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I know this isn't really important but my sister Rebekah just left this morning to go live with my mother and I miss her soo. I knew she was leaving and wasn't that sad since we fight 24/7, but I didn't realize that she's practically my other half. We are only 13 months apart so we can relate very well. The whole summer she has been here we were going to kill eachother, but now that she's gone, I am soo lonley since we had just moved, and my house seems so big and empty. When she left this morning, I almost broke down but held it back. Than when she left and I put her favorite Good Charlotte cd in a song called Always and forever played. That's her favorite song, and it hit me. I've been crying all morning. You don't know what you've got till it's gone. And now that she's gone, she won't be coming back. I won't see her till christmas but it will only be a week because of school. Does anyone know how any ways I could cheer myself up. I'm scared if I call her I'll just break down and cry and ask her to come back, but I don't like to cry infront of people. I know this is random, but I really miss her.

-Ali Rachlin
 
I will pray that your relationship improve, and that as time goes on you both will grow closer.

It is normal for teens to have differences. I did with my brothers at your age. However, today, that has changed significantly.

Why not write to your sister, and let her know how you feel about her? A beautiful card, or a little gift in the mail might be just the thing!
 
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So you think thats what I should do? That sounds about right. It's just so weird how you can't stand that person but when your not with them anymore, you miss them soo, and it totally made me realise how much I love my sister. I mean, imagine if she got hurt really bad or you know, I wouldn't know what to do. Well thank you Beth, that helped me. I will do that.
 
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Ali

I am so sorry to hear this!

You have probably heard the phrase:

" Can't live with them, can't live without them"

now that is usually in reference to men but it can be about siblings too. When we realize that we can't live without them the most important thing is to tell them. And then look for ways of compromise that we can live peacefully WITH them, for soon enough live will separate you as you get older.

How far away is she? How long have your parents been separated? Is she younger or older than you? Can you both live with your mother?

 
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SonWorshipper,
Yah lol, I've heard of that phrase and I hear my step mother say it all the time lol. Well my parents have been divorced since I can remeber. I would have to between 6-7 years but there are the best of friends which is really good for me and my sister. I live in Pennsylvania and my sister and mother live in North Carolina. See, it's very confusing and a real long story so I wouldn't want to bore you with that, but me and my sister visit my dad every summer. My mother wanted to move to NC but was going to do it while we were with my father, than when my mother moved out there which was today, my sister left too. The reason being is I guess me and my sister just want to try somthing new. We've never been seperated before. I thought it would be a wonderful change for us, but it's like my other half is missing and I want her back. But what happend happend, and do you beleive that things happen for a reason? Well I do so when things happen that I really can't beleive it happend, I just tell myself everything happens for a reason. If God wants it to be it will happen. But now that I think about it, I remember my father saying what you want isn't always what God wants. Lol. that's so strange how I rememberd that. well thank you sonworshipper. You helped like always.

-Ali
 
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You aren't boring me at all. Especially right now you need to talk, to get it out, lots of emotions boiling over.You are feeling kind of lost right now, and vunerable. You can't talk to your Dad, or Step mom because you feel that they won't understand.

Actually what you are doing is a form of mourning, which right now is very appropriate. In your situation but also having to do with your roots, you see starting at sundown tonight it is Tisha B'Av meaning the ninth of Av ( July- Aug). It is a very sad time. I think I will go make a thread on this so everyone will see it. But this could be something that you could talk to your Dad about, maybe use as an opening to discussion and pray and see where it leads!
 
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Sonworshipper,
Wow, if it's not too much, when you get a chance, do you think you could explain a little more on Tisha B'Av? why is it such a sad time? This sounds interesting. About my sister leaving, it's like I want to talk to my father about it because this morning he was about to cry also because me and my sister have never been seperated before. My father is a pretty emotional guy when it comes to my sister and I lol. But I just can't bring myself to tell people how I feel usualy. I have a really big problem with that. See sonworshipper, it's like I don't want sympathy, I don't really like getting sympathy from people because I feel weird. I'm not sure why, but especially from my parents. And they get upset at me because I never tell them whats bothering me or what I'm feeling. Why do you think this is? Well I guess im just weird in that way lol. I will talk to my father about Tisha, I just hope hell stay on the subject.
 
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