Real Question: What do you do?

[JennyJen]

I'm asking the ladies, but guys if you have any suggestions, feel free to chime in.

WHAT DO YOU DO when you're horny as heck? It's closing in to my time of the month. I've been celibate for about a year now. I've been fine. Then all of a sudden my body is speaking to me loudly.

What do you do? What should I do?

 

[com7fy8]

Each of us is different. God is creative with each of us, about what each of us needs to do.

You can talk with someone, but that person might be someone who can tell you what you want to hear . . . especially possible if you two have always been connecting and have a lot in common > then it is possible you will tend to agree on the same thing.

If you are now in "horny" time, your thinking could be clouded and this could even be why you are posting like you have, now.

I believe God's love does not have dominating and controlling urges and passions which are dictatorial and harrassing. Jesus is "gentle and lowly in heart, and you will find rest for your souls." (in Matthew 11:29)

With growing, it seems to me, I have become more and more strong against different feelings and drives controlling me. And giving in to pleasure drives or pain reacting has gotten me into what is yucky and not into God's beautiful and pure and kind and tenderly sharing love. So, I know those are not loving passions which are messing me and playing with my mind.

A truly sexual drive is with love and self-control, and with God's guiding. Or it is not from God.

"rather let it be the hidden person of the heart, with the incorruptible beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is very precious in the sight of God." (1 Peter 5:3)

 

[Rhamiel]

sexual desire is part of a normal healthy life
do not let people shame you into denying a natural part of yourself.

at the same time, as a Christian, you know that acting on such impulses, while unmarried, is sinful

an active prayer life will help all parts of your life, so prayer is vital to your development as a human being

since your problem is physical in nature, I would recommend exercise, working out releases endorphins and might help balance out some of those hormones

----edit to add the thing about marriage, not implying that all sex is sinful------

 

[Rhamiel]

a word of encouragement to a sister in Christ

you have been celibate for a year, that is awesome!
be proud of that, focus on the positive

 

[Nanopants]

I would talk to a rational person who you can trust, who can help you think it through to minimize the psychological damage this does, and who won't recommend that you dismember yourself or force you into a state of cognitive dissonance.

Better to keep it to yourself and friends/relatives/whoever you trust rather than rely on a social group that is more concerned about appearances and avoiding being judged than giving you sound advice.

And also remember that God isn't cruel and doesn't torment people this way... it's a screwed up world with screwed up people, and God was human too so there is mercy, understanding and forgiveness for people struggling, and even enough to straighten out your perspective on it.

 

[Saucy]

sexual desire is part of a normal healthy life
do not let people shame you into denying a natural part of yourself.

at the same time, as a Christian, you know that acting on such impulses, while unmarried, is sinful

an active prayer life will help all parts of your life, so prayer is vital to your development as a human being

since your problem is physical in nature, I would recommend exercise, working out releases endorphins and might help balance out some of those hormones

----edit to add the thing about marriage, not implying that all sex is sinful------

Agree with the bolded. Keep praying and keeping the faith as to not indulge in sin. It does help to talk to those close to you. I will be praying for you! And congrats on the year of celibacy.

 

[whitebeaches]

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