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Karli_romans828

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I guess when it comes to my Rape its a very hurtful subject. I even think I could have stopped it. Why did I alow this to happen? I just dont understand why everyone takes his side, even the judge! Please i need support and prayers!
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Karli_romans828 said:
I guess when it comes to my Rape its a very hurtful subject. I even think I could have stopped it. Why did I alow this to happen? I just dont understand why everyone takes his side, even the judge! Please i need support and prayers!
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I don't know but I don't think if you could have stopped it anyway. Blaming yourself couldn't help it anyway. And if he does it again and is taken to court again the judge is going to notice it and he won't take his side again so you still did a good thing.It infuriates me however that things like this happen at all . I will be praying for you.
 
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Karli, if you could've stopped it, you would have. Please at least give counseling a try. This is too big to try to hold it inside or deal with it on your own. You need someone you can talk to, and a trained counselor who has experience working with assault victims could be so much help to you. The people who took his side are wrong, wrong, wrong. I'm so sorry you're going through all this.
 
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Hello Karli,
You mentioned you felt maybe you could have preventedthis crime against you...
Are you aware that many people freeze (a light form of shock) when faced with crisis? You were experiencing a crisis and many survivors feel as you do. No, you would have stopped it if you could have. PLEASE do not torture yourself by blaming yourself in any way.My prayers are with you and so is GOD! My prayers will include that you may forgive yourself and allow god to take this away from you.
 
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Karli_romans828 said:
I guess when it comes to my Rape its a very hurtful subject. I even think I could have stopped it. Why did I alow this to happen? I just dont understand why everyone takes his side, even the judge! Please i need support and prayers!
Karli
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You did nothing to allow this happen Karli and in all its about power and control and please don't put yourself thru the trauma of the what ifs because it won't change anything. I'm praying for you and if u wanna talk PM me

- Shaz ( also a survivor)
 
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Karli_romans828 said:
I guess when it comes to my Rape its a very hurtful subject. I even think I could have stopped it. Why did I alow this to happen? I just dont understand why everyone takes his side, even the judge! Please i need support and prayers!
Karli
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I know what you are going through....In my case they didnt even open a case against him because there was NO physical evidence on me that anything happened. so honey just because everyone took his side and no yours doesnt mean that what he did was right and in no way justificies it...but you have to take that and say it happened i know it happened God forgave me for what happened (not that you did anything wrong). but God knows it wasnt your will and by no means your intention, so you have to take it and i know its hard but you have to move on. you cannot keep blaming yourself for a crim you didnt commit. i sought counselling and i am still in counselling...my counselor helps me through it 150% of the time...she has told me everything i am tellingyou. i cried for days after, i am still going through it because my period is late by 2 weeks. i took a test luckily its negative. but it messed up my whole menstration cycle and everything. hugs to you sweety just hold your head high and believe in God to get you through this!
 
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Remember everyone did not take the side of Lord Jesus either, men are foolish beings, do stupid things with their free will. I do not think you could have stopped it, for the simple reason of sudden confusion, be kind to yourself, because you are the temple of God.
 
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Yours is a burden that most sexual assault victims experience.

The sense of unworthiness is made so much worse when you are blamed. Tragic but true. Our legal systems are not perfect, and that can lead to a deep sense of injustice, of not being really heard and believed. The way to deal with that is to recognise that one day there will be a perfect judgement. No one ever gets away with wrong. God's judgement will be a terrible and final thing for many people , and a great healing for all victims of imjustice. Hope in that.

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