Do any of you have any restoration testimonmies? I feel that so many are standing for marriages and families and homes and it helps sometimes to hear other uplifting testimonies of what God has done for someone else..It just seems like the devil has been doing such a number on marriages and families and homes..
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Restoration testimonies
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Not yet! 
I know OF restored marriages, but none personally.
GREAT POST!!! This is a great thread!
I know OF restored marriages, but none personally.
GREAT POST!!! This is a great thread!
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tonya... I know of several, but have little time to write about them at this moment. I will do my best to post again tonight after work...Michael
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I hope to be able to come on here and give one...I can say God is working on both of us, and at least now we are communicating, and praying for one another...and that's a big step for us!! I gave him a couple's devotional bible....and I have one too...so that each day we can do one, and then email the answers to it's questions to eachother...I am excited to see where this takes us.....Kimberlytonya said:
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I told my wife she would get nothing from me in any way if she left. I would not see the children, pay child support, or be her shoulder to cry on. She came back after I kept her at arms lenght for 6 months to the day. It broke my heart but it paid off in spades. She is my wife, we have three more children, and she respects me while she doesn't have to work if she doesn't want to. I had to get angry and spurn her for her to respect me as a man again. Maybe it doesn't always have to be that way when a wife sees greener grass, but in my case thats the way it went. For those of you in the same situation I can only offer the suggestion of tough love as it is what worked for me. If someone else knows an easier way to win back an errant wife please let me know.
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Desidesi said:
Thanks for your words. I, too, have heard the tough love stuff...and know that it works..There is a book by Dr. James Dobson called LOve Must Be Tough...I have read it twice! Sometimes I guess lessons have to be learned the hard way Huh?
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Desi,tonya said:
I'm not sure about you not seeing your children and not paying child support...that wouldn't have worked on me. It sounds like more intimidation then love that brought her back..but I hope I'm wrong, and I hope your marriage is blessed.
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Fathers who don't pay child support can go to jail now. Thank God for that.desi said:
That's not tough love. That's taking out your anger at your wife out on your children, who are innocent. I thought you were a better person than that, Desi.
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Whoa guys...I totally did not mean to start a riot through this thread...I just wanted to hear testimonies of how people had their marriages and families restored...I do not totally agree with ALL that Desi did but he is a bro in Christ and he was kind enough to reply and tell his testimony...we are not supposed to be judges...and we do not know the whole story...BUT his family is back together and hopefully God is blessing it daily....
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To let a comment about not paying child support like that go is irresponsible. Regardless of the circumstances, little children are not to blame for their parents having problems. If there are extenuating circumstances, he should have made that disclaimer with the comment, or not made the comment at all.
I'm glad that they are back together as well, but if he were to callously neglect his children by not paying child support only to make a point with his wife -- then she isn't the only one with a serious problem in the marriage.
I'm sorry to have hijacked what is otherwise a great thread, but anything involving any children's well being bothers me. It should bother everyone.
I'm glad that they are back together as well, but if he were to callously neglect his children by not paying child support only to make a point with his wife -- then she isn't the only one with a serious problem in the marriage.
I'm sorry to have hijacked what is otherwise a great thread, but anything involving any children's well being bothers me. It should bother everyone.
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I wasn't trying to stir up trouble, but I do feel strongly about men/women not paying child support...and for a father to say he wouldn't see his children...just doesn't seem right at all. I am glad his marriage is back together. I don't think how he went about getting his wife back..according to what he wrote...is the right way to do it. No matter what, he should have been seeing his children and paying child support. Again, I'm glad they are back together...and I truly do pray that their marriage continues to be blessed.Flipper said:
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I feel bad that this thread was derailed. It's a great thread to have here - especially because restored marriages are wonderful examples of God's grace, His will and His willingness to answer prayers.
I would like to ask that people please allow this thread to continue in it's intended direction by deleting the posts that have derailed it. Thank you.
I would like to ask that people please allow this thread to continue in it's intended direction by deleting the posts that have derailed it. Thank you.
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I have known many marriages that have survived some of the most difficult challenges I have ever seen.
First couple Married now for about thirty years. Wife in a six-year adulterous relationship about ten years ago confessed to husband and asked for forgiveness husband, said no, I am asking for forgiveness for not being the husband/spiritual leader that I should have been and asked for her forgiveness they forgave each other and have an awesome Christian marriage now.
Second couple Married about ten years husband had affair with someone from church wife prayed for a long time in her prayer closet (literally) and was ridiculed for this by husband Jesus captured his heart (I believe due to her faithfulness) both doing very well about two years later awesome Christian couple great testimony about our Lord and prayer.
Third couple Married about eight to ten years husband caught up in substance abuse and alcohol had affair, divorced wife, married the other woman, had more children, ministered to by Christian brothers, divorced new wife (married about five years - relationship was a mess) remarried first wife now have all children under their roof remarried about five years now incredible relationship and an amazing testimony Go God!
Forth couple Married over forty years husband unfaithful more than once and abusive some years ago (alcoholic) still married and doing pretty well not always easy, but they live in the power of Christ who gives them strength beautiful couple.
There are at least ten other couples that have given their testimonies in my church in the past five years some doing a little better than others, but all give all the credit to God. All have said that that they could not have made it without the Lord.
I have personally known more Christian couples who have survived an affair and abusiveness than those who have succumbed to it in divorce. Unfortunately, I know of way too many marriages that have ended due to a lot less than unfaithfulness, abuse, or addiction. The number one reason(s) I hear given is - neglect, not in love anymore, spouse changed, irreconcilable differences and a host of other bogus reasons for divorce. If these couples can endure through some of the most painful experience one could ever go through, then I think we can all work on the littler things in our lives. Glory to God in the highest
Michael
First couple Married now for about thirty years. Wife in a six-year adulterous relationship about ten years ago confessed to husband and asked for forgiveness husband, said no, I am asking for forgiveness for not being the husband/spiritual leader that I should have been and asked for her forgiveness they forgave each other and have an awesome Christian marriage now.
Second couple Married about ten years husband had affair with someone from church wife prayed for a long time in her prayer closet (literally) and was ridiculed for this by husband Jesus captured his heart (I believe due to her faithfulness) both doing very well about two years later awesome Christian couple great testimony about our Lord and prayer.
Third couple Married about eight to ten years husband caught up in substance abuse and alcohol had affair, divorced wife, married the other woman, had more children, ministered to by Christian brothers, divorced new wife (married about five years - relationship was a mess) remarried first wife now have all children under their roof remarried about five years now incredible relationship and an amazing testimony Go God!
Forth couple Married over forty years husband unfaithful more than once and abusive some years ago (alcoholic) still married and doing pretty well not always easy, but they live in the power of Christ who gives them strength beautiful couple.
There are at least ten other couples that have given their testimonies in my church in the past five years some doing a little better than others, but all give all the credit to God. All have said that that they could not have made it without the Lord.
I have personally known more Christian couples who have survived an affair and abusiveness than those who have succumbed to it in divorce. Unfortunately, I know of way too many marriages that have ended due to a lot less than unfaithfulness, abuse, or addiction. The number one reason(s) I hear given is - neglect, not in love anymore, spouse changed, irreconcilable differences and a host of other bogus reasons for divorce. If these couples can endure through some of the most painful experience one could ever go through, then I think we can all work on the littler things in our lives. Glory to God in the highest
Michael
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He had been thinking about it for months. "I'm miserable. My wife is miserable. Why go on. It unfair to both of us." He built up his courage and approached her. "I want a divorce." His affect was flat and unemotional. He had built up his resolve and no word from her could touch him. He knew he was doing the right thing for the both of them. Surely, this marriage, in the state it's in was not what God had intended for either of them. So he stood up to her tears and pleading and left that day.
His words to her opened up a floodgate of emotions and an overwhelming fear. She felt like the earth had opened up beneath her. She was well aware they were both miserable. What about the promise they had made? Not just a promise before God, but to God. Everything they had gone through to understand the seriousness of that promise. "What am I going to do now?"
As he drove to his friends house, where he would stay, a song played on the radio that strengthened his resolve even further. It was an old eighties song, Harden my Heart by Pat Benetar. The words, "I'm gonna harden my heart, I'm gonna swallow my tears," became his mantra and helped him to stay focused on the goal.
She drove to her best friends house through blinding tears. Her friend was supportive. She complimented her on how well she was holding it together. Her friend pointed out that this was such a selfish move. "You will be better off in the end without him." The friend went on to list the warning signs going back to when they were dating. Of course, she hadn't said anything at the time, not wanting to interfer with a good thing, if she was wrong.
The next few days for him only built his resolve as he picked up his things, discussed money issues and made plans for his new life. His friend listened, but mainly kept silent.
The next few days for her were a night out with a fair amount of male bashing and many supportive phone calls from friends and family. She began to make plans herself.
Then she heard the quiet voice of the Holy Spirit. With nothing left to lose, she began to listen. She began a period of nearly constant prayer. It was a different way of praying than she was used to. Usually, she would do all the talking and when finished, move on with her day leaving God behind (probably scratching his head, remarking, "What was that?") Instead it was a dialog. She spent sometimes long periods in silence, just listenening to the Spirits instruction. She stopped making and taking phone calls. She fled from her current counsel and called a woman, who had been standing for her marriage for several years. She received edification and testimony to the power of God over our hearts. A tiny spot of softness is a door to Him. He found hers. The possibility still existed that He could find his. She made God a new promise. She promised not to let her heart leave the marriage unless or until he released her personally.
His friend was praying for restoration. Her friend was praying for restoration and now she was, too. Days turned into weeks and his heart began to soften one morning. As he began his day, he began to think of separation instead of divorce. It seems that that one thought was the door that was needed. Moments later, he began to talk to his friend. Out of the blue, his friend said "You are directly disobeying God!" At that moment he was broken. He says it was the first time he had any understanding of the words, "For the word of God is living and active and sharper than any two-edged sword, and piercing as far as the division of soul and spirit, of both joints and marrow, and able to judge the thoughts and intentions of the heart. And there is no creature hidden from His sight, but all things are open and laid bare to the eyes of Him with whom we have to do" Heb 4:12-13
They agreed to separate for a short time for the purpose of prayer and preparation. By the time he came home, God had restored their love for each other. Past hurts had been healed and even the scars had begun diminishing. They had been individually tested and each came through the fire stronger.
This is my true and personal story of restoration. May it be a blessing.
I Praise God for the blessings He has bestowed on this unworthy servant.
His words to her opened up a floodgate of emotions and an overwhelming fear. She felt like the earth had opened up beneath her. She was well aware they were both miserable. What about the promise they had made? Not just a promise before God, but to God. Everything they had gone through to understand the seriousness of that promise. "What am I going to do now?"
As he drove to his friends house, where he would stay, a song played on the radio that strengthened his resolve even further. It was an old eighties song, Harden my Heart by Pat Benetar. The words, "I'm gonna harden my heart, I'm gonna swallow my tears," became his mantra and helped him to stay focused on the goal.
She drove to her best friends house through blinding tears. Her friend was supportive. She complimented her on how well she was holding it together. Her friend pointed out that this was such a selfish move. "You will be better off in the end without him." The friend went on to list the warning signs going back to when they were dating. Of course, she hadn't said anything at the time, not wanting to interfer with a good thing, if she was wrong.
The next few days for him only built his resolve as he picked up his things, discussed money issues and made plans for his new life. His friend listened, but mainly kept silent.
The next few days for her were a night out with a fair amount of male bashing and many supportive phone calls from friends and family. She began to make plans herself.
Then she heard the quiet voice of the Holy Spirit. With nothing left to lose, she began to listen. She began a period of nearly constant prayer. It was a different way of praying than she was used to. Usually, she would do all the talking and when finished, move on with her day leaving God behind (probably scratching his head, remarking, "What was that?") Instead it was a dialog. She spent sometimes long periods in silence, just listenening to the Spirits instruction. She stopped making and taking phone calls. She fled from her current counsel and called a woman, who had been standing for her marriage for several years. She received edification and testimony to the power of God over our hearts. A tiny spot of softness is a door to Him. He found hers. The possibility still existed that He could find his. She made God a new promise. She promised not to let her heart leave the marriage unless or until he released her personally.
His friend was praying for restoration. Her friend was praying for restoration and now she was, too. Days turned into weeks and his heart began to soften one morning. As he began his day, he began to think of separation instead of divorce. It seems that that one thought was the door that was needed. Moments later, he began to talk to his friend. Out of the blue, his friend said "You are directly disobeying God!" At that moment he was broken. He says it was the first time he had any understanding of the words, "For the word of God is living and active and sharper than any two-edged sword, and piercing as far as the division of soul and spirit, of both joints and marrow, and able to judge the thoughts and intentions of the heart. And there is no creature hidden from His sight, but all things are open and laid bare to the eyes of Him with whom we have to do" Heb 4:12-13
They agreed to separate for a short time for the purpose of prayer and preparation. By the time he came home, God had restored their love for each other. Past hurts had been healed and even the scars had begun diminishing. They had been individually tested and each came through the fire stronger.
This is my true and personal story of restoration. May it be a blessing.
I Praise God for the blessings He has bestowed on this unworthy servant.
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sarah marie... Thank you for such a tremendous story. I confess that when I started to read it, I thought, Oh great, a story ripped from some book or something, but it wasnt long before I realized this must be your story (and no
I didnt cheat by reading the end of you post before getting to it at the end of my reading). Your story and the way you wrote it ought to be in a book to encourage people facing the same situation (or for that matter
a whole myriad of situations) I am so thankful to our Loving Father and that you didnt give in to the pressure of friends and the world, but held steadfastly to Gods Holy Spirit. What a blessing, not just for the two of you, but for the rest of us who are standing on Gods promises and His Spirits guidance for our broken marriages. I so whole-heartedly believe that if we all just sought after Him with our entire beings divorce would be a thing of the past. God does still do miracles
He still does restore brokenness
He still does want reconciliation and testimony of His faithfulness and goodness. You have much to be thankful for and I know that you are so very thankful for all He has done. May your experience light a fire in both you and your husband to fight for the sanctity of marriages
especially in our churches. God bless you sarah marie and thank you for sharing your true and personal story with the rest of the world
Michael
PS Please pray for the restoration of my marriage with my wife. I can't wait until God's Word cuts through her hardness. I love her so much and have grown so much in my understanding of what I have done to contribute to our separation. Thank you so much for your prayers...Michael
PS Please pray for the restoration of my marriage with my wife. I can't wait until God's Word cuts through her hardness. I love her so much and have grown so much in my understanding of what I have done to contribute to our separation. Thank you so much for your prayers...Michael
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Wow..Sarah Marie...what a touching and blessed testimony!!1 Thanks for sharing!I totally agree with what Desi did and I know it had to be hard for him, but his wife chose to leave and he had to show her not only what she was losing but what she was taking for their children. If his wife still was able to live the life of being with her husband even though she wasn't then she probably would have never came back. If she would have thought that her children would have still been able to see their father and have him financially provide for them she probably would never have seen the whole of the fact that she was robbing her children of the right to grow up in a home with both parents because of her personal feelings towards her marraige. I am almost certain that Desi was not looking at this situation as longterm or indefinite but hoping that it would bring about the outcome that it did. That his wife would come to realize what she was giving away and taking from their children and come back home.
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To sarah marie
Thank God for your testimony! My husband and I are separated and even though things don't look all that great I am pushing for a great work of faith. I know that God is not a respecter of persons and the same thing He did for you He can do for me. Keep testifying!
Thank God for your testimony! My husband and I are separated and even though things don't look all that great I am pushing for a great work of faith. I know that God is not a respecter of persons and the same thing He did for you He can do for me. Keep testifying!
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