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Yes, that’s how it felt. I was safe to bear myself. I didn’t need to hide at all. It was very liberating. I see the wisdom and grace you’re mentioning.
I don’t believe I viewed it that way at the time. You’ve blessed me with this word. Thank you.
That's profound, isn't it? The safety of pouring it all out.... (it's also rare to find a friend who "hears" our hearts, and not just our "words").
Very refreshing was this. I recently asked God what it would take to start and sustain continual revival in my own personal life and what you posted was the very first point of obedience He gave me to do. Very good!This quote also comes to mind:
"Tell God all that is in your heart,
Very refreshing was this. I recently asked God what it would take to start and sustain continual revival in my own personal life and what you posted was the very first point of obedience He gave me to do. Very good!
Do Marquis De Sade quotes count? (you know the clean ones obviously..)
I remember him saying something along the lines of.. torment is the only path to a woman's heart.. lol.
From you of course. ;-)
Although, the older I become the more I realize that statement is less and less true. There are a sizeable amount of women who genuinely desire a tender kinder romance.
Also I believe there are studies that indicate as women get older they tend to settle down and want a more dependable and gentle type of man.
Still it bugs me when some feminists freak out when some men vent their frustrations that women want "bad boys" and they are met with scorn and generic unhelpful statements like "well maybe you're not a nice guy after all!"
Relationships and desire are complex.
Sufferance isn’t the path for most. There’s something beyond the ache. An ethereal oneness so to speak. But its entry is a barrier for many. You’d have to crave the emptying and nakedness (transparency) to take that road.
Some women desire a steeliness in their companion. They don’t want a man they can manipulate and wrap around their fingers. They want the reinforcement of respect and place.
What do you think the rough ratio would be?
I think that indicates a psychological neoteny where women tend to want to take on a more "childlike" role and men taking the more "parental role". This can still fall into gentleness and tenderness but it can also delve into harsher territory.
I think a realistic scale is 10-80-10. You’re dealing with the latter tenth.
Sufferance and internalization are kinsmen. You can’t have the former without it. In Christian circles mystics often fall in that group. Your tag bears witness to this.
Acknowledging ones desire for caretaking of that degree requires an honest embrace of vulnerability and recalibration on the merits of weakness.
Many enter the union with years of mental bombardment regarding strength. They can grow attached to the ideal and define themselves from that perspective.
Weakness isn’t a declaration of lack. Its proportion is measured against the other. When she forsakes the masks and rests in the core of her person the term is no longer threatening. She encounters the genteel beauty of its meaning.
His protection and nurturing aren’t meted due to incapacity. It’s a declaration of care and reinforcement of his need to provide for her welfare. Both are operating in their natural state.
Hmm.. you think its more like a bell curve? I guess as someone on the extreme end its hard for me not to have black and white thinking. Honestly the bell curve scares me. I've met many women who seemed somewhat compatible.. yet were not.
Nice to see someone else acknowledge this.
Tending to females and their safe spaces, and demanding that we be increasingly more protective over them.
Some people deride feminism as women wanting to be more like men, but there is also a very feminine psychology behind it.
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