Reconciliation ?

[IamG]

Hi

I was divorced 18 years ago, at the time my wife was having an affair with a neighbour and moved in with him.

After this I met a divorcee lady and we lived together for 18 years, in this relationship we had 1 daughter who is now 14 years old. We separated almost 1 year ago and during this period I became Christian.

I'm in regular contact with my ex partner and I would like to reconcile our relationship, But I'm not sure if she is willing to do this, I have asked her and she said no. However, recently she has been more friendly and is showing signs that reconciliation might be a possibility. However, as I understand it from a biblical perspective, I have to marry her and she also must become Christian before I do so? Also I'm not clear if as a divorced man I can remarry and also as a divorced woman she can remarry?

If the answer to these questions is yes, then I'm not certain that she would become Christian and if she would consider marrying. I do love her still and want to restore our relationship with view to bringing my daughter up in a Christian household. I would like some advice on this without criticism please.

 

[dayhiker]

Hi G .. welcome to CF.
I think its wise to not think in terms of remarriage at this point. Since you two separated a year ago there must be some issues that caused that separation, so you two need to understand those and deal with them. Talk them thru, make some changes.

I think it would also be good to let her see how loving Jesus is bringing about a change in your life. This new relationship will strengthen some parts of your life and change others. What will she think of that. It takes some time to work thru each of these things.

 

[Messy]

I'd first pray for her that she gets saved. It gives a lot of problems with someone that's not. My second husband was an atheist and then I almost fell off my faith. I don't believe it's a problem that you both remarried and divorced, but you're just seperated. If she was saved I would say you could try it, but still, it's 18 years ago. Are you not just feeling hurt because of your second divorce? Maybe in the future if she becomes a christian. For you, I'd first focus on the Lord and grow in Him and then see if He wants it. But don't marry her if she's not saved.