Relationship problems

[gcooldude]

So I've been dating my fiance for six months, we got engaged about a month ago. I've developed very strong feelings towards her, obviously as I plan to marry her. However during the time we have dated, when she first met my family, we played some games and she gets quite competitive. I remember she was losing and out of anger/frustration and told me she hated me and not to touch her. She did apologize for that. During the time we've dated if I have said anything wrong or jokingly bugged my mother or my fiance she would slap me in the shoulder/chest but wasn't really a light slap, was rough.

My mom and sister have had enough after this past weekend when we were playing a game and whatever I said she hit me but had a game board from Scattergories in her hand and hit me with that and left a mark. My brother and sister-in-law were there but they really haven't been around her enough to notice much.

My mom and sister feel its abuse and nothing has changed since the beginning and they won't support us if I go back with her. Theres times when she can be controlling as I do have a laid back, easy going, soft personality.

I also had some sort of dream a couple of days prior this this that her and I broke up and I was trying to get her back. I feel this is something from God, a warning or something. I guess I just need some input from others. Its really hard thing to leave someone as I've never felt this way about someone as I have before but at the same time I know you should never lay a hand on your significant other and no other girlfriend I've had done this. I guess I find it hard to understand how someone can love you and do that.

 

[Servant_Of_The_Lord_Jesus]

Sounds like you have already got the answer my man. The biggest thing you need to do is step up and tell her she needs to control herself. She should not be hitting you that way, its not normal and its not part of a healthy relationship. Its one thing if its playful and light but if its leaving marks and hurts then no. Also when she is saying things like I hate you and do not touch me over a game? It sounds like she is still immature. The biggest things you need to do bud is to pray about this but also be a man and tell her she needs to stop this crap. If she lashes out at you, you need to get out of that in a hurry. Shes not the end all be all, there are a lot of good women out there. Don't stay in something like that because your afraid to be single.

 

[dayhiker]

You have talked more about your mom's and sister's feelings than of your own? How in touch are you with your feelings? What do you feel? If you think this is being abusive and controlling why are you letting her control you this way?

I think this is a good time to learn some communication skills. Have a talk with her about why she is so competitive, why she hits, and why she doesn't seem to have control of herself in those situations.