Street Preacher said:
I'll speak for myself, man can't repent without grace first.
Hi Jill, I agree with Street Preacher, what the thread you were reading was probably attempting to point out is that man, before God has changed his heart, is unable to truly respond to God. We are
"DEAD in our trespasses and sins, and are by nature, children of wrath" (see
Ephesians 2:1-5).
The subject of Calvinism is a fairly complex one and, if you are truly interested in learning about it, you might want to consider reading a small book called,
Chosen By God, by R C Sproul. He is a theologian and pastor ... and teacher (in one way or another) of many of us here (I wish he had been my teacher for ALL my subjects throughout my life ... can you tell I think a lot of him ..

), and that little book of his, though hardly exhaustive on the subject of the Reformed faith, has been the beginning point for many of us who have become Calvinists.
In the meantime though, ask away, and we'll be happy to answer the questions you have to the best of our ability ..
Yours and His,
David
p.s. - if you'd like, you can get
"Chosen By God" directly from Dr. Sproul's ministry (
Renewing Your Mind and
Ligonier) at either:
www.ligonier.org or at 1-800-435-4343.
Renewing Your Mind is his daily radio broadcast (and WebCast).