Repressed memories

[elephunky]

Has anyone else had an experience where their mind has completely blocked it out?

I was either badly assaulted or raped when I was 10, while staying with my dad at his friends house for a week. The only parts of that week I remember were the first day (and part of the first night) and the bits where we were not at the house.

I remember his friend coming into my room, approaching my bed and then nothing after that. When I got back to my mums she said I would have a night terror of sorts every night at the exact same time. When she would ask me what happened I would say I don't know. She later found out from my nanna that my father and his friends were high on heroin the whole time. (father of the year award goes to...)

Skip forward 15ish years. Im sitting in a session with the pscyh. I say to her, I think I know where my social anxiety probably stems from. She says Oh? Tell me about it. I manage to say...when I was 10...and suddenly I couldnt speak. My vision went all weird, it was difficult to breath. Suddenly I get this intense emotional pain at the core of my being and before I know it my body is forcing me into the fetal position. I was crying tears that werent really from sadness.

The psych called this a traumatic response, my brain did not want me to go there. This was an indication that whatever happened was so traumatic that my brain has completely blocked it out.

I personally am glad I do not remember given how bad it must've been, however, Im not sure how to get over my current issues in order to lead a healthy life. I spend most of my time avoiding social situations.

Thoughts? Anyone else have repressed memories that still affect them?

 

[joey_downunder]

I remember several participants in my woman's group (for survivors of abuse) saying that it took years for memories to suddenly resurface.
e.g. one woman said in her 40s she suddenly woke up from horrible dreams about her grandfather and the abuse that had occurred. She believed this happened because God knew when she was finally strong enough to face it.

 

[RuthD]

You can heal without remembering. It is not important to remember what you can't. You just deal with your symptoms. I have repressed memories and don't want to remember them but sometimes they just appear. There is therapy that doesn't make you remember everything and you can get healed through it and through the guidance of Jesus Christ. I am praying for you.

 

[Johnnz]

Often after beginning to talk about past events. 'lost' memories come back, often to such an extent that the person begins to question the value of talking! But that stage passes. I suggest you continue talking with a suitable person and deal with what comes up as it occurs.

John
NZ

 

[RuthD]

Hi. How are you doing? Please give an update. Praying for your healing. God bless you dear. You will make it. You are in Jesus' hands and he will guide someone to help you with this. Are you happy with your therapist? I'm just asking because I went through several befor I was able to get real help. Life also heals us as time goes on. One day you will be able to feel better, there is lots of hope for you. God bless you. Jesus and I love you.

 

[elephunky]

Hi. How are you doing? Please give an update. Praying for your healing. God bless you dear. You will make it. You are in Jesus' hands and he will guide someone to help you with this. Are you happy with your therapist? I'm just asking because I went through several befor I was able to get real help. Life also heals us as time goes on. One day you will be able to feel better, there is lots of hope for you. God bless you. Jesus and I love you.

Im doing well thanks I am actually hoping to never remember, not sure I could deal with that. I find that the issues I have now arent as big as they could've been, but still not so good. Still trying to work out how to tackle those.

My therapist is pretty amazing. I hit the jackpot first go pretty much! I kinda feel guilty seeing as my friend has been seeing one for over a year and she doesnt seem to be much help, but she gets it through the government (so its free) so she doesnt get to choose.

 

[SharonL]

I have a friend that was in her late 50's - she always had a dislike for her father - but in church her memory came on full blown and she remembered the assult from her father when she was a young girl.

My step-son was molested when he was 7 - has blocked it out - he is now late 50's - at the time the counslor told us to ask him one time about it and if he told it that would be good, but if he didn't never to bring it up again. He and his sister (age 9) were both molested over a 6 month period - he remembered the sister's attacks, but never his own. Don't push it, just follow the advice you are getting from your treatments.

 

[RuthD]

Im doing well thanks I am actually hoping to never remember, not sure I could deal with that. I find that the issues I have now arent as big as they could've been, but still not so good. Still trying to work out how to tackle those.

My therapist is pretty amazing. I hit the jackpot first go pretty much! I kinda feel guilty seeing as my friend has been seeing one for over a year and she doesnt seem to be much help, but she gets it through the government (so its free) so she doesnt get to choose.

I'm glad you are doing well and you have a good therapist. I am praying for you.

 

[starsoul]

hi!

My memories began to come back at age 34, the book "the courage to heal' really helped me a tonne as it outlines the effect the abuse has in your life, so it doesn't matter how much or little you remember, you receive confirmation that it did happen and how to go about healing. This was the first book. John Bradshaw has a host of work, books and dvd's which helped, for me the series on The Family helped see the role my family has played for generations, and the book Co dependence No More by Pia Melody, was a constant source of wisdom. Then, naturally, there's all the spiritual that comes with it to heal as well.

I wish you well on your journey,

blessings and dreams, Linda

 

[artqween]

Has anyone else had an experience where their mind has completely blocked it out?

I was either badly assaulted or raped when I was 10, while staying with my dad at his friends house for a week. The only parts of that week I remember were the first day (and part of the first night) and the bits where we were not at the house.

I remember his friend coming into my room, approaching my bed and then nothing after that. When I got back to my mums she said I would have a night terror of sorts every night at the exact same time. When she would ask me what happened I would say I don't know. She later found out from my nanna that my father and his friends were high on heroin the whole time. (father of the year award goes to...)

Skip forward 15ish years. Im sitting in a session with the pscyh. I say to her, I think I know where my social anxiety probably stems from. She says Oh? Tell me about it. I manage to say...when I was 10...and suddenly I couldnt speak. My vision went all weird, it was difficult to breath. Suddenly I get this intense emotional pain at the core of my being and before I know it my body is forcing me into the fetal position. I was crying tears that werent really from sadness.

The psych called this a traumatic response, my brain did not want me to go there. This was an indication that whatever happened was so traumatic that my brain has completely blocked it out.

I personally am glad I do not remember given how bad it must've been, however, Im not sure how to get over my current issues in order to lead a healthy life. I spend most of my time avoiding social situations.

Thoughts? Anyone else have repressed memories that still affect them?

It will take time. And a lot of crying
Possibly. Talking about ur situation.
Ur dad got arrested right? Same with his friend? Also u should have received some type of compensation
For ur horrible ordeal.being raped
And being a child no less. :-( .
Its awesome u r so open plez keep this up. This is how healing begins
Unfort.ly u r not alone.. There r support groups for this. And remedies as well. If that is u in
Ur avatar...cool foto. Always talk to
Ur family and etc about ur dreams
And etc.. I unfort.ly see faces when i go to sleep. Somewhat creepy.
Ive never been raped though. My cousin Tryed to make pass at me when i was little. Gross. I told my mom and she told her sister. Then he got In trouble. Big trouble.
Always trust ur instints. If ur surroundings dont seem right...
Get help. my heart goes out to u
My friend. If u attend a church with
Ur family.. Talk there too suggestion? Never stop talking about
Ur ordeal. again find out if u have money coming to u for ur ordeal. U r intitled to a lot of money from this.
Positive vibes to u, plezd to meet u
And hi...dGirl..

 

[artqween]

Im doing well thanks I am actually hoping to never remember, not sure I could deal with that. I find that the issues I have now arent as big as they could've been, but still not so good. Still trying to work out how to tackle those.

My therapist is pretty amazing. I hit the jackpot first go pretty much! I kinda feel guilty seeing as my friend has been seeing one for over a year and she doesnt seem to be much help, but she gets it through the government (so its free) so she doesnt get to choose.

Can u talk to ur therapist and see if ur therapist can some how help ur friend? thats sad :-(. She should feel just good as u do when she goes to hers. Something about that in my
Opinion. R u on disability? U May to
Sign up? ask ur friend to do the same.. Suggestion.
Always smile my friend...

 

[samanthau]

I too was molested between age 9 and 10. I'm in my early 30s now and it seems that I'm starting to be effected by it in some ways. Sometimes your past doesn't resurface until you have a traumatic event to happen in your life. But its great that you are getting the help you need to cope with what you are going through. Praying for your healing. God bless.

 

[HisSparkPlug]

hi dGirl...
Yes. I was traumatized by neighbour men for years and blocked EVERYTHING out -- All my life I had no idea what was wrong with me.. I knew SOMETHING was... Only a year ago did God let me in on some of it and He says I am about to recover more of the memories.

I am so sorry you are going thru this.

To he that overcomes........ I pray He brings you thru in the quickest & most painless way possible

 

[God's Child]

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