remarriage after divorce

[simplyg123]

God hates divorce, and tells us not to sperate what he has put together, for when a man and a woman are married they are no longer two, but one. fused by god. If we arent supposed to divorce wouldnt that automatically rule out remarriage

 

[greatnut]

1 Corinthians 7:15 15 "But if the unbelieving depart, let him depart. A brother or a sister is not under bondage in such cases: but God hath called us to peace. "

As I read this, if a Christian has an unbelieving spouse and he/she leaves him, the believer is not bound to stay unmarried. And even if the one leaving calls themselves "Christian" - that too has to be questioned.

 

[simplyg123]

but preceding that


10 To the married I give this charge (not I, but the Lord): the wife should not separate from her husband 11 (but if she does, she should remain unmarried or else be reconciled to her husband), and the husband should not divorce his wife.
12 To the rest I say (I, not the Lord) that if any brother has a wife who is an unbeliever, and she consents to live with him, he should not divorce her. 13 If any woman has a husband who is an unbeliever, and he consents to live with her, she should not divorce him. 14 For the unbelieving husband is made holy because of his wife, and the unbelieving wife is made holy because of her husband. Otherwise your children would be unclean, but as it is, they are holy. 15 But if the unbelieving partner separates, let it be so. In such cases the brother or sister is not enslaved. God has called you [1] to peace.

 

[simplyg123]

it says they are not under bondage, but says nothing of remarriage

 

[HBCountry]

God hates divorce, and tells us not to sperate what he has put together, for when a man and a woman are married they are no longer two, but one. fused by god. If we arent supposed to divorce wouldnt that automatically rule out remarriage

No, not automatically. In the case of adultery (or fornication), A person can divorce and remarry.

Mat 19:9 And I say unto you, Whosoever shall put away his wife, except it be for fornication, and shall marry another, committeth adultery: and whoso marrieth her which is put away doth commit adultery.

G4202

por-ni'-ah
From G4203; harlotry (including adultery and incest); figuratively idolatry: - fornication.

On the other hand, is remarrying an unforgivable sin?

There is only one unforgivable sin and that is not it.

 

[simplyg123]

ok, i feel my mind has changed on this topic, i have read that verse before but i interprated it differently.

So from what i now gather, divorce and remarriage is only granted when fornication has played a role.

 

[HBCountry]

ok, i feel my mind has changed on this topic, i have read that verse before but i interprated it differently.

So from what i now gather, divorce and remarriage is only granted when fornication has played a role.

That is the way I understand it.

But you have to wonder about a marriage where the man (or woman) is physically and mentally abusive to their spouse.

I can not believe that God would expect one to stay in such a marriage. And I truly believe that it would be alright if they married someone else. God is fair and just in all things. And as I said in an earlier post - it is not the unforgivable sin.

 

[greatnut]

it says they are not under bondage, but says nothing of remarriage

Hi

What, in your opinion does the phrase "they are not under bondage" refer to. My belief is that a believer is not under bondage to the prohibition from remarrying. After all, the unbeliever has left - gone forever out of the believer's life. What must the believer do - supposing that the unbeliever may even have remarried? Is the believer now sinning by remarrying. I don't believe so at all - in fact it sounds ridiculous to feel guilty about wanting a home-life.

And, do you think that if Paul says that it is only his opinion - does this make it "non-scriptural". If one of the greatest apostles who ever lived and spent time with Christ for 3 years said its OK to remarry if your unbelieving partner leaves you and remarries - why would his opinion not be valid?

 

[Catherineanne]

God hates divorce

I disagree with this premise. There is no room in God for hatred of anything or anyone; only for love, mercy and compassion.

And because of this love, mercy and compassion, he certainly would not want a woman to remain in an abusive relationship which endangers her and her children. In such a case, he would, and does, both sanction and bless divorce.

This is my experience. I have had no hatred from God since my divorce, and I do not ever expect to have any. I have, on the other hand, encountered many Christians with rather less love, mercy and compassion, who clearly have never made a mistake themselves, and expect never to do so. Christians who even go so far as to call divorce a sin, when the Bible does not ever say that it is a sin.

Back on planet earth, however, Christ looks with compassion on each one of us, and meets us where we are. To suggest that marriage must always be for life, with no exceptions, is, imo, the moral equivalent to the ancient Hindu practice of suttee, where wives were immolated on their husband's funeral pyre. In fact worse, because the children are also sacrificed.

All of which can apply for men in abusive relationships as well, of course. The children suffer just as much, whichever way round it is.

 

[Limeade]

1 Corinthians 7:15 15 "But if the unbelieving depart, let him depart. A brother or a sister is not under bondage in such cases: but God hath called us to peace. "

As I read this, if a Christian has an unbelieving spouse and he/she leaves him, the believer is not bound to stay unmarried. And even if the one leaving calls themselves "Christian" - that too has to be questioned.

So you are saying that if someone leaves a marriage their faith should be challenged by the likes of you? Would it be fair to challenge your Christian title every time you sinned?

Back to the question, the Bible seems to say two different things. In one part it says divorce is NEVER ok, and in another part Jesus says its permissible if the other has cheated.

 

[Wootsy]

1 Corinthians 7:15 15 "But if the unbelieving depart, let him depart. A brother or a sister is not under bondage in such cases: but God hath called us to peace. "

As I read this, if a Christian has an unbelieving spouse and he/she leaves him, the believer is not bound to stay unmarried. And even if the one leaving calls themselves "Christian" - that too has to be questioned.

The word 'bondage' in the greek (douloo) has this meaning, taken from Strong's Concordence:

1) to make a slave of, reduce to bondage
2) metaph. give myself wholly to one's needs and service, make myself a bondman to him

As I understand it, Paul is teaching that the believer who is left, no longer needs to concern themselves with the daily duties of caring for the spouse that left (cooking, providing for, etc...). Paul goes on to clarify in verse 39 of the same chapter, that only death separates a legitimately married couple. If a divorce does happen, remarriage can take place to reconcile.