I have just been diagnosed with Asperger's Syndrome. I have let some people close to me know. The problem is that their response is not always what i would expect. Several have commented that they hope i get better soon. I do not think it works like that, and instead wish only for their acceptance of who i am - a person of equal value to them, with autism. I do not see my autism as a disease that needs to be cured , but rather , as a part of who i am . I think that God has made me this way for a reason. I know that God does not make any mistakes. I do not have a problem with taking tablets for my anxiety or for depression ,if needed, for example, i am just against anyone trying to "cure me."
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Dear Drifter,
Hi, I know what you mean about people wanting to 'cure you.' I suppose they don't understand what it's all about yet. God bless you, and know I'm praying for you. Love, tapero
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They probably have no clue what Asperger's means... that you have strengths+weaknesses from Asperger's and the net effect is just different, not inferior. Uninformed people can unintentionally say things that you feel hurt by. Don't take it personally.
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Drifter,
I get you. I don't want to be "cured" either. But I sure do want to feel better about myself after what I have been through. I got diagnosed two years ago with AS and have been on a path of recovery...not from AS per se but from the traumatic affects it has played out in my life. The repeated misunderstandings and nonacceptance that gives distinct and powerful blows to myself esteem. But what I am finding out...is that I can not change how they view me...whether they will accept me, etc. I can not change them... I only have the power to change myself... the power and strength that has gotten me this far will contimue to be with me through my changes. But the thing is I need to learn to accept myself, my AS, my past, and my abilities as well as my differences. When I begin to do this I find myself... feeling better... I find that I attract others to me that accept me...kind of like energies bring attraction... like when you find someone with a similar interest... if I am interested in me and think I am pretty neat I will attract people who are interested in me and who think I am pretty neat. It is still a mystery to me somewhat in how it works but it has to do with something in the subconscious. But until I started doing it... and the attractions started happening I didn't really believe it... my therapist told me that I don't have to believe it...I just have to believe in the possibility that it might work... kind of like God and having faith as small as the mustard seed... it seems to have more of a snowball affect.
You are on a good path...keep with it... look inside... have faith in God that He will take care of everything...even if you don't get His message. This doesn't mean He will make your path easy... He doesn't do that... it is the hard road that will build muscles and character... He knows this and allows us to walk the hard road... it is just that sometimes we simply don't realize that He is right there with us on the path... because we are too busy looking at what path everyone else is on...and see their paths seem easier... but they aren't....the rocks they must climb is simply in a different spot on their paths. We just tend to get preoccupied with it.
But you know what else... God allows us to look the other way...else how would we know when we are on the right path when we look back and refocus our conecntration into the proper perspective unless we had something to compare to.
Hang in there... and give yourself some credit... you are on a greaty spiritual journey...
And as for the whole people want to cure you thing... it is about them not about you... you are different and they see themselves in you... so if they focus on "curing" you they are probably avoiding something in them that makes them feel different.
My therapist told me the other day that she believes that sometimes some peoples spiritual journey is simply to be an example of how not to be... LOL
In this case perhaps... God is showing you what path is not for you. Listen to Him...and let go of the others views... let Him walk with them and teach them what they are willing to learn.
And perhaps when it is time...He might show you more of what He wants you to say to others to be an example of what He wants to show others.
I already see in you things that is helping me in my walk. It is good to be reminded of where I have been...and wee where I am now... to progress...
and if you choose... you might look at me as being in a place that is different from you and choose whether you would want to walk a similar path with God... perhaps not the same but rather just in the same direction...
it does feel good when you find someone who understands...as I believe you do...understand some of where I have been... because I know I was in many ways where you are now... and I still fight similar battles everyday.
The fight will never be over... but it will get easier to fight the battles we repeatedly fight... and new ones will arise to take us into a deeper relationship with self and with God.
Tad
I get you. I don't want to be "cured" either. But I sure do want to feel better about myself after what I have been through. I got diagnosed two years ago with AS and have been on a path of recovery...not from AS per se but from the traumatic affects it has played out in my life. The repeated misunderstandings and nonacceptance that gives distinct and powerful blows to myself esteem. But what I am finding out...is that I can not change how they view me...whether they will accept me, etc. I can not change them... I only have the power to change myself... the power and strength that has gotten me this far will contimue to be with me through my changes. But the thing is I need to learn to accept myself, my AS, my past, and my abilities as well as my differences. When I begin to do this I find myself... feeling better... I find that I attract others to me that accept me...kind of like energies bring attraction... like when you find someone with a similar interest... if I am interested in me and think I am pretty neat I will attract people who are interested in me and who think I am pretty neat. It is still a mystery to me somewhat in how it works but it has to do with something in the subconscious. But until I started doing it... and the attractions started happening I didn't really believe it... my therapist told me that I don't have to believe it...I just have to believe in the possibility that it might work... kind of like God and having faith as small as the mustard seed... it seems to have more of a snowball affect.
You are on a good path...keep with it... look inside... have faith in God that He will take care of everything...even if you don't get His message. This doesn't mean He will make your path easy... He doesn't do that... it is the hard road that will build muscles and character... He knows this and allows us to walk the hard road... it is just that sometimes we simply don't realize that He is right there with us on the path... because we are too busy looking at what path everyone else is on...and see their paths seem easier... but they aren't....the rocks they must climb is simply in a different spot on their paths. We just tend to get preoccupied with it.
But you know what else... God allows us to look the other way...else how would we know when we are on the right path when we look back and refocus our conecntration into the proper perspective unless we had something to compare to.
Hang in there... and give yourself some credit... you are on a greaty spiritual journey...
And as for the whole people want to cure you thing... it is about them not about you... you are different and they see themselves in you... so if they focus on "curing" you they are probably avoiding something in them that makes them feel different.
My therapist told me the other day that she believes that sometimes some peoples spiritual journey is simply to be an example of how not to be... LOL
In this case perhaps... God is showing you what path is not for you. Listen to Him...and let go of the others views... let Him walk with them and teach them what they are willing to learn.
And perhaps when it is time...He might show you more of what He wants you to say to others to be an example of what He wants to show others.
I already see in you things that is helping me in my walk. It is good to be reminded of where I have been...and wee where I am now... to progress...
and if you choose... you might look at me as being in a place that is different from you and choose whether you would want to walk a similar path with God... perhaps not the same but rather just in the same direction...
it does feel good when you find someone who understands...as I believe you do...understand some of where I have been... because I know I was in many ways where you are now... and I still fight similar battles everyday.
The fight will never be over... but it will get easier to fight the battles we repeatedly fight... and new ones will arise to take us into a deeper relationship with self and with God.
Tad
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