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camaross11

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I need a honest opinion from some honest good people. I have been dating this girl for going on 3 years now.we have had our problems for example she cheated on me with her ex about 2 years ago but 3 months after we broke up that time she called me said I made a mistake.im a firm believer that everybody deserves a second chance plus I really love this girl.everything was going great until the past couple months.she started ignoring me and keeping to herself.she swears she isn't seeing somebody else.so saturday she tells me she needs a break from everything for a while.which I respect. So I tell her why don't we meet up the 15th of oct just to talk as friends over a meal.

So im sitting here just heart broken and confused if I should hope and pray that she answers the phone that day cause we made the guidelines of no taking for a while. Or should I just let go and move on.but a big part of me wants to still fight for her and make things right again. Alot of people on a car forum im on didn't have anything good to say they all just said move on. But for some reason im having a really hard time in doing that.

She told me last week that she didn't wanna lose me and that she loves me but she doesn't no what she wants. Should I just give her room and be silent until the 15th (which is when I get back into town from training for work) or should I just move on. By the way I am 23 and she is 24. And she isn't my first long term relationship
 
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Both me and her we have so much in common and i get along with her family great. Everone keeps telling me to run maybe im looking for a reason not to I don't no.I keep thinking would if she does just need some space and soon enough things will be looking up again. I pray that god will help me make the right decisions in life I hope im attemping to make the right one here and be lead in the right direction
 
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I'm sorry, however, I'm going to go out on a limb and say...don't run. Use this time apart wisely. Seek God, be still and listen. God has already given you the answer He has for you. Allow yourself intimacy with God to hear it.
No one knows you, the gf, or the two of you together, on this site. God knows the plans He has for the both of you. That plan may be together, or apart.
No one can answer this for you except the Lord.
If you do let go of one another, allow God to be your everything, so you both can heal.
Be strong in who God has declared you to be....and don't fear His leading.
 
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camaross11 said:
Thank u...I am gonna take this break between us and trust my gut feeling and no that everything will be ok
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You're going to ignore the majority of advice given to you, and listen to the one solitary post that advises you to stick it out? Seriously? You're right, you ARE clinging to any reason to keep this girl around. Bad idea, dude. Bad. Idea.

I hope you wise up and figure out that there are much healthier, happier relationships possible.
 
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I wouldn't go as far as saying 3 years of drama we had a rough patch in the beginning then our current problem but what relationship doesn't have problems.not like for 3 years it was all drama.im still confused everyone is telling me to walk away but something is telling me to ride it out and see what happens. My last ex which I dated for about 3 yrs I didn't have a problem walking away...I can't understand y I am now
 
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My honest opinion is :why would you want to be with someone that treats you this way? Ok, she's confused she doesn't know what she wants but she needs a break from you?.......I don't understand taking a break in relationships: you are either together or you are not. It seems to me that she's made her choice. Personally, I would try to find someone that loved me and respected me as much as I did them, someone that was eager to talk to me everyday. It honestly sounds like she is playing games with you. If it were me; I'd walk away and tell her to call me when she was ready for a mature relationship. She knows you are always going to be there so, to me, it sounds like she's afraid to be alone so she's toying with you while waiting to see if something better comes along. Find someone that respects and loves you.
 
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