reunited long distance

[RomanPrincess]

Im talking to this man i met online(im 3 yrs older he is long distance several states away from me and we used to chat in the past(2 yrs ago).We are talking again have been for 7-8 months now and those old feelings are still there.They just never went away in all the time we have not spoken or chatted.
Things are good ,even better now and we know a lot more about each other..in fact just about everything.And as strange as it is he is like my best friend.He seems /is all that i hoped n prayed for in a mate.There is much potential for us in a relationship oneday.We have talked of meeting and he says we will. So i figured when God wants that to happen it will and in the mean time we just get ready and keep getting to know each other...more and more.
The thing is i feel like he could very well be the one for me but i don't want to get ahead of myself here.And it kinda scares me alittle cause i have not been in any kind of relationship for years and i guess just out of practice...LOL.But i did pray to God to send me a mate with these qualitys and low and behold one day out of the blue he IMS me online.God works in mysteryous ways.......He told me he always missed me.So we began again talking and it just keeps getting better.I believe God answered my prayer and sent him back into my life(even if only online for now). :O)
The thing is.. is it,would it be ok to chat with other people online...like him be talking to other women? Im not positive he is and he may be just as in friends but i am not sure he is.
We have not met yet and waiting for Gods timing....how will i know it is Gods timing for that to happen?
thanks

 

[HopeFaithLove4u]

The thing is, unfortunately you don't know if God sent him into your life.

You sound excited about him.....I don't think there's any harm in talking to other guys, on-line, since you haven't met this person, yet. Just be honest with him and let him know. Also, just be careful because people could pretend to be something they are not...just to please you. I know, because it happened to me, it wasn't an extreme case of deception, but my ex-bf was long distance and he was so good at pretending to be someone he wasn't. It wasn't until I went out to visit him (6 mos. into our relationship) that I saw the truth. I don't think he was TRYING to be devious, he just lied and pretended to be something he wasn't. People can do that really easy, on-line.......sometimes, if something seems too good to be true, then it usually is.

 

[RomanPrincess]

to hopefaithlove...yes i have read many of your posts on your online experience gone sour im sorry it didnt work out for you and he wasn't who you thought he was..
However i really do believe that my guy is not like yours and i really do believe God has sent him into my life again.it's just something i know.What reason/reasons/period of time/lifetime?/purpose.. ..i do not know that yet n only time can define that.
But i know with all my heart God has sent him into my life and i will not let anyone tell me otherwise...it's just something i know.
I honestly believe in him and i know he is who he says he is. :O) Glory to God.

 

[HopeFaithLove4u]

to hopefaithlove...yes i have read many of your posts on your online experience gone sour im sorry it didnt work out for you and he wasn't who you thought he was..
However i really do believe that my guy is not like yours and i really do believe God has sent him into my life again.it's just something i know.What reason/reasons/period of time/lifetime?/purpose.. ..i do not know that yet n only time can define that.
But i know with all my heart God has sent him into my life and i will not let anyone tell me otherwise...it's just something i know.
I honestly believe in him and i know he is who he says he is. :O) Glory to God.

sorry, I wasn't trying to sound unsupportive AND I misunderstood your OP.....I thought you were asking "how will I know if God sent him?" but you were asking "how will I know when God's timing is right to get together?"

I also wasn't trying to say that your guy is like my ex,
I was only saying to be careful.

God bless you both.

 

[alfrodull]

I know I'm not exactly mature, even for my age, but the topic caught my eye. I have been in a long distance relationship and wondered the exact thing you have. While the relationship has worked out wonderfully, I'm pretty sure I dealt with this particular bit wrongly.

It's a hard topic to bring up. We ended up not being official until two weeks before we were engaged, and at that point his asking was mostly a joke. Instead of beating myself up for months over whether he felt the same and what our status was, I probably should have clarified that.

Interpreting these kind of things is way harder long distance than in "real life". I can understand waiting until you're fairly sure he considers you more than a friend. But after that point, for both your sakes, it's probably best to discuss what you both consider you're relationship to be and whether you're exclusive. And not be wondering three weeks before you're engaged whether it's technically correct to refer to him as your boyfriend or not...

 

[RomanPrincess]

hopefaithlove..thats ok.

 

[RomanPrincess]

yea we have discussed our friendship/relationship and we both want to wait to date each other.He tells me all the time.

for me ,i believe and have Faith and i really believe.

 

[eatenbylocusts]

yea we have discussed our friendship/relationship and we both want to wait to date each other.He tells me all the time.

for me ,i believe and have Faith and i really believe.

I don't understand what you mean by "wait to date each other". Do you mean you are both waiting on each other and not dating others, or that you both are going to wait a while before you start dating?

I have read about a few LDR working out for people here on CF, but I would say you should be cautious. It seems like you've already made up your mind that he's the one and that puts you in a place where you may not see things clearly. I "knew" that God had brought a particular Christian man into my life and we quickly started pre-marital classes. My heart was broken badly because he was my first post divorce serious relationship and I let my heart go completely without any reserve. It was a very proper relationship and I really didn't understand how God could let me get hurt like that when we were doing everything right.

You need to be careful about equating what feels right, good, wonderful as God's will. If it is God's will it will be revealed over time, you won't need to make excuses about his behavior, the relationship, etc. Other people (wise) should also be able to give you some good feedback after seeing the two of you together. Do you talk on the phone with him? When is he going to visit? If he hasn't made a commitment (and I would say don't until you meet in person), you really shouldn't be taking yourself off the market.

 

[RomanPrincess]

we are waiting to date each other ,meaning he is not dating anyone and neither am i and we don't want to see anyone else...nothing wrong withthat.Yes we have talked over phone several times and he said we will meet soon.So yes i believe in him and us.