Relationship Episode (quality time)

[adnilgnav]

Quality time, do I demand too much?
I work 9.5 hours, I'm home for 30-45 minutes, I'm headed out the door for 4.5 hours, than I come home tired and 2-3 hours later I'm in bed sleeping.
He works 9 hours than is home for 8 hours before he's in bed sleeping.
What I don't get is he's got 8 hours of freedom and I've only got 2-3 hours. What I don't get is why he can't spend a full hour of quality time with me. Or at least 5 minutes. Yeah, true from the moment I walk through the door to the moment I sleep our conversations could add up to 45-50 minutes, but seriously 3 sentences every 15-20 minutes.
Than when I'm mad, he turns himself into the victim and I have to soothe my "wrongs" and put up with his way.

 

[HappGA]

I feel your pain. I work from 8-5. She works 8-5 then on monday and wednesday she has class from 5:30 to 6:30 and also on wednesday she has leadership class at her church. Tuesday and Thursday she has class from 8:30 to 9:30. She is pretty wrapped up with work, school, and church. I do not get to see her on Sunday because she goes to her mom's, and spends the day with her after church. I only get to see her on Monday night after school, unless she has to study for a test, Friday, and then some Saturdays. I want to spend quality time with her also. I guess I just need to back off, and that is what I am going to do. I am tired of doing the chasing so to speak. I just do not know if I can handle the holding back from her.

 

[~Beauty_from_Pain~]

I hear ya. My love language is quality time and so that is one thing that I need from my bf a lot. Our schedules are a mess though since he works mornings, has a few hours off, then works a few more hours. I, on the other hand, have classes and work too. It's a big mess.

I don't think that you are asking for too much. If he has free time then he should be able to spend an hour or so with you of that free time (or whatever you have to offer timewise). It sounds strange that you have to ask him for even that little bit of time.

 

[Briseis]

He is the one with the free time, so there should be no problem. Why wouldnt he want to spend time with you. You are together for a reason, arent you?

I have class 9-2, but he has class pretty much all day, and half an hour away from my school and home. Tuesday nights he has an evening class, and Wednesday night he has drama. Monday, Thursday, and Friday nights are free during the week but there is the problem of distance and the fact that I am not working, so gas money is not easy. We settle for two evenings a week. It is so hard

 

[MrsSeptemberPenguin]

Quality time, do I demand too much?
I work 9.5 hours, I'm home for 30-45 minutes, I'm headed out the door for 4.5 hours, than I come home tired and 2-3 hours later I'm in bed sleeping.
He works 9 hours than is home for 8 hours before he's in bed sleeping.
What I don't get is he's got 8 hours of freedom and I've only got 2-3 hours. What I don't get is why he can't spend a full hour of quality time with me. Or at least 5 minutes. Yeah, true from the moment I walk through the door to the moment I sleep our conversations could add up to 45-50 minutes, but seriously 3 sentences every 15-20 minutes.
Than when I'm mad, he turns himself into the victim and I have to soothe my "wrongs" and put up with his way.

I'm sorry. That's tough. My relationship is fairly similar...

 

[peanutbutter12]

Have you ever tried talking to them about it? I mean really discussing it and not turning it into an argument? Don't make people out to be victims and don't give people reasons to feel like them. Discussing it will probably help more than posting on a forum about it. :\

CJ

 

[adnilgnav]

all is well... I post only because i wanted to see it is common in relationships. I didn't not post to spread rumors or any such deals as you have assume.