Need prayer and suggestions. Been married for a little over one year. We dated for 10 months. The first 6 months she was finalizing her divorce from her ex husband. It started out as a friend and tried to keep it that way as I knew she needed to heal and did not want to be a re-bound and stated this alot!! She wanted to excel our relationship as she never loved somebody so much..I loved her also.
The last year has been filled without hurts. I held on too tight afraid that I was the rebound and she felt smothered and started to think she should have waited for her ex to come around. She has even told me she does not love him but it would be better for the kids but she loved me.
So now we are separated We talked after a week and she only wanted to hear what I had to say so I told her I loved her and wanted our marriage to work. She said she loved me but does not wants to hurt me.She said she looks back now and realizes she was an emotional state in her life when she met me and I was a rebound. She does not want to hurt me anymore.
So...where do I go from here. Is this a marriage that God does not want? Is it time to forget her and move on. Do we involve the church to save the marriage? Second marriages are hard I know that, but WOW this is HARD. I do not want to control anything so I leave it to God.
I dont want to involve our friends as that would make her feel like I'm stealing them or talking about her.
Suggestions appreciated..Prayer Required if you read this
The last year has been filled without hurts. I held on too tight afraid that I was the rebound and she felt smothered and started to think she should have waited for her ex to come around. She has even told me she does not love him but it would be better for the kids but she loved me.
So now we are separated We talked after a week and she only wanted to hear what I had to say so I told her I loved her and wanted our marriage to work. She said she loved me but does not wants to hurt me.She said she looks back now and realizes she was an emotional state in her life when she met me and I was a rebound. She does not want to hurt me anymore.
So...where do I go from here. Is this a marriage that God does not want? Is it time to forget her and move on. Do we involve the church to save the marriage? Second marriages are hard I know that, but WOW this is HARD. I do not want to control anything so I leave it to God.
I dont want to involve our friends as that would make her feel like I'm stealing them or talking about her.
Suggestions appreciated..Prayer Required if you read this
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