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I came across this profile recently. Her desire is an excellent one. What strikes me is this - the difference between "pretty hard" and "not realistic" with regard to long distance. It occurs to me that sometimes finding whom you seek and finding someone local can be mutually exclusive. If you find what you seek, what effort is .really. worth it in your world? The great blessing vs. "too much"?Hi, I am looking for a local ..... person....since long distance dating/courting is pretty hard and not realisticThanks for understanding.
I am seeking a solid Christian man who is mature in his walk with the Lord and who's actions, behaviors, and words show his true character, beliefs, and what is in his heart. He needs to be a leader, a provider, have a sense of humor (love to laugh), and be a kind and loving man who knows and is willing to follow the roles that the Bible lays out for a husband and father.
nhzname said:I've heard of a many successful LD relationships and figure I should leave myself open to whatever God has in mind. Distance is nothing to Him so, I don't want my unwillingness to prove to be a hinderance.
KeilCoppesIt occurs to me that sometimes finding whom you seek and finding someone local can be mutually exclusive. If you find what you seek said:I'd say searching local does limit a person. Any relationship requires trust, but in a long distance relationship it's more apparent. While oneself is not tempted by the partner, there is always the thought/fear that the partner might be tempted by someone else. Unless the person sits home all the time, you know he (she) meets people. And from what I understand, even the idea he is going to an afternoon tea at his local church can be stressful.
And I do notice that the majority of people are "physical" - they need the presence of their partner. They don't see the purpose or sense in being in a relationship with someone when they end up being by themselves most of the time, e.g. though they do have a romantic partner they end up going to the movies with a family member or with a couple of gals (if they are free and don't have a date with their significant others) or they end up being the 5th wheel. They do feel lonely, regardless of how often emails and phone calls are exchanged.
Although some of the most successful marriages recorded in the Bible were long distance. Isaac's wife came a long distance. And Ruth, now there's a very good example. She left everything and everyone behind, yes I know she was not emailing with her husband-to-be ... but had she stayed, she would have not ended up with (forgot his name, can't think of his name - Obed?) ...
That's a key point - at the end of the day, couples in LDRs just aren't together for much of the time, so physical loneliness is stressful. Plus, it's hard to see many different 'sides' of a person if you only see them on the odd date, which causes friction later on, in my experience.carmi said:And I do notice that the majority of people are "physical" - they need the presence of their partner. They don't see the purpose or sense in being in a relationship with someone when they end up being by themselves most of the time, e.g. though they do have a romantic partner they end up going to the movies with a family member or with a couple of gals (if they are free and don't have a date with their significant others) or they end up being the 5th wheel. They do feel lonely, regardless of how often emails and phone calls are exchanged.
BoazAlthough some of the most successful marriages recorded in the Bible were long distance. Isaac's wife came a long distance. And Ruth, now there's a very good example. She left everything and everyone behind, yes I know she was not emailing with her husband-to-be ... but had she stayed, she would have not ended up with (forgot his name, can't think of his name - Obed?) ...
nhzname said:I've heard of a many successful LD relationships and figure I should leave myself open to whatever God has in mind. Distance is nothing to Him so, I don't want my unwillingness to prove to be a hinderance.
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