage of you through any of those whom I have sent to you, have I?"


Christianity is not about "is it sin, or is it not sin?" Christianity is not about a line drawn in the sand, such that if I stay on this side of the line, or convince myself I haven't crossed the line, I'm successful; and if I cross that line, I'm not successful.

The Christian life is largely about battle; you learn how to fight, and when you fail in the fight you don't justify it, you go to the Captain and discuss with Him future strategy, admitting the error you made in the last battle. The Captain's response is not about condemning you and telling you to do better; it is about interacting with you to learn what went wrong and what to do next time.

The Lord may merely be convicting you of this sarcasm and wanting to let the Lord Jesus come through your personality in a more effective way. Rather than trying to determine "is it a sin; is it not a sin", walk with Him and see what He tells you.

What anyone else says doesn't matter, beyond just counsel.

H.
 
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I am feeling conflicted this morning. This is my first deep post on here since joining.

I personally use sarcasm at work all the time to motivate my employees. It is taken in fun. I even on occasion reassure them I do it in jest, because it does seem to motivate them.

One of them for example, I call a slacker all the time, because in all actually he is the hardest working employee I have under me. We all laugh.

Sometimes, I joke to him that he really only does 15 minutes of work in a week. We all know it is in good fun.

I googled "list of sins" this morning, and sarcasm was listed on there. I was a little blown away. Googling further, I find some people say there is "harmful sarcasm" which is a sin, and "helpful sarcasm" which gets a good point across. Then one person wrote that sarcasm to him is the #1 sin of them all because it is so easy. He writes that sarcasm is too easy for intelligent people to call into, and become become addicted to.

I always viewed my sarcasm as being playful, and lighthearted. I do not
wish to harm anyone with my sarcasm. Maybe I do?


So, is (all) sarcasm a sin? Do I need to completely revamp my personality? (No, I am not being sarcastic. :) )

God uses sarcasm in the bible, it's not a sin. Anything apart from faith in Christ is sin however.
 
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Sarcasm needs to be used carefully. Words are powerful and sarcasm does have the power to do harm , at times.

The first concern that I have is that sarcasm can hurt people's feelings.

One thing which I have observed is that sarcasm generally is a more aggressive or at least a very assertive form of communication. If I were to compare it to physical terms , sarcasm is the verbal form of two teenage boys rough housing.


Consider if you used the same technique on your spouse ? " Look at how ugly and fat you look in those jeans. "... " not sure why I married a slob like you " , etc. All meant as sarcastic , of course. It has a roughness to it. Emotionally , it is an aggressive form of communication.

There is a modern proverb that I heard a few years back. It says " a Hammer is a really good tool for hammering nails , but it sure can hurt if someone hits you in the head with it. "



A second concern. There is a biblical concept of us imparting blessings to others through he words that we speak. It can be in formal ways or in less formal ways. People speak into another person's life. A birthday card , a Christmas present. An anniversary dinner. These are ways that people use to affirm other people in their life. In your context , there are websites that have all kinds of suggestions on ways that a person can recognize a good employee. Anything from employee of the month to a bonus on their check.

When you tease someone about being a slacker , you are using sarcasm to provide affirmation to them about their work ethic. I think this is an inappropriate way of doing that.

There is a time and a place for euphemisms. When someone has fragile and overwhelmed emotions , we often use a euphemism to shield someone from the full impact of the words being spoken. We say things like , " John is no longer with us " , rather than John is dead. Someone will say " big boned" instead of fat. Someone is " between jobs " rather than unemployed.

We use euphemisms to shield young children or to shield emotionally wounded people. Sometimes we use them just to have good manners and not embarrass someone.

Sarcasm seldom fits the purpose of sparing someone's feelings , though. What it has in common with a euphemism is that it is indirect.

I say be diligent to research out some other ways of communicating encouragement and lose the sarcasm.

Sarcasm has the rare instance where it's use is valid. But most of the time it is the easy way out. Better to identify what social skills need more developing in yourself than to go the way of sarcasm.
 
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Thank you Hupomone10...

You put it so well. I am good with words at work, but you did a great job here. You have helped me look at this in a better way, so much so, I am going to use your words in the future. They were very beneficial to me.

Thanks so much for brightening my day.

Cheers,

Joshua

Here's an example of Paul's sarcasm, which we read and try to find strength from, every time we read this letter (sarcasm intentional :)):

2 Cor 12
"But be that as it may, I did not burden you myself; nevertheless, crafty fellow that I am, I took you in by deceit.
Certainly I have not taken advantage of you through any of those whom I have sent to you, have I?"


Christianity is not about "is it sin, or is it not sin?" Christianity is not about a line drawn in the sand, such that if I stay on this side of the line, or convince myself I haven't crossed the line, I'm successful; and if I cross that line, I'm not successful.

The Christian life is largely about battle; you learn how to fight, and when you fail in the fight you don't justify it, you go to the Captain and discuss with Him future strategy, admitting the error you made in the last battle. The Captain's response is not about condemning you and telling you to do better; it is about interacting with you to learn what went wrong and what to do next time.

The Lord may merely be convicting you of this sarcasm and wanting to let the Lord Jesus come through your personality in a more effective way. Rather than trying to determine "is it a sin; is it not a sin", walk with Him and see what He tells you.

What anyone else says doesn't matter, beyond just counsel.

H.
 
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Thank you Hupomone10...

You put it so well. I am good with words at work, but you did a great job here. You have helped me look at this in a better way, so much so, I am going to use your words in the future. They were very beneficial to me.

Thanks so much for brightening my day.

Cheers,

Joshua
Glad to be of help.
H.
 
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I rebuke all of you fools in the name of the Lord Yeshua whom say that lying is not a sin.

The ten commandments condemn lying. Sarcasm IS LYINg PERIOD!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Lie carefully? Disobey the commandments of the Almighty Creator carefully? NO, it is black and white, it is a line the sand you foolish swine.


New International Version (©1984)
"Not everyone who says to me, 'Lord, Lord,' will enter the kingdom of heaven, but only he who does the will of my Father who is in heaven.
New Living Translation (©2007)
"Not everyone who calls out to me, 'Lord! Lord!' will enter the Kingdom of Heaven. Only those who actually do the will of my Father in heaven will enter.

English Standard Version (©2001)
“Not everyone who says to me, ‘Lord, Lord,’ will enter the kingdom of heaven, but the one who does the will of my Father who is in heaven.

New American Standard Bible (©1995)
"Not everyone who says to Me, 'Lord, Lord,' will enter the kingdom of heaven, but he who does the will of My Father who is in heaven will enter.

Holman Christian Standard Bible (©2009)
"Not everyone who says to Me, Lord, Lord!' will enter the kingdom of heaven, but only the one who does the will of My Father in heaven.

International Standard Version (©2012)
"Not everyone who keeps saying to me, 'Lord, Lord,' will get into the kingdom from heaven, but only the person who keeps doing the will of my Father in heaven.

King James Bible (Cambridge Ed.)
Not every one that saith unto me, Lord, Lord, shall enter into the kingdom of heaven; but he that doeth the will of my Father which is in heaven.

Aramaic Bible in Plain English (©2010)
It is not everyone that says to me, 'My Lord, my Lord'', who enters the Kingdom of Heaven, but whoever does the will of my Father who is in Heaven.

GOD'S WORD® Translation (©1995)
"Not everyone who says to me, 'Lord, Lord!' will enter the kingdom of heaven, but only the person who does what my Father in heaven wants.

King James 2000 Bible (©2003)
Not every one that says unto me, Lord, Lord, shall enter into the kingdom of heaven; but he that does the will of my Father who is in heaven.

American King James Version
Not every one that said to me, Lord, Lord, shall enter into the kingdom of heaven; but he that does the will of my Father which is in heaven.

American Standard Version
Not every one that saith unto me, Lord, Lord, shall enter into the kingdom of heaven; but he that doeth the will of my Father who is in heaven.

Douay-Rheims Bible
Not every one that saith to me, Lord, Lord, shall enter into the kingdom of heaven: but he that doth the will of my Father who is in heaven, he shall enter into the kingdom of heaven.

Darby Bible Translation
Not every one who says to me, Lord, Lord, shall enter into the kingdom of the heavens, but he that does the will of my Father who is in the heavens.

English Revised Version
Not every one that saith unto me, Lord, Lord, shall enter into the kingdom of heaven; but he that doeth the will of my Father which is in heaven.

Webster's Bible Translation
Not every one that saith to me, Lord, Lord, shall enter into the kingdom of heaven; but he that doeth the will of my Father who is in heaven.

Weymouth New Testament
"Not every one who says to me, 'Master, Master,' will enter the Kingdom of the Heavens, but only those who are obedient to my Father who is in Heaven.

World English Bible
Not everyone who says to me, 'Lord, Lord,' will enter into the Kingdom of Heaven; but he who does the will of my Father who is in heaven.

Young's Literal Translation
'Not every one who is saying to me Lord, lord, shall come into the reign of the heavens; but he who is doing the will of my Father who is in the heavens.


Barnes' Notes on the Bible
Not every one that saith ... - The Saviour goes on to say that many, on the ground of a mere profession such as he had just referred to, would claim admittance into his kingdom. Many would plead that they had done miracles, and preached or prophesied much, and on the ground of that would demand an entrance into heaven. The power of working miracles had no necessary connection with piety. God may as well, if he chooses, give the power of raising the dead to a wicked man, as the skill of healing to a wicked physician. A miracle is a display "of his own power" through the medium of another. An act of healing the sick is also a display of "his power" through the agency of another. In neither of these cases is there any necessary connection with moral character. So of preaching or prophesying. God may use the agency of a man of talents, though not pious, to carry forward His purposes. Saving power on the mind is the work of God, and he may convey it by any agency which he chooses. Accordingly, many may be found in the day of judgment who may have been endowed with powers of prophecy or miracle, as Balaam or the magicians of Egypt; in the same way as many people of distinguished talents may be found, yet destitute of piety, and who will be shut out of his kingdom. See Matthew 7:21; 1 Corinthians 1:26; 1 Corinthians 13:1-3. In this last place Paul says that, though he spoke with the tongue of angels, and had the gift of prophecy, and could remove mountains, and had nor charity or love, all would be of no avail. See the notes at 1 Corinthians 13:1-3.

Clarke's Commentary on the Bible
Not every one - Ου πας, a Hebraism, say some, for no person. It is a Graecism and a Latinism too: ου παντων θεων, not All of the gods, i.e. not Any of the gods, Hom. Odyss. Z. 240. So Terence Sine omni periclo, without All danger, i.e. without Any danger. And Juvenal: Sine omni labe, without All imperfection, i.e. without Any. See more in Mr. Wakefield. The sense of this verse seems to be this: No person, by merely acknowledging my authority, believing in the Divinity of my nature, professing faith in the perfection of my righteousness, and infinite merit of my atonement, shall enter into the kingdom of heaven - shall have any part with God in glory; but he who doeth the will of my Father - he who gets the bad tree rooted up, the good tree planted, and continues to bring forth fruit to the glory and praise of God. There is a good saying among the rabbins on this subject. "A man should be as vigorous as a panther, as swift as an eagle, as fleet as a stag, and as strong as a lion, to do the will of his Creator."

Gill's Exposition of the Entire Bible
Not everyone that saith unto me Lord, Lord,.... Not every one that calls Christ his Lord and Master, professes subjection to him, or that calls upon his name, or is called by his name; or makes use of it in his public ministrations. There are many who desire to be called, and accounted Christians, and who make mention of the name of Christ in their sermons, only to take away their reproach, to cover themselves, and gain credit with, and get into the affections and goodwill of the people; but have no hearty love to Christ, nor true faith in him: nor is it their concern to preach his Gospel, advance his glory, and promote his kingdom and interest; their chief view is to please men, aggrandize themselves, and set up the power of human nature in opposition to the grace of God, and the righteousness of Christ. Now not everyone of these, no, not any of them,

shall enter into the kingdom of heaven. This is to be understood not of the outward dispensation of the Gospel, or the Gospel church state, or the visible church of Christ on earth, in which sense this phrase is sometimes used; because such persons may, and often do, enter here; but of eternal glory, into which none shall enter,

but he that doeth the will of my Father which is in heaven. This, as it may regard private Christians, intends not merely outward obedience to the will of God, declared in his law, nor barely subjection to the ordinances of the Gospel; but more especially faith in Christ for life and salvation; which is the source of all true evangelical obedience, and without which nothing is acceptable to God. He that seeth the Son, looks unto him, ventures on him, commits himself to him, trusts in him, relies on him, and believes on him for righteousness, salvation, and eternal life, he it is that does the will of the Father, and he only; and such an one, as he is desirous of doing the will of God in all acts of cheerful obedience to it, without dependence thereon; so he shall certainly enter the kingdom of heaven, and have everlasting life; see John 6:40 but as these words chiefly respect preachers, the sense of them is this, that only such who are faithful dispensers of the word shall enter into the joy of their Lord. Such do the will of Christ's Father, and so his own, which are the same, who fully and faithfully preach the Gospel of the grace of God; who declare the whole counsel of God, and keep back nothing that is profitable to the souls of men; who are neither ashamed of the testimony of Christ, nor afraid of the faces of men; but as they are put in trust with the Gospel, so they speak it boldly, with all sincerity, not as pleasing men, but God, and commend themselves to every man's conscience in the sight of God: such as these shall have an abundant entrance into the kingdom and glory of God. The Vulgate Latin adds this clause, "he shall enter into the kingdom of heaven", and so does Munster's Hebrew edition of the Gospel according to Matthew.

Geneva Study Bible
{7} Not every one that saith unto me, Lord, Lord, shall enter into the kingdom of heaven; but he that doeth the will of my Father which is in heaven.

(7) Even the best gifts that exist are nothing without godliness.

People's New Testament
7:21 Not every one, etc. The Lord has shown that the entrance into the kingdom is through the strait gate. He now shows more particularly what is needed to enter. Certain ones are described who cannot enter in. Not every one implies that some who say, Lord, Lord, etc. shall enter in. Those enter

that doeth the will of my Father. No one can be a citizen of the kingdom who does not obey the King.

Wesley's Notes
7:21 Not every one - That is, no one that saith, Lord, Lord - That makes a mere profession of me and my religion, shall enter - Whatever their false teachers may assure them to the contrary: He that doth the will of my Father - as I have now declared it. Observe: every thing short of this is only saying, Lord, Lord. Luke 6:46.

Scofield Reference Notes
Margin kingdom

See Scofield Note: "Mt 3:2".

Jamieson-Fausset-Brown Bible Commentary
21. Not every one that saith unto me, Lord, Lord-the reduplication of the title "Lord" denoting zeal in according it to Christ (see Mr 14:45). Yet our Lord claims and expects this of all His disciples, as when He washed their feet: "Ye call me Master and Lord: and ye say well; for so I am" (Joh 13:13).

shall enter into the kingdom of heaven; but he that doeth the will of my Father which is in heaven-that will which it had been the great object of this discourse to set forth. Yet our Lord says warily, not "the will of your Father," but "of My Father"; thus claiming a relationship to His Father with which His disciples might not intermeddle, and which He never lets down. And He so speaks here to give authority to His asseverations. But now He rises higher still-not formally announcing Himself as the Judge, but intimating what men will say to Him, and He to them, when He sits as their final judge.

Matthew Henry's Concise Commentary
7:21-29 Christ here shows that it will not be enough to own him for our Master, only in word and tongue. It is necessary to our happiness that we believe in Christ, that we repent of sin, that we live a holy life, that we love one another. This is his will, even our sanctification. Let us take heed of resting in outward privileges and doings, lest we deceive ourselves, and perish eternally, as multitudes do, with a lie in our right hand. Let every one that names the name of Christ, depart from all sin. There are others, whose religion rests in bare hearing, and it goes no further; their heads are filled with empty notions. These two sorts of hearers are represented as two builders. This parable teaches us to hear and do the sayings of the Lord Jesus: some may seem hard to flesh and blood, but they must be done. Christ is laid for a foundation, and every thing besides Christ is sand. Some build their hopes upon worldly prosperity; others upon an outward profession of religion. Upon these they venture; but they are all sand, too weak to bear such a fabric as our hopes of heaven. There is a storm coming that will try every man's work. When God takes away the soul, where is the hope of the hypocrite? The house fell in the storm, when the builder had most need of it, and expected it would be a shelter to him. It fell when it was too late to build another. May the Lord make us wise builders for eternity. Then nothing shall separate us from the love of Christ Jesus. The multitudes were astonished at the wisdom and power of Christ's doctrine. And this sermon, ever so often read over, is always new. Every word proves its Author to be Divine. Let us be more and more decided and earnest, making some one or other of these blessednesses and Christian graces the main subject of our thoughts, even for weeks together. Let us not rest in general and confused desires after them, whereby we grasp at all, but catch nothing.

Pastors that preach that lying is okay from the pulpit will burn in a hotter place in hell than those they have led astray.
 
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Sarcasm needs to be used carefully. Words are powerful and sarcasm does have the power to do harm , at times.

The first concern that I have is that sarcasm can hurt people's feelings.

One thing which I have observed is that sarcasm generally is a more aggressive or at least a very assertive form of communication. If I were to compare it to physical terms , sarcasm is the verbal form of two teenage boys rough housing.


Consider if you used the same technique on your spouse ? " Look at how ugly and fat you look in those jeans. "... " not sure why I married a slob like you " , etc. All meant as sarcastic , of course. It has a roughness to it. Emotionally , it is an aggressive form of communication.

There is a modern proverb that I heard a few years back. It says " a Hammer is a really good tool for hammering nails , but it sure can hurt if someone hits you in the head with it. "



A second concern. There is a biblical concept of us imparting blessings to others through he words that we speak. It can be in formal ways or in less formal ways. People speak into another person's life. A birthday card , a Christmas present. An anniversary dinner. These are ways that people use to affirm other people in their life. In your context , there are websites that have all kinds of suggestions on ways that a person can recognize a good employee. Anything from employee of the month to a bonus on their check.

When you tease someone about being a slacker , you are using sarcasm to provide affirmation to them about their work ethic. I think this is an inappropriate way of doing that.

There is a time and a place for euphemisms. When someone has fragile and overwhelmed emotions , we often use a euphemism to shield someone from the full impact of the words being spoken. We say things like , " John is no longer with us " , rather than John is dead. Someone will say " big boned" instead of fat. Someone is " between jobs " rather than unemployed.

We use euphemisms to shield young children or to shield emotionally wounded people. Sometimes we use them just to have good manners and not embarrass someone.

Sarcasm seldom fits the purpose of sparing someone's feelings , though. What it has in common with a euphemism is that it is indirect.

I say be diligent to research out some other ways of communicating encouragement and lose the sarcasm.

Sarcasm has the rare instance where it's use is valid. But most of the time it is the easy way out. Better to identify what social skills need more developing in yourself than to go the way of sarcasm.

this is the only lick of TRUTH in this thread.
 
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I am feeling conflicted this morning. This is my first deep post on here since joining.

I personally use sarcasm at work all the time to motivate my employees. It is taken in fun. I even on occasion reassure them I do it in jest, because it does seem to motivate them.

One of them for example, I call a slacker all the time, because in all actually he is the hardest working employee I have under me. We all laugh.

Sometimes, I joke to him that he really only does 15 minutes of work in a week. We all know it is in good fun.

I googled "list of sins" this morning, and sarcasm was listed on there. I was a little blown away. Googling further, I find some people say there is "harmful sarcasm" which is a sin, and "helpful sarcasm" which gets a good point across. Then one person wrote that sarcasm to him is the #1 sin of them all because it is so easy. He writes that sarcasm is too easy for intelligent people to call into, and become become addicted to.

I always viewed my sarcasm as being playful, and lighthearted. I do not
wish to harm anyone with my sarcasm. Maybe I do?


So, is (all) sarcasm a sin? Do I need to completely revamp my personality? (No, I am not being sarcastic. :) )

I dislike sarcasm for a couple of reasons. 1). A person doesn't know whether you are serious or not, whether you are lying or not. I recall a scripture in Matthew. But let your communication be, Yea, yea; Nay, nay: for whatsoever is more than these cometh of evil. Matthew 7:37.

A second reason would be that this sort of communication does not elevate or uplift, in general. Ref. Phil 4:8. "8 Finally, brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think about such things.


 
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What is understood never has to be explained. I use sarcasm day in and day out and I do it with my co workers and close friends but they already know that it is sarcasm! If it does not convict you, then do not worry about it! People take things and run with it! If it is only fun then it is only fun. Our thoughts are not His so these other commenters talking about people who use sarcasm are going to hell can keep that, simply because God knows your heart and He knows your intent! A lie is deception. Your sarcasm was not deceiving anyone because they knew that the co worker that you spoke of was a hard worker. Sarcasm makes the day go by faster. Joking is not serious only for fun. Get God out of this little bubble! And for the person that said Paul was an anti Christ... everyone starts off an anti Christ because we were born into sin so who can we listen to?
 
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No sarcasam is not wrong - even Jesus used it - He said take the plank out of your own eye before you take the splinter out of another and many more. If you are trying to make a point - it is fine - if you are trying to hurt - it is wrong - you know your heart and so does Jesus.

Is that sarcasm or allegory? Im not sure if sarcasm is always wrong but I think we all do things wrong, Forgivnes is needed, i'm sure you agree
 
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Sarcasm needs to be used carefully. Words are powerful and sarcasm does have the power to do harm , at times.

The first concern that I have is that sarcasm can hurt people's feelings.

One thing which I have observed is that sarcasm generally is a more aggressive or at least a very assertive form of communication. If I were to compare it to physical terms , sarcasm is the verbal form of two teenage boys rough housing.


Consider if you used the same technique on your spouse ? " Look at how ugly and fat you look in those jeans. "... " not sure why I married a slob like you " , etc. All meant as sarcastic , of course. It has a roughness to it. Emotionally , it is an aggressive form of communication.

There is a modern proverb that I heard a few years back. It says " a Hammer is a really good tool for hammering nails , but it sure can hurt if someone hits you in the head with it. "



A second concern. There is a biblical concept of us imparting blessings to others through he words that we speak. It can be in formal ways or in less formal ways. People speak into another person's life. A birthday card , a Christmas present. An anniversary dinner. These are ways that people use to affirm other people in their life. In your context , there are websites that have all kinds of suggestions on ways that a person can recognize a good employee. Anything from employee of the month to a bonus on their check.

When you tease someone about being a slacker , you are using sarcasm to provide affirmation to them about their work ethic. I think this is an inappropriate way of doing that.

There is a time and a place for euphemisms. When someone has fragile and overwhelmed emotions , we often use a euphemism to shield someone from the full impact of the words being spoken. We say things like , " John is no longer with us " , rather than John is dead. Someone will say " big boned" instead of fat. Someone is " between jobs " rather than unemployed.

We use euphemisms to shield young children or to shield emotionally wounded people. Sometimes we use them just to have good manners and not embarrass someone.

Sarcasm seldom fits the purpose of sparing someone's feelings , though. What it has in common with a euphemism is that it is indirect.

I say be diligent to research out some other ways of communicating encouragement and lose the sarcasm.

Sarcasm has the rare instance where it's use is valid. But most of the time it is the easy way out. Better to identify what social skills need more developing in yourself than to go the way of sarcasm.

I agree.
 
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