Romantic friendship

[Miss Beth]

This is something that I have been thinking about for a while:

You meet a person who completes you and you are in love and she/he is in love with you and you begin a relationship but you don't have a sexual one, only emotional.

And is you commit to this kind of relationship with a person of the same sex can you be considered homosexual even though there is nothing sexual with your relationship and you are infact attracted to a people of the opposite sex?

Is it alright to either commit to a person in a legal and/or religious way, even though it is to someone of the same sex!

And is it alright to have outside sexual relations with other people?
What's your opinion?

 

[morningstar2651]

This is something that I have been thinking about for a while:

You meet a person who completes you and you are in love and she/he is in love with you and you begin a relationship but you don't have a sexual one, only emotional.

And is you commit to this kind of relationship with a person of the same sex can you be considered homosexual even though there is nothing sexual with your relationship and you are infact attracted to a people of the opposite sex?

Is it alright to either commit to a person in a legal and/or religious way, even though it is to someone of the same sex!

And is it alright to have outside sexual relations with other people?
What's your opinion?

Welcome to CF, Miss Beth. These are some interesting questions.

You meet a person who completes you and you are in love and she/he is in love with you and you begin a relationship but you don't have a sexual one, only emotional.

And is you commit to this kind of relationship with a person of the same sex can you be considered homosexual even though there is nothing sexual with your relationship and you are infact attracted to a people of the opposite sex?

That all depends on which label you wish to apply to yourself. If I fell in love with someone of the same sex, as in the situation you describe, I would consider myself bisexual. However, I've never been in that situation, so I label myself as straight.

Is it alright to either commit to a person in a legal and/or religious way, even though it is to someone of the same sex!

Legally, most certainly. Religiously, it depends on what your religious beliefs are. A good example from the Bible is the love of David and Jonathan. Some see this story and see a homosexual relationship. Others see a brotherly love. My religious beliefs are that homosexual relationships, sexual or not, are okay. I'm far more offended by people that break reasonable oaths. In my opinion, "Until death" is an unreasonable marriage vow, especially for young people that lack the foresight to realize the relationship might turn sour 10 years down the road. Such a vow could also deter someone from leaving an abusive relationship.

And is it alright to have outside sexual relations with other people?

My girlfriend is okay with me having sexual relations with other women so long as she approves of them and I share with her. It takes a lot of trust and honesty to be in such a relationship. We set certain rules that we both agree to and we don't break or bend them.