Rules that help marriages

[Always in His Presence]

Rule One
Treat each other with respect, dignity and courtesy.

Rule Two
No pouting or shouting. Silent treatments and yelling are out.

Rule Three
Be gracious. Give each other the benefit of the doubt.

Rule Four
Be BIG FORGIVERS. Forgive as often as necessary.

Rule Five
Build each other up. Never tear each other down. Be cheerleaders.

Rule Six
No pity-poor-me parties. Grow up. Be secure. Act mature.

Rule Seven
Do not take up the spirit of offense. Warm hearts. Thick skins.

Rule Eight
Refuse to be bitter. Always choose to be better.

Rule Nine
Serve each other. How can I serve my spouse today?

Rule Ten
Keep the romance fire burning. Never let your love flicker.



Bonus Rules
Surprise each other with special gifts.
Get away from the kids for romantic rendezvous.
Write a love letter or love note.
Believe in each other. Trust each other. Bring out the best in your spouse.
Release the past. The future is forward. Reach for tomorrow together.


For Husbands

“Enjoy life with the woman whom you love all the days of your fleeting life which He has given you under the sun; for this is your reward in life, and in your toil in which you have labored under the sun.” Ecclesiastes 9:9

 

[mrhappy3]

you must be in the 1% club.

 

[Tenebrae]

I'd like to add another, developed from time working in the sex industry

Communicate.

Talk to each other, give each other room to speak and listen

So many times I saw clients who were only visiting me because they didnt think their partner would be interested in a specific thing. When they took the time to talk to their loved one, they all of a sudden found they had things in common

 

[Always in His Presence]

you must be in the 1% club.

No, not anywhere near 1%.

Just some observations on strong marriages and what are common traits that make them that way.

 

[Always in His Presence]

I'd like to add another, developed from time working in the sex industry

Communicate.

Talk to each other, give each other room to speak and listen

So many times I saw clients who were only visiting me because they didnt think their partner would be interested in a specific thing. When they took the time to talk to their loved one, they all of a sudden found they had things in common

That is true.

 

[Faulty]

Rule 11
Make your spouse your best friend.

 

[Messy]

Paul Simon: The only time that love is an easy game is when two of the people are playing.
I've been to a marriage retreat at Larry Stockstill's church in the past: basic needs of a husband: respect, appreciation for what he does, the rest I can't remember.
The woman that lead the sexual part for women: Never say no.

 

[tturt]

Wives need to learn what "respect" means to their husbands and husbands need to learn what "love" means to their wives. Based on Eph 5:33 "However, let each man of you [without exception] love his wife as [being in a sense] his very own self; and let the wife see that she respects and reverences her husband"

Also, when the couple has a disagreement that they both apologize that day before a certain point such as before bedtime. (based on Eph 4:26 "Be ye angry, and sin not: let not the sun go down upon your wrath:").

 

[mrhappy3]

All the above sounds perfect - I may have found someone to fit that bill,

 

[Always in His Presence]

I have the following posted in a couple of places I go daily.

Godly priorities:

1. My relationship with God.
2. My relationship with my wife.
3. My relationship with my children
4. My other family and friends
5. The ministry God has called me to
6. My interests

It is not the easiest, but certainly the most beneficial.

 

[sharoneiri]

I was in a failing marriage and only noticed the negative things about my husband after becoming very ill and having to rely on his support I began to realise what an incredible man he is. I have started showing him respect ,forgiveness and love and our 23 year old marriage is thriving.

 

[mrhappy3]

I was in a failing marriage and only noticed the negative things about my husband after becoming very ill and having to rely on his support I began to realise what an incredible man he is. I have started showing him respect ,forgiveness and love and our 23 year old marriage is thriving.

amen