reallyy need some guidence/help please

[helppppme]

I am a christian and i cant seem to overcome a pornography problem. i go like a week without looking at it and then i get sucked back into the hole and it is discouraging. i have been battling it like this for a while and i finaly am seeking some wisdom please. i need any tips, anything that is going to help me, even pray for me please. the weird thing about it is after i look at it i feel 100 percent terrible, i know its wrong yet i still do it. please help thanks

pray for me

 

[LekryceMack]

Many are in the same boat my friend. I was never really a porn addict but i had a addiction to touch and it was bad. I remember going cold turkey for a week (For God) and had the biggest temptation of my life this one day and then i went on this website that talked about why it is a sin and it had a prayer that came with it. Then from that moment i was free. I went from a guy who wouldnt go longer than at least 4 days without masturbating to being free of it for like 4 months or more. what I'm trying to say is. You are on the right and first track. Yes it is hard but it is not your efforts that will break the sin. Your efforts to stopping will only make it worst because your depending on the flesh and not the spirit. It is Jesus that will stop the habit. The grace of god is his power to not only cleanse us from sin (forgive us) but to free us from sin because as human beings we cannot break the sin. Why? we are born sinners and have a sinful nature. Thats is why when Jesus died. we gained victory over satan. Because we are saved by jesus who saves us from sin. Don't rely on yourself to break the addiction. rely on the grace of god. God is the same page with you. I believe with all of my faith this very moment you are free. The difference now is that when you are tempted. (and you will be my friend, its what satan does.) you actually be able to resist it because of the grace of god. rather before where you would easily yield. I know it will be tough starting out. But trust god heavily and keep your faith up. Don't allow the devil to play with your mind and make you think your stuck in this addiction. Your not alone friend. God is here for you. Just give him your full faith.

 

[BeforeTheSanhedrin]

Perfect answer

 

[AfanofJesus]

Many are in the same boat my friend. I was never really a porn addict but i had a addiction to touch and it was bad. I remember going cold turkey for a week (For God) and had the biggest temptation of my life this one day and then i went on this website that talked about why it is a sin and it had a prayer that came with it. Then from that moment i was free. I went from a guy who wouldnt go longer than at least 4 days without masturbating to being free of it for like 4 months or more. what I'm trying to say is. You are on the right and first track. Yes it is hard but it is not your efforts that will break the sin. Your efforts to stopping will only make it worst because your depending on the flesh and not the spirit. It is Jesus that will stop the habit. The grace of god is his power to not only cleanse us from sin (forgive us) but to free us from sin because as human beings we cannot break the sin. Why? we are born sinners and have a sinful nature. Thats is why when Jesus died. we gained victory over satan. Because we are saved by jesus who saves us from sin. Don't rely on yourself to break the addiction. rely on the grace of god. God is the same page with you. I believe with all of my faith this very moment you are free. The difference now is that when you are tempted. (and you will be my friend, its what satan does.) you actually be able to resist it because of the grace of god. rather before where you would easily yield. I know it will be tough starting out. But trust god heavily and keep your faith up. Don't allow the devil to play with your mind and make you think your stuck in this addiction. Your not alone friend. God is here for you. Just give him your full faith.

Can't someone make this an FAQ somewhere! You are like a saint! Thanks!

I kind of feel like "please, don't go there again" but really, would someone in a humble and relaxed way explain to me why God would see all kinds of masturbation as a sin? Of course I see how everyday masturbation will disturb the relationship to God creating a sort of dependency, I see how viewing porn etc. definitely could damage yourself, but not to forget support the awful pornindustry. Although I do quite often think in the ways like "Why would God give us this possibility of pleasing ourselves if he didn't intend for us to use it? Why isn't it stated more clearly in the Bible that it's wrong? Why does so many people (at least here in the liberal, secular north of Europe) argue that it's not a sin, that "discovering" your body is a good thing?"

My goal is not to deffend it, if it's obvious that I'm on the wrong track, if this thinking really could harm me, tell me! It's nothing I want to be part of!

Bless you all!

 

[arvbuddy]

I just wanted to add something since I agree with all that was said In my life group we have accountability time with the Guys. Something that I got on my network and laptop is called Open DNS and x3 watch. The x3 watch will email weekly reports to whomever you want (leaders, parents, accountability partners, etc) with sites that have anything to do with Pornography. I don't know about you, but I sure wouldn't want to talk to my mom about why i was looking it up. *It actually happened once and boy was my heart racing. I NEVER did it again after that!!* Another thing I got is OpenDNS. It can go on your network to block a multitude of things from drugs, violence, anime/manga, to porn and adware and the likes. I highly suggest it. You won't regret it

 

[AfanofJesus]

Something that I got on my network and laptop is called Open DNS and x3 watch. The x3 watch will email weekly reports to whomever you want (leaders, parents, accountability partners, etc) with sites that have anything to do with Pornography. I don't know about you, but I sure wouldn't want to talk to my mom about why i was looking it up. *It actually happened once and boy was my heart racing. I NEVER did it again after that!!* Another thing I got is OpenDNS. It can go on your network to block a multitude of things from drugs, violence, anime/manga, to porn and adware and the likes. I highly suggest it. You won't regret it

This is a great tip, it's generally something useful if one is over-using a website etc. online which could involve all from porn to a game or whatever. Although I myself would rather attack the source of the probelm rather than just stopping myself from doing whatever the said problem results in. For example, if you have a huge sexual lust and use to touch a lot I'd rather find reasons for why it was wrong and decide to not do it, rather than have like a device giving me an electric chock everytime I do it. Likewise with watching porn, which I think people do while masturbating - then I'd rather would want to stop masturbating.

Although, when failing with choosing not to do one or another thing, you tip would certainly help. Although, I'd still would like advice and opinions on what I wrote in post #4

 

[LekryceMack]

Can't someone make this an FAQ somewhere! You are like a saint! Thanks!

"I kind of feel like "please, don't go there again" but really, would someone in a humble and relaxed way explain to me why God would see all kinds of masturbation as a sin? Of course I see how everyday masturbation will disturb the relationship to God creating a sort of dependency, I see how viewing porn etc. definitely could damage yourself, but not to forget support the awful pornindustry. Although I do quite often think in the ways like "Why would God give us this possibility of pleasing ourselves if he didn't intend for us to use it? Why isn't it stated more clearly in the Bible that it's wrong? Why does so many people (at least here in the liberal, secular north of Europe) argue that it's not a sin, that "discovering" your body is a good thing?"

I'll tell you this in a humble and real way. Cause i just keep it real. First off what is lust. Deep abnormal desire for something you dont have. Some lust for food, money but most sex. Now, When you touch. You lust. I would know i had an addiction to the feeling and the act of it. It is a sin because it cannot be done or i should say enjoyed without thinking about any sexual relations you would love to do. The bible says lust is sin. So nobody can argue. Two, what makes it wrost really is the face that it gets worst. Every sin has pleasure. (The devil is smart like that) But its that temporary pleasure and the after affect is always you feeling like you did something wrong DEEP inside. And the act itslef grows and most ppl go from pictures, to magazines, and to porn, or heck to the act itself. Im no saint but i am delivered and it can happen to you to this very moment. Im telling you this from a "keepin it real" set of mind. God created sex which is GREAT. It is an intimate moment and act for HUSBAND AND WIFE. Yes we have sexual urges and they are not sinful at all. Its the reason we attract to our future mates anyway. The problem is that we have the holy spirit who gives us slef control (among other great gifts) but we eaither deny it, or dont have faith in it. God created sex, not masturbation. If anything Man created masturbation. Lets be real its an act that is praticed and learned and develops. How? Well because not everybody masturbates or know how to do it to the point of [bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse]. I hope this helped you friend. and i was on the same boat. But its up to you now to make the choice of trusting God to help you stop. Because you cannot stop by yourself. I would know. God bless.

 

[AfanofJesus]

Can't someone make this an FAQ somewhere! You are like a saint! Thanks!

"I kind of feel like "please, don't go there again" but really, would someone in a humble and relaxed way explain to me why God would see all kinds of masturbation as a sin? Of course I see how everyday masturbation will disturb the relationship to God creating a sort of dependency, I see how viewing porn etc. definitely could damage yourself, but not to forget support the awful pornindustry. Although I do quite often think in the ways like "Why would God give us this possibility of pleasing ourselves if he didn't intend for us to use it? Why isn't it stated more clearly in the Bible that it's wrong? Why does so many people (at least here in the liberal, secular north of Europe) argue that it's not a sin, that "discovering" your body is a good thing?"

I'll tell you this in a humble and real way. Cause i just keep it real. First off what is lust. Deep abnormal desire for something you dont have. Some lust for food, money but most sex. Now, When you touch. You lust. I would know i had an addiction to the feeling and the act of it. It is a sin because it cannot be done or i should say enjoyed without thinking about any sexual relations you would love to do. The bible says lust is sin. So nobody can argue. Two, what makes it wrost really is the face that it gets worst. Every sin has pleasure. (The devil is smart like that) But its that temporary pleasure and the after affect is always you feeling like you did something wrong DEEP inside. And the act itslef grows and most ppl go from pictures, to magazines, and to porn, or heck to the act itself. Im no saint but i am delivered and it can happen to you to this very moment. Im telling you this from a "keepin it real" set of mind. God created sex which is GREAT. It is an intimate moment and act for HUSBAND AND WIFE. Yes we have sexual urges and they are not sinful at all. Its the reason we attract to our future mates anyway. The problem is that we have the holy spirit who gives us slef control (among other great gifts) but we eaither deny it, or dont have faith in it. God created sex, not masturbation. If anything Man created masturbation. Lets be real its an act that is praticed and learned and develops. How? Well because not everybody masturbates or know how to do it to the point of [bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse]. I hope this helped you friend. and i was on the same boat. But its up to you now to make the choice of trusting God to help you stop. Because you cannot stop by yourself. I would know. God bless.

After posting my first post in this thread I've been thinking, reading, reflecting a lot about it, and what you are saying here just strenghtens my conclusion, thanks a lot. I agree sexual urges is beautiful in the right condition, for what it's meant, besides that NO. Thanks for a good reply, for info and encouragement.

How long was it since you decided, since you stopped? Ever got back? I mean it's hard to fight against it! During lent I've been fasting as good as I could (about 40 days is the goal for me) from masturbation, although I haven't made it completely. Almost, and somehow it actually helped me. I got away from it, but then you're back. It's so easy to look and that world and think "What am I doing, why fasting, why not enjoying myself and all pleasures there is, "everyone else" is doing it". Although I guess God knows the best for us, and from now on I will try.

Thanks a lot!

 

[LekryceMack]

After posting my first post in this thread I've been thinking, reading, reflecting a lot about it, and what you are saying here just strenghtens my conclusion, thanks a lot. I agree sexual urges is beautiful in the right condition, for what it's meant, besides that NO. Thanks for a good reply, for info and encouragement.

How long was it since you decided, since you stopped? Ever got back? I mean it's hard to fight against it! During lent I've been fasting as good as I could (about 40 days is the goal for me) from masturbation, although I haven't made it completely. Almost, and somehow it actually helped me. I got away from it, but then you're back. It's so easy to look and that world and think "What am I doing, why fasting, why not enjoying myself and all pleasures there is, "everyone else" is doing it". Although I guess God knows the best for us, and from now on I will try.

Thanks a lot!

Its been like 5 or 6 months. The longest ever in my life and i never went back still till this day. I will deff admit and tell you that it was pretty hard sometimes. The difference though was that, since i was delivered, It became a choice. Meaning i would be tempted and i didn't have to yield. Which i didn't. Scripture helped a lot too.

"Blessed is the man that endures temptation: for when he is tried, he shall receive the crown of life, which the Lord has promised to them that love him. James" 1:12
"Let no man say when he is tempted, I am tempted of God: for God cannot be tempted with evil, neither tempts he any man:" James 1:13

"There has no temptation taken you but such as is common to man: but God is faithful, who will not suffer you to be tempted above that you are able; but will with the temptation also make a way to escape, that you may be able to bear it." 1 corinths 10:13

Whenever i had moments of temptations i always meditated/pray to myself" Lord, your grace is STRONGER than the sin. Your grace is STRONGER than the temptations, your own words tell me i will not fall as long as i have and TRUST that i won't fall with you. Therefor i trust you. No matter how much the devils wants to slip me up he will FAIL in the name of jesus! You are stronger LOrd. I WILL NOT FAIL!"

There also this pastor that told me, "when you are tempted rejoice. Don't feel bad because you are tempted, but mainly because 1. you get to exercise your faith, and 2, you will overcome it. than rejoice even greater when you have made it." The devil will always tempt you. Thats why its important to first tell yourself, "God i want to stop but not with my own efforts because i am weak but with your grace and power because it is all strengths of strengths." Its a process, and ill tell you that it wasn't super hard like temped city or anything lol. But there were moments. Don't feel discouraged because you slipped up. God is on the same page as you and is helping. Most ppl think once delivered, never again will a temptation arrive. But like i said with the holy spirit. They will never make you fall. I also put away things that would tempt me. Like changing the channel if i see sexual activity that makes me "think" certain things, getting rid of magazines that were non porn but had too many girls in bikinis, and of not engaging in sexual conversations. All done by the grace of god. I believe this has helped you friend. I also believe you and i are here for a reason. I pray for you .http://www.christianforums.com/images/smilies/smile.gif
God bless.

 

[Nextstep]

I am a christian and i cant seem to overcome a pornography problem. i go like a week without looking at it and then i get sucked back into the hole and it is discouraging. i have been battling it like this for a while and i finaly am seeking some wisdom please. i need any tips, anything that is going to help me, even pray for me please. the weird thing about it is after i look at it i feel 100 percent terrible, i know its wrong yet i still do it. please help thanks

pray for me

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They offer highly effective courses for free to help those who have problems with porno and other addictions.

Turn to God and seek His help. He longs to deliver you.

 

[AfanofJesus]

Its been like 5 or 6 months. The longest ever in my life and i never went back still till this day. I will deff admit and tell you that it was pretty hard sometimes. The difference though was that, since i was delivered, It became a choice. Meaning i would be tempted and i didn't have to yield. Which i didn't.

That's a long time, inspiring! Hard, but worth it? It seems so. Even though I haven't really been in that situation when it comes down to this sin, (I haven't considered it a sin for long) I still think I know what you mean with having a choice. I'm longing to be in that seat, being able to choose. I almost hope I will be tempted, just to have the chance to turn my back to all what evil is and look to God!

Scripture helped a lot too.

"Blessed is the man that endures temptation: for when he is tried, he shall receive the crown of life, which the Lord has promised to them that love him. James" 1:12
"Let no man say when he is tempted, I am tempted of God: for God cannot be tempted with evil, neither tempts he any man:" James 1:13

"There has no temptation taken you but such as is common to man: but God is faithful, who will not suffer you to be tempted above that you are able; but will with the temptation also make a way to escape, that you may be able to bear it." 1 corinths 10:13

Whenever i had moments of temptations i always meditated/pray to myself" Lord, your grace is STRONGER than the sin. Your grace is STRONGER than the temptations, your own words tell me i will not fall as long as i have and TRUST that i won't fall with you. Therefor i trust you. No matter how much the devils wants to slip me up he will FAIL in the name of jesus! You are stronger LOrd. I WILL NOT FAIL!"

These verses are really supporting, I will read them, OFTEN. I will certainly always remember that "prayer" to, and somehow I just feel enlightened - I do believe in God, and I believe his helping us, I believe his hates sin. If he exists, sin exists, which also means that we shall be able to overcome sin in his name - so I will - if not, which I doubt, then we are the biggest fools in history, and sin doesn't exists. Seem like a win-win.

There also this pastor that told me, "when you are tempted rejoice. Don't feel bad because you are tempted, but mainly because 1. you get to exercise your faith, and 2, you will overcome it. than rejoice even greater when you have made it." The devil will always tempt you. Thats why its important to first tell yourself, "God i want to stop but not with my own efforts because i am weak but with your grace and power because it is all strengths of strengths."

Wow, this is exactly my reaction and spirit - to do what he said - Thank you God for providing this support and strength to me!

Its a process, and ill tell you that it wasn't super hard like temped city or anything lol. But there were moments. Don't feel discouraged because you slipped up. God is on the same page as you and is helping. Most ppl think once delivered, never again will a temptation arrive. But like i said with the holy spirit. They will never make you fall. I also put away things that would tempt me. Like changing the channel if i see sexual activity that makes me "think" certain things, getting rid of magazines that were non porn but had too many girls in bikinis, and of not engaging in sexual conversations. All done by the grace of god. I believe this has helped you friend. I also believe you and i are here for a reason. I pray for you .http://www.christianforums.com/images/smilies/smile.gif
God bless.

This have certainly helped me a lot, I'm ever thankful. I understand that it won't be easy - but I'm ready to take this fight with God at my side. Your prayers, and your support is worth everything.

THANKS!