Repentance/adultery

[uglytruth]

I have been studying marriage ever since I recommitted myself to Christ. I was unfaithful to my wife ( never had intercourse ) but there was a lot of in appropriate sexual contact. I feel his has called me to look deep into the biblical meaning of marriage. Thus why I keep bringing this up.

So I wanted to get everyones take, no arguing and scripture battling. Let's all try and put what we know is true in context.

1st.. Marriage is between one man and one woman for life..

2nd... God hates divorce..

Now let's look at scriptural grounds for divorce.. The only two that I see are death and unrepentant adultery. However many say that fornication is different than adultery and you can only seperate for fornication before the marriage. People say the niv has distorted the truth on this issue.

There are a lot of people who believe an adulterer put away for adultery can never remarry.. The bible confirms that. However does that mean unrepentant adultery? If god forgives your sins and casts them into the sea of forgetfulness, then are not the adulterers cleansed? If the innocent party moves on and remarries the bible says the old marriage can never be renewed thus forcing the offender to be single forever... Seems like dbl jeopardy.
If its true one who loses his right to remarry, even if he repents and his ex spouse moves on then that person would burn with lust, thus the bible says each man should have his own wife if he cannot control his lustful desires.

Many people will be quick to point out hey you screwed up now deal with it. However men and woman were born to sexual desires, and if you lust after women you will go to hell, so why not then remarry? Atleast then you could enjoy life on earth before being cast into hell.

The bible also says if your hand causes you to sin cut it off. If you look at a women with lust you should gouge out you eyes. Do we take take
That literally? Of course not.. Look at what David did he commited adultery wit beseida then had her husband killed... God blessed that marriage.

My question is this.. Is our god one of 2nd chances for everything but marriage? Is not losing a spouse punishment enough?

I'm typing on my iPhone do sorry for any mistakes.. I'd've not been in the bible very long so my scripture references may not be accurate.. Anyone willing to chime in please do so in a respectful way.

 

[achristian2]

Hi uglytruth,
Short of time to read your posts. But if you google for Paul Washer in youtube, he talks about how marriage etc should be like. He's a Godly man. Hope this helps.

 

[DiscipleHeLovesToo]

by 2nd chance i assume you mean forgiveness

the question isn't 'can God forgive?', but 'can you receive His forgiveness?'

Jesus paid the price for the sins of the whole world (1John 2:2), but many do not believe this.

be careful to not bring the law of Moses into your relationship with God. if you have changed (realized that you broke your commitment to your wife and that this was wrong, no matter what the actions were) and received God's already available forgiveness, then don't remind Him of what He otherwise remembers no more (Heb 8:12).

much of what Jesus said was spoken to israelites under the law of Moses before He had made atonement for all sins; look at what He taught through Paul (2Cor 5:17).

as for remarriage, let God lead you to a wife - He's smarter than we are

 

[uglytruth]

I hope he saves this one... But I believe god forgives the truely repentant and I know I've received his forgiveness.. The pain of what I caused will serve as a reminder the rest of my life.

 

[BFine]

Regardless of what does or doesn't happen with your marriage-- it is possible
for you to be happy/content with your life in Christ.

He alone is able to meet your deepest needs and heal any hurt...if you commit
yourself to Christ and abide in Him you can arise from any circumstance life
can throw at you.
The Lord can provide you with real hope, joy, and unconditional love--
no human can do that.

I came from what people call "nothing"-- we didn't have electricity or indoor plumbing,
our house was a shack and on top of all that, I lived in a racist area-- talk about the
deck being stacked against me lol!

That's how "human eyes" would of viewed my situation in life.
My father died before I was 5 yrs. old-- my mom is left with 3 children and she's
a thirty-something widow trying to scratch out a living-- she's not in the best of health either and there are times she is out of work for several months/ or even years at a time.

However-- she's a woman who loves the Lord and as she grows in faith and knowledge
of God's Word-- she grows bolder and wiser.

God provided for us beyond what I even thought was possible!

*Just so you know, my widowed mom never re-married....she's 80 yrs. old
at this time and has outlived 2 of her doctors (they were much younger than she is!)

 

[uglytruth]

Regardless of what does or doesn't happen with your marriage-- it is possible
for you to be happy/content with your life in Christ.

He alone is able to meet your deepest needs and heal any hurt...if you commit
yourself to Christ and abide in Him you can arise from any circumstance life
can throw at you.
The Lord can provide you with real hope, joy, and unconditional love--
no human can do that.

I came from what people call "nothing"-- we didn't have electricity or indoor plumbing,
our house was a shack and on top of all that, I lived in a racist area-- talk about the
deck being stacked against me lol!

That's how "human eyes" would of viewed my situation in life.
My father died before I was 5 yrs. old-- my mom is left with 3 children and she's
a thirty-something widow trying to scratch out a living-- she's not in the best of health either and there are times she is out of work for several months/ or even years at a time.

However-- she's a woman who loves the Lord and as she grows in faith and knowledge
of God's Word-- she grows bolder and wiser.

God provided for us beyond what I even thought was possible!

*Just so you know, my widowed mom never re-married....she's 80 yrs. old
at this time and has outlived 2 of her doctors (they were much younger than she is!)

I am growing in my walk everyday, things i thought were not possible yesterday seem possible today. I do long for a godly marriage, if divorce happens and remarriage never comes about god will change my desires.. However my hope still lies that my current marriage will survive.

 

[Eloy]

The problem with forgiveness for adultery in order to stay married is that the adulterer or adulteress many times abuse this atonement. One of God's names is Jealous, he is a jelous God and he will not share his sacred union with his spouse with another. When you commit adultery/fornication against your spouse you are betraying that sacred "ONE FLESH" union by allowing another stranger into your marriage bed. And no Christian will share their marriage bed with 3 in the bed, YOU, YOUR SPOUSE, AND SOME OTHER OUTSIDER. God forbid. When you lay down with someone other than your spouse you have spit in your spouses face and have placed yourself under the curse and under condemnation, and you may also have contracted sexually transmitted diseases and death and brought that into the marriage bed to your spouse. I really think the government should enact laws of prosecution against this criminal behavior, for it is not only spitting in God's face, but you are willfully bringing disease and death upon the innocent and faithful spouse and into the innocent household family members. As far as forgiveness, that is up to the spouse that has been betrayed whether they have any love remaining for you after you destroyed it by breaking wedlock. And of course you both should sleep in separate beds until you get tested for all the diseases, then there is a waiting period, and you have to get tested again to be sure that you did not pick up a sexually transmitted or fatal disease. Yes, one sinner destroys much good. Sin equals death. Do not do it, and remain faithful to your beloved spouse. God is not mocked, so do not defile the marraige bed and expect God's blessing for this disgrace. Amen? Amen.